How to achieve peace through a personal retreat!  Most of the time we look outside of ourselves at the world full of chaos and we feel compelled to transform that situation so that we can have inner peace. We often become very disappointed because our attempts to change the outside world only bring us frustration and more friction inside of...

What is the message we might be missing when we try to get rid of our physical or emotional pain? When we feel pain whether it is physical or emotional, our first impulse is to get relief. When we are feeling emotional pain we tend to medicate with drugs, alcohol, shopping, fixing others, complaining or a multitude of other ways to get relief....

Is it possible to break through our fears and make healthier choices in our life? I have a client that is totally debilitated by her fear. The decisions that she mostly makes are based on making sure she doesn't touch up against her fear. The problem with that she's in a pattern of doing things where she doesn't take care of herself thereby...

How difficult is of is being a single parent? When my girls were four and five I became a single parent. I had no idea what was ahead of me, the difficulties I would face. I was single for 14 years, through their teenage years. The most difficult part of being a single parent for me was the lack of support. Their father barely took them and the...

How healthy are your relationships?  Unhealthy relationships are everywhere. Look at your relationships with your primary partner, in the workplace, on social media, with your family, and of course with your friends. Being in an unhealthy relationship can look different ways. Unhealthy can be abusive verbally or physically, being shut out, or if...

Why rushing through life doesn't work for most of us.  Throughout our life we are taught that getting things done quickly is important. “Don’t waste time, time is money,” etc. So we find ourselves racing through our lives trying to get as much as possible done. Yet as we hurry through our day in search of a sense of being productive and being...

How do you perceive your life?   People who seem content and happy aren’t necessarily blessed with success, love, or abundance. I used to travel to Mexico for business and something I recognized there was that a lot of the people in Mexico didn't have a lot of materialistic things and yet they seemed so happy. When I look at people here in the...

Are you in this phase of life with your aging parents?  Life gets pretty real when parents start aging and need assistance. This process can be both a challenge and a blessing. I have seen many clients go through this cycle with their parents. For me both of my parents died relatively young, my mother at 56 and my father at 61. So this wasn’t...

Can we change the things that trigger us?  There is always going to be situations and people in our lives that trigger us that we can't control. It's more about how we respond to these people or situations that determine how we feel in our lives. The amount of suffering we do is in reference to how much we take things personally and try to...

How difficult is it to maintain a state of inner calm when the world seems to be falling apart? We live in a world of high stimuli, both physically and emotionally. It isn't easy to find the calm within. This has been one of my biggest learning’s, to let go, and surrender so that I can feel my inner calm. Life is going to be life, and what life...

What will it take to be ready for love?  Do you have love in your life? Is it the love you want? Do you feel like it’s not enough? I hear from my married clients that their partners are not fulfilling them; they aren’t affectionate enough or present. When I hear this I usually ask them “are you fulfilling yourself, are you giving yourself all the...

Let's look at our actions, whether active or passive. Everything in our life that comes to fruition is because of an action we either take or an action we don't take. The thoughts we think, the words we speak and of course the actions we take contributes to how our life unfolds. All of our actions whether taken or not, affect not just our lives...

Why are we so afraid of being honest with our self? When we look at our life truthfully rather than sticking our head in the sand we keep things circulating. When things are moving forward we create a flow that keeps things moving in a more positive direction. Most of us have experienced a time where we are withholding the truth either from...

Can we shift our attitude in the blink of an eye? How easy is it for us to be totally excited and having a good time, when BOOM something happens to trigger us and we go sour. We know how fast our mood changes when something happens that rubs up against us the wrong way. So why can't we change our mood back just as fast? It seems that once we get...

Is changing your partner your job? How many times do we enter into a relationship with the idea that we are going to change the behavior or fix the person we are with? I don't believe we do it consciously, most of the time we do it unconsciously. When we go into relationship, we have this idea of what we want and then we proceed to try to fit...

Why is disappointment so hard to handle?  Disappointment is such a part of life. We usually feel disappointment because we have an expectation of how things need to turn out and they don't. When things don't go as planned we may feel an entire range of emotions from being sad from the let down to even angry. Whether we are feeling disappointed...

