Recognizing Who We Really Are With The Help of a Personal Retreat

Recognizing Who We Really Are With The Help of a Personal Retreat

It’s isn’t easy to recognize who we really are without someone to bounce our self off of.Recognizing Who We Really Are With The Help of a Personal Retreat

I sat with a friend the other day and we were having a good conversation about either living in our ego or recognizing who we truly really are. Recognizing that we are spirit, pure love and living from that place is simply a practice. We are not going to be able to get up in the morning and go about our daily life without bringing our attention or intentions to living our life from a place of love.

When we live our life from an automatic place we end up falling into our ego minds. When we live from our ego mind it is from a place of fear. When we react from a fearful place it will not be from a loving place inside of us, and the people around us will not feel loved. This is why it is so important to slow down our lives and be intentional about coming from a place of love and not fear. When we come from a reactive fearful place and not a loving place, not only does it affect other people it affects us because we feel shame and guilt. If we feel shame and guilt, that is not feeling love for our self, so goes the cycle of not being able to live from who we truly are which is spirit or love.

The more I practice the better I get!

This last two weeks of my life have been filled with many events that have been so love packed that it is help to me live from who I truly am. There were also a couple of situations where my ego has sneaked in and created havoc and made me feel fearful. I think that this happens in our life where situations are going to happen that will activate our ego minds. The key to handling the situations are to recognize when our ego mind gets activated and to take action from a different place, which would be our true authentic self, which is love.

It’s not realistic to believe that you’re going to live on this planet at this moment without your ego being activated. It’s really what we do when this happens that is so important. It’s been such a great learning for me to recognize those moments and to act in a different way than just out of fear and drama and cause a big mess.

For me it’s easy to know when my ego is up because I don’t feel right in my body. As soon I recognize it and act from a more loving space I move myself back into alignment and feel differently in my body. I feel calmer, more at ease, more loving, more my true self.

If you want to learn to live from a place of love, give me a call or Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Debra Beck

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What Are We Worried About and Why?

What Are We Worried About and Why?

What is the story about our worrying? What Are We Worried About and Why

When we worry we are in fear. We worry mainly because we feel out of control in our life. We may worry about the weather being good for an event we have planned or if we are going to get a promotion. The reality is this is something we can’t control. We have choices every day around these types of worries. We have all experienced worry in some form or another. And we all know the type of person that is a What If person, a habitual worrier. If we are worrying we are imagining a worst-case scenario.

Sometimes when we understand the insanity of worry and how we create it ourselves, it makes it easier to let go of control. I remember when I was younger I used to worry that when I was older I would get cancer, like my mother did. And then I remember being in my late 20s thinking what is all this worrying doing? Is this worrying going to stop me from getting cancer? Worrying about this didn’t ensure me not getting cancer. Most likely my fear around this concern will draw it to me.

Another reason we have worry or anxiety is not taking care of unfinished business. I remember when I needed to complete my living trust, and every time I would get on a plane and fly somewhere I would be filled with anxiety and worry. It’s always a good idea to take care of unfinished business like this so you can truly let go. If you’re able to take an action to relieve worry then do so. But if it is a worry that you have no control over, letting go is the best.

If you are a chronic worrier you are releasing chemicals in your body that stress out your system and lower your immune system, consistently. Worry creates stress and stress lowers our immune system and allows disease to come into our bodies.

My suggestion is to look hard at what you’re worried about. If the worry is something that requires action, and the worry would go away if you took action, then do so. If the worry is something you simply do not have any control over, then just imagine with that scenario the best possible outcome. When we worry we are thinking the worst can happen, so this is something we can change in our minds.

If you worry a lot and want to change your mind set, give me a call or Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

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How Unexpressed Feelings Play Out

How Unexpressed Feelings Play Out

Unexpressed feelings usually play out in negative ways. How Unexpressed Feelings Play Out

As children we are are trained to not feel and stuff our negative emotions. Be a big girl, boys don’t cry, or that’s not that big of a deal, don’t be a baby. The world teaches us to be strong at all costs.

I remember when I was 26 years old and just divorced. My Mother died 6 months later and I had to buck up and be strong. Besides never being able to share my feelings when I was younger, then in that moment I wasn’t able to express my sadness, fear and high anxiety because I felt like I needed to be strong.

