It’s amazing how fast we react when we get triggered. If we are not constantly being the observer and watching ourselves the heat of the trigger can hijack us. It doesn’t matter if the feelings are anger, fear or sadness if we get hijacked because of our old belief system there is no healing there is only an expansion of the lower self.
If we get taken away by our triggers and into the story, we may find ourselves seeking revenge, isolating or just simply reacting to our emotional body in some way. All of these behaviors put us out of alignment and make us feel unbalanced.
It’s going to be very hard to recognize and handle your reactions if you’re not in a daily practice of being conscious. It’s important to pay attention in each moment what the universe is setting up for us for our higher learning. When we get triggered it’s just an opportunity to go deeper into our learning.
If possible, you need to recognize the trigger immediately and take two big deep breaths relaxing your body and relax your heart, this allows you a little bit of distance between the trigger and your emotions. It’s a chance to look at what old beliefs you are buying into. A few common old limiting beliefs are; I’m not good enough, I’m always doing something wrong, I’m inadequate, I’m not lovable.
When we scratch up against our limiting beliefs we get an emotional reaction, it’s critical that we observe what’s going on instead of being it. I love what Michael Singer of the Untethered Soul says about watching a movie. You know you’re not in the movie you know that you’re watching it, is the same with our life. Can you be the observer of your life and watch it instead of being it? When we get triggered we get sucked into our old beliefs and then we react. It’s important to just recognize that the trigger is simply rubbing up against our old beliefs that aren’t the truth.
Create a daily practice of observing this part of yourself wrapped up in the old beliefs that you have. Start the morning by setting an intention to notice when you’re acting out of your lower self and at the end of day with seeing where you fell down.
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