Is this year going to be a year where you renew and reset or is it a year to keep going in circles?  Here we are at the start of a new year and asking ourselves once again what our resolutions are, what our intentions are or how we want to show up in the year to come. Starting the year with a personal retreat can set the stage for powerful new...

The difficult times in life, are just opportunities! Every time something happens in my life that causes a constriction, the first thing I do is look at what my learning might be. I know how hard it is to maintain a positive attitude when things aren't going our way. I know I used to believe that when bad things happen to me that God or Source...

Do you need a personal retreat for your renewal?  Allowing our self the time needed to rejuvenate, reflect and heal is always a powerful way to process our issues in our lives. The best way I know of to do this is to find a retreat that's right for you. The minute we scheduled a retreat and our intentions are set to heal, the healing process...

Happy Holidays! I want to wish you a Happy Holiday Season. I am so grateful for you being in my life at all levels. Whether you are a client or a reader of my blogs to help you aide in your personal growth. I love that there is a growing community of people wanting to be the best version of them selves. I have learned so much about myself through...

Meditation and breathing have become a critical part of my personal retreats because of the advantages they produce. In my personal retreats a very important element is meditation. There are many different ways to meditate. Some of my favorites are transcendental meditation; verbalizing a mantra or primordial sound, diaphragm breathing or...

What would it look like to be more connected to yourself and your partner? Something I hear from clients a lot is that they want a deeper relationship with their partner or they aren’t willing to go into a relationship unless it offers some depth. I personally have been in a few relationships that were fun and I learned a lot about myself, but...

When we step back and do our spiritual work first to get the answers, the answers will come from love and it usually is a win win situation. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the situation that it's hard to get the answers we need while swirling around in the drama. Have you ever been in a situation where you're in this fight or flight and you...

Can we raise boys to be good men?  Learning how to be a good man first at Sedona Soul Retreats, might be a good start. As parents or grandparents do we have a responsibility to teach boys certain things to guarantee they develop into good men? It’s funny because a friend of mine has 2 boys and I remember thinking how lucky she was not to be...

Do you  know yourself well enough to listen to your Inner Knowing, This is the essence of my work during your Sedona Retreat with me. As long as I can remember, I have had this inner feeling of knowing. It has taken me a long time to learn how to tune into this place and listen. I used to get the feeling inside my body of just being off and...

How often are you having regret and would like to learn about it in a Sedona Retreat? How many things in your life can you look back on a say “If I would have done that differently, it would have been way better?” If you would have sold your house a year earlier, bought investment property when the market was low, communicated better on a...

Are you stronger than we think or are you hanging on by a thread?  Just when we think we can't take it anymore, life pushes us a little further and we come out the other end. We all have times in her life where we feel like we couldn't possibly handle anymore and we can't go on. Sometimes after just making it over a huge obstacle we find another...

What does surrendering look like to you? In my Sedona Retreat you will learn how to response from a place of pease and not react from your ego mind. Have you ever heard the phrase “That which you resist persists?” When we resist we actually strengthen what we are opposing. We give power to the very thing we are trying to get away from. Have you...

In a Sedona Soul Retreat you can see how pain might be your teacher. Is both emotional and physical pain a reminder to slow down, pay attention and look at what is going on in our life? It's interesting how with both physical and emotional pain we immediately go to this place of making it stop. We are a culture of looking at the symptom and...

There are so many spiritual things to do in Sedona    Sedona is a spiritual hub for healing. The land alone has active healing properties. If you are looking for spiritual things to do in Sedona you won't be lacking. There are mystic land tours, vortex tours, crystal healing massages, psychic readings, and any other mind body spirit modality...

A Soul Retrieval could be added to your list of things to do in Sedona! There are so many things to do in Sedona that are both entertaining and healing. If you want to go on a land adventure, there are jeep tours, land tours, Segway tour, hiking and swimming in the creek. If you are looking for healing, Sedona is also an amazing place to come for...