So, we keep stuffing and stuffing all of our emotions and feelings and we are shocked when these stuffed feelings come out in less than positive ways. We can only repress our feeling for so long before they surface eventually. In my Personal Retreats I teach people how to connect to their feelings and learn how to express them in a healthy way.

Here are ways that our unexpressed emotions play out:

  • We Care Take-When we take care of others by trying to fix their situation, it’s because we don’t want to feel our own feelings that are coming up. It’s also way easier to spend time on someone else’s problems than look at our emotions.
  • Stay Busy- If we are always busy, running from one commitment to the next, it’s impossible to be connected to how you feel.
  • Be Positive- Pretending that everything is always good, never allows unexpressed feelings to surface. Only allowing positive feelings to come out and discounting negative emotions, only creates more stuffing.
  • Rage Explosions- We can only keep our emotions or feelings contained for so long. Eventually those feelings will surface in anger through yelling or even worse physical violence.
  • Withdrawal or Depression- Both of these behaviors come from not expressing feelings and allowing them to sit inside us. When we have unexpressed feelings we may run away from the situation or feelings either physically or mentally.
  • Control Everything- The need to control everything that happens to you is because you want to actually control the way you feel. If I control this situation, I can feel good.
  • Hypochondriac- Constantly thinking your sick all the time could possibly be emotions sitting in your body for too long. You are either having real sickness that the stuffed emotions are creating or you just think you are sick to occupy your mind so that you don’t have to feel.
  • Being With The Wrong People- If you were with people that you could connect to, you would develop intimacy. It’s tough to have intimacy without feeling.
  • Everything is a Joke- Joking constantly is a way of avoiding how you are feeling. Look at me, everything is great, I’m laughing and having fun and maybe dying inside.
  • Stay Strong- As long as I’m strong and I can handle everything in my life, I don’t have to feel my feelings. I can handle it, is an exterior way of being that often indicates stuffed feelings.

If you are having a hard time being with or expressing your feelings, give me a call or Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

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How Hard is it to Sit and Be With Your Feelings

How Hard is it to Sit and Be With Your Feelings

Being with your feelings can seem impossible!

Sitting with your feelings can be extremely difficult, especially when those feelings come from deep-seated wounds. Let’s talk about the different things we do to get away from our feelings.How Hard is it to Sit and Be With Your Feelings

So looking at the things we consume to get away from our feelings could be:

  • Sugar, caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, food, prescription drugs, illegal drugs, chocolate, gum, candy, or soda.

Now let’s look at the things we do to get away from her feelings:

  • Shop, gamble, work, sex, relationships, binge, purge, affairs, care take, rescue, enable, fix, worry, spend, religion, music, TV, computer, exercise, blame, focus on others, criticize, judge, gossip, rage, depression, lecture, manipulate, control, keep secrets, thinking, keeping busy, focus on the negative, perfection, sleep, take things personally, bite nails, chew on objects, self-harm, isolate, withdraw, shut down, argue, fantasize, sarcasm.

Some of the things that we consume or do, seem pretty obvious, but some of them are very insidious. Some of the sneakier things we do to avoid our feelings are fixing others, focusing on the negative, criticizing, shutting down, taking things personally and blaming.

When our anxiety from a triggered situation gets so high, we go into autopilot and start medicating and don’t even know that we are doing it. We want to escape the anxiety, fear, or sadness so badly that we might do anything to get away from it.

It’s important to notice when you are fixing others, blaming others, withdrawing or any medication. When you notice this, immediately pause and notice what you are feeling. After pinpointing the feeling, sit with it, without the story, just the sensations of the feelings. What you will notice is that you will not want to sit with them for very long, you’ll want to escape them.

For whatever reason the feelings that we have around situations that trigger us are very intense. We are not used to sitting with our feelings, we are actually taught to ignore and stuff them. So this is a new way of being for us. Try sitting with the sensations until their exhausted, until they just lift. The only way to heal our old wounds is through the feelings and sensations not bypassing them.

If you would like to become aware of your feelings and how you avoid them, give me a call or Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

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Different Meditation Types and Benefits

Different Meditation Types and Benefits

There are so many different meditation types and the benefits are amazing.Different Meditation Types and Benefits

Meditation is a great tool for rebalancing ourselves. Sometimes just sitting in silence is enough to clear our minds and move through whatever funk we are in. We very seldom just sit in silence and watch our minds. We are usually on the go, getting things done physically and also on the go in our minds, not paying attention to the present moment. Meditation allows us to connect with our higher self and sit and watch our busy thoughts go by.

