Why do we fill the void inside us?
What do you do to fill that void inside of you when you are feeling totally disconnected from yourself?
In society we are actually encouraged to consume so that we don’t have to be in touch with their feelings. This could be the consumption of food or things. Do you ever consume chocolate, food, alcohol or caffeine to avoid possibly feeling tired or lonely? The same goes for shopping, exercising, gambling or blaming and arguing to avoid feeling sad or angry.
If we take the time to examine what’s going on deeper inside of us before reaching for the food or object that will medicate that feeling, we will get to know our self on a deeper level. All of these things that we consume only make us feel good for a brief moment and then we settled back into being sad or lonely.
These feelings that we’re having get us in touch with how disconnected we are from our true selves. When we stop the consumption and just allow ourselves to sink into the feelings, we connect with our true self. When we connect to that energy, we connect to source and who we are as spirit.
Once we decide to go inward instead of consume, we will be able to look at our behaviors from our higher self. We will be able to look at our patterns without the ego mind judging us and telling us to medicate to get away from them.
Boredom is a huge feeling that initiates eating, shopping or excessive Internet use. If we can learn how to deal with the boredom, that often goes deeper into our loneliness, we will be able to show up for ourselves in a different way. I find sitting with myself and telling myself that I’m right here to be with any feelings that I’m having, but me at peace. This isn’t about going outside myself to nurture, it’s about taking care of myself.
When we start showing up ourselves and being with ourselves through all of our feelings, this way of being will become second nature.
If you are looking for support around loving yourself and others, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion.
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“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)
Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)