Is saying no for self-care selfish? Why is it so difficult for women to put themselves first? It is also very difficult for us to say no even when it's good for us. It is so important for us to learn when to say no to take care of ourselves. We don't know the instructions when we fly, if are flying with a child if something happens we are...

How to use my life as my spiritual Guru! At one point in my life I thought I wanted a Guru to help me with my spiritual guidance. Even though I have a teacher that holds me accountable, I have come to realize that life experiences are my true teachers and guru. If I treat life experiences like the opportunities that they are to grow and expand my...

How do we live our life in alignment with a partner?  What does it look like to be in relationship and stay in alignment with yourself? I used to go into relationships without looking at a few key points that might play a part in the relationship working. I think that for the most part people go into relationship because they have an outer...

How easy would it be to make your home a haven? Many of us believe that to get relaxation we need to leave our homes. What ends up happening is that we are always working and saving for a vacation so we can go and relax. What if your home was a place you could come home to and rejuvenate and relax. How do we experience the state of relaxation...

Are you living from a higher place in yourself?  How do we stay centered incomplete chaos? When things are upside down in our life it's tough to hear that inner voice that has all the wisdom. This is my meditation is so important, to be able to sit in silence, breathing, allowing that higher place in us to show up. We know that our ego minds will...

How hard is it for you to trust your feeling? Is it easy for you to stay open-minded? Being open-minded means that you're willing to look at everything, including the things that you have discomfort with. This means challenging your beliefs and values at any given moment. Then after you really examine your feelings about a situation, then and...

When you are reacting in this present moment can you connect it to your past? Our experiences from our past can influence our behavior in our present life. If we have unhealed wounds from our childhood they will show up in our adult life in a messy way. Our past experiences also have a profound effect on how we view the world and our lives now....

Are we responsible for others? Or are we responsible for ourself? Let's talk about the responsibility that our ego mind has us acting out of and how it affects our life. I have done a fair amount of research by talking to mental health practitioners, doctors, psychotherapists, and read many books on this subject. This is one of the main topics in...

Is your spiritual practice a priority? We live in a very hectic, stimulating world where we have schedules and routines for everything. We have a work schedule mixed in with our personal schedule, which can be anything from our workouts, doctor’s appointments and any other obligations. We are always trying to be as productive as possible so...

WOW! I have been on this planet 60 years and my learning has been exponential. I turned 60 years old Sunday, June 25, wow! This is what 60 plus looks like. I never thought it would. When I look at my learning, it has been such a progression and feels like it's in hyper drive. Not just this lifetime but also many lifetimes before that have led to...

Why do we think we are really in control, when clearly we aren't? What does it mean to trust in the universe and surrender and I think this is an easy statement let go? To say “oh I trust in the universe.” but what does it really mean? I have been dealing with the personal situation that has been really testing my ability to surrender to source,...

It's isn't easy to recognize who we really are without someone to bounce our self off of. I sat with a friend the other day and we were having a good conversation about either living in our ego or recognizing who we truly really are. Recognizing that we are spirit, pure love and living from that place is simply a practice. We are not going to be...

What is the story about our worrying?  When we worry we are in fear. We worry mainly because we feel out of control in our life. We may worry about the weather being good for an event we have planned or if we are going to get a promotion. The reality is this is something we can't control. We have choices every day around these types of worries....

Unexpressed feelings usually play out in negative ways.  As children we are are trained to not feel and stuff our negative emotions. Be a big girl, boys don’t cry, or that’s not that big of a deal, don’t be a baby. The world teaches us to be strong at all costs. I remember when I was 26 years old and just divorced. My Mother died 6 months later...

Being with your feelings can seem impossible! Sitting with your feelings can be extremely difficult, especially when those feelings come from deep-seated wounds. Let's talk about the different things we do to get away from our feelings. So looking at the things we consume to get away from our feelings could be: Sugar, caffeine, nicotine, alcohol,...

There are so many different meditation types and the benefits are amazing. Meditation is a great tool for rebalancing ourselves. Sometimes just sitting in silence is enough to clear our minds and move through whatever funk we are in. We very seldom just sit in silence and watch our minds. We are usually on the go, getting things done physically...