Check out the different types of meditations to experience.

 

Here are just a few:

  • Focused Attention-focusing on a single object. This may be the breath, a mantra, external objects or part of the body.
  • Open meditation- monitor all aspects of the experience, without any judgments or attachments.
  • Zen-seated on a mat or cushion in a lotus or half lotus position. Eyes focused on floor 3’ in front of you, watching thoughts go by.
  • Vipassana-this is similar to focused attention meditation, moving on to developing “clear insight” on bodily sensations and mental phenomena, observing but not clinging to any.
  • Mindfulness-this is intentionally focusing on the present moment, accepting all and not judging it, paying attention to sensations, thoughts and any emotions that arise.

Here are some of the benefits of meditation:

  1. Stress Reduction- The biggest impact that meditation has on our health is a reduction of stress. It has been proven that chronic stress causes all sorts of problems including high blood pressure, decreased immunity, and impaired cognitive function. When we have stress, our body releases the “stress hormone,” cortisol. Elevated levels of cortisol in your system are a problem on many levels and finding a way to reduce cortisol could help prevent a number of health issues. This is where meditation comes into play.
  2. Lower Blood Pressure- Meditation can help normalize blood pressure because of what’s called the “relaxation response,” which helps produce more of the compound nitric oxide. Nitric oxide helps blood vessels open which then helps reduce blood pressure.
  3. Increased Immunity- A healthy immune system is crucial to living a healthy life. A number of recent studies have shown that meditation can also play an integral role in maintaining and even strengthening your immune system.
  4. Brain Development- Quite a few studies have come out linking meditation with an increase in cortical thickness, an increase in grey matter in both the hippocampus and frontal areas, and an overall increase in brain volume. With medical imaging technology, researchers can actually watch what meditation does to the brain in real time and over an extended period of time.
  5. Irritable Bowel Syndrome- In 2011 a study published in theAmerican Journal of Gastroenterology shows that an 8-week program of meditation targets issues linked to IBS, such as anxiety, stress, and depression, and helped to reduce the severity of the IBS symptoms compared to a control group who did not participate in the meditation program.

You don’t have to meditate for hours to obtain results. As little as 5 minutes a day can make a difference. In all of my individual and couples retreats, I teach and incorporate meditation.

Hopefully this has helped you get more acquainted with the different types of meditation and their benefits.

If you would like to learn how to meditate in an individual retreat, let’s talk! Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

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Deciphering the Many Voices Inside Our Heads

Deciphering the Many Voices Inside Our Heads

How do we decipher the many voices inside our heads?Deciphering the Many Voices Inside Our Heads

Sometimes it feels as if we have many different personalities living within us, expressing different needs and desires. The voices seem to be distinct from each other. When I first start to work with a client and we begin to pull the different parts of the self away from one another, it can make you feel a little crazy. It’s not that you weren’t feeling a bit crazy before separating these voices out, but just in a completely different way.

When we start to identify the Ego/little girl and maybe the addict, we are able to become aware of the way they operate, therefore stop our behaviors. The process I use in mentoring or individual retreats is first understanding how we operate through our wounds. I teach people how to heal using their experiences from the outside.

Usually these different voices come out when we are triggered. The best thing to do in a triggered state is to do nothing! Pause, and maybe ask our ego voice what story it is wrapped up in, realize it is a story and don’t take any action. When you start to have an understanding of your inner voice and why you are reacting, you can then make the conscious decision to not react from that lower part of you. After you process, then and only then can you take action because it will be through your higher self.

It is always very important to recognize that every experience we are having in life is for our higher learning and has nothing to do with the actual situation at all. Most of the time it doesn’t matter which of the voices is chattering, if it’s the lower self, we need to make sure we don’t get hung up in the story it has created.

My retreats create sustainable shifts, which make it impossible to live through your limiting belief system anymore.

When you start to master being aware of the lower voices and not buying into the storyline, this is when the real healing starts to happen. Every time you don’t take action through the Ego mind, this part of yourself shrinks and the higher self expands. After my 3-Day Intensive Retreat you will know how these voices have interrupted your life and learn how to heal and start behaving differently.

If you would like to learn how to master your your inner voice, let’s talk! Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Debra Beck

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