How do we decipher the many voices inside our heads? Sometimes it feels as if we have many different personalities living within us, expressing different needs and desires. The voices seem to be distinct from each other. When I first start to work with a client and we begin to pull the different parts of the self away from one another, it can...

What does caring for our body, mind and spirit look like? How do we blend the care for our body our mind and our spirit? Our body is our temple and it deserves love and caring. On a physical level, caring for our body means eating the right foods that nourish us, exercising, and getting enough sleep. It also means loving and accepting the way our...

How do we work through our pain and heal our unhealed wounds? Throughout our life it is hard to realize how our unhealed wounds affect us. If we are processing and really paying attention to our behaviors, it will be easier to recognize what woundedness we have ignored. Many of us are aware of this underlying current of either pain, anxiety or...

Do you have a daily practice or ceremony to start  and end your day? When we have a daily practice or ceremony it brings us into our awakened consciousness. Instead of just waking up in the morning and running for your coffee, try first stretching and smiling before you get out of bed. Then maybe brush her teeth and sit for a moment and...

What is the point of complaining? Does it fix things? Why do you think we complain or obsessively talk about an issue? I hear a lot of people say they are processing through it, getting it out of their system. On the contrary, agonizing over something doesn’t get it out of your body it actually makes it grow bigger. I think if we are trying to...

Handling conflict in your life can be tricky. How do you do it? When conflict arises and you may possibly feel the heat of emotions, do you act out or bring your emotions in? When that initial heat of a trigger happens, if we can bring our minds to compassion and love instead of anger, it immediately diffuses the trigger. When we go to love and...

Learn how to slow down in a personal retreat. What's your rush? My first idea for this article was regarding dating, but what I realized as I began to write that it is also about life. Why are we in such a hurry to get things done and move on to the next thing? And why is it that when we meet someone we are in a hurry to make it something solid;...

Learn how to speak your truth in a personal retreat. In this arena of consciousness, I hear some people say they didn’t say something to someone because they didn’t want to hurt their feelings. If we go deeper into this, we might realize that we didn’t speak our truth because of the reaction we might get from the person we are speaking our truth...

How to shift your perspective in life in a personal  or couples retreat to lead a more joyous life. Have you noticed that certain people move through their life with joy and ease, while others seem to be always wrapped up in the drama of what life can be? People that are more joyous and content with their life don't necessarily have more...

Find out why things happen in your life through a personal retreat.  It is easy for us to become overwhelmed with the complexity and challenges of our life. When things are not going our way and seem to be reeling out of control, we may become anxious, angry, or shut down. Looking at just the situation and not looking at why the situation is...

Why is touch is so important?  Touch signals safety and trust and it actually soothes us mentally and physically. If you are in a stressful situation and the person consoling you gently touches you, your body and mental mind will naturally think things are going to be okay. Touch is so important in so many ways. Here are just a few of the...

The most important relationship in your life is you. Learn about it in an Individual Retreat. The most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves. We are the only ones that witnesses our life every step of the way. The relationship we have with ourselves is the most intimate relationship we will ever have. There is not going to be...

Working through your resentment in a retreat, can be life changing! We have the habit of creating expectations in almost every situation. When things don’t go according to plan, we can become angry and resentful. These expectations often get projected on to others. When others don’t meet our expectations, there is often a feeling of loss. Loss...

How can we use our pain as our teacher? In many of my Sedona soul retreats, my clients complain about habitual pain they’ve experienced in their bodies. No matter what they do they can’t seem to rid themselves of it. First, just knowing that pain comes and goes, to acknowledge its impermanent nature is helpful. Most people will feel pain at some...

What is your assignment in this lifetime? Explore it in a personal retreat! Do you believe you are here for a reason? Do you think that the reason is very specific? We all have a specific assignment here. It could be in the field of medicine, real estate, art, food, politics, or raising our children. Whatever the assignment is, we know it to be...

Learning the Importance of keeping your vibration high in a personal retreat. Sometimes, our beliefs can work against us. Shifting these beliefs can increase our quality of life and our vibration many times. In an individual retreat, I teach how to shift those beliefs. And why is this so important? If you buy into a belief system that makes you...

Do you sometimes feel like a hamster on a wheel when it comes to communicating with your Partner? Coming to a couples retreat in Sedona might be right for you! How do you create intimacy in a relationship where two people are very different in their approach to communication? Men and women naturally tend to relate differently. Women are more...

A great place to tackle your Ego mind is in a Sedona Soul Retrieval Retreat! Do we have control over our Ego mind? It’s always so bazaar to me that I have something inside of me, my mind, that I don't seem readily able to control. When insecurities come up that trigger us, we start acting out of this unconscious part of our self. Then, when we...

How does your relationships play a part in choosing love over fear? If you're brave enough, you will tackle your Ego mind through your current primary relationship. I use the word bravery because you have to be willing to look at all that dark stuff we don’t like to admit is in us. I'm always excited at what a relationship teaches me about...

What does it look Like to be one with the universe and others? If we look at our life on this physical plane, with our material things and our physical bodies, it appears that we are all separate. I get up in the morning in my own body and can’t feel other people's bodies. I wake up in my own home and can’t see into other people's homes. So...

Why is Living in the Present Moment so Important? When we are living in the past, we may feel regretful, guilty or we may feel sad. All of these thoughts and feelings bring us suffering. When we live in the future, it may also cause suffering because we are trying to achieve something or get something we don’t have right now. Either way,...

Is a Sedona Bed and Breakfast right for you?  There are so many places to stay in this sacred place called Sedona Arizona. I guess it just depends on what you are looking for exactly. Is it a resort feel? Do you like staying in a room in someone’s home? Is it a Best Western or another hotel chain? Is it a bed and breakfast, where you are...

Relationships are amazing for our personal growth? Every couple that finishes my couples retreat, gets to experience the importance of being in relationship with their partner. A client of mine reads a certain teacher whose name I won’t mention and the client read something about relationships being Ugly! My client is pretty anti relationship. So...

So lets look at how our physical body feels connected to our thoughts? Our mind is a powerful thing. Our beliefs, whether they be old or brand new, will create the life we want. We have to be careful what we think. I am always so amazed that I have this thing inside of me that for the most part I have very little control over. Even though our...

If we are feeling lonely, it is because of our separation from Source! I think we all have days with a hint of loneliness, and sometimes even utter loneliness and separation from everyone including ourselves. This idea that we are actually all alone comes from buying into the illusion that we are separate from all the other separate people we see...

Is it possible to create a passionate life through a personal retreat? YES! Most of the people who come to me are suffering with a less than fulfilling life. Their number one complaint is feeling dead inside and their life doesn’t seem to be working for them. They are also not sure how to continue living with these feelings for the rest of their...

I think we all would like to Avoid drama in our life, right? What is drama? Drama is a conversation that simply goes nowhere. Both parties try really heard to make their point, as they feel as though they are right. When conversation escalates, thoughts and feelings can often lead to aggravation and frustration. We often lack mindfulness in these...

Are you learning from your life Challenges? Have you ever found yourself climbing over one big obstacle and you barely make it over that one when you see the next one lined up and ready to go? It’s exhausting just thinking about it, let alone going through each one, whether it’s an illness, a divorce, a difficult situation with a partner or kids,...

This is another article I did in the Imagine magazine about having empathy. To view the rest of the magazine, see the link below. Got Empathy?  Is empathy something that some people are naturally born with and others aren’t? Is it a learned trait or an inherent quality to be brought forward? How can we help our youth deepen in empathy? There is a...

Here are a few daily practices to help you stay connected to your HIgher Self! I was talking with a client the other day and she hadn’t seen me for about three months and was really living out of her lower self/little girl. Things got very busy at work and she had some family issues come up. When things get busy and issues with family, work, or...

Is it possible to be peaceful out in the world if we don not have Peace inside ourself?  When looking out into the world, what we see out there shows us where we are as a collective consciousness, because the way we interpret the world is an indication of what is going on inside of us. So, if we see people treating each other without care, it’s...

How do we stay positive around people that are wrapped up in the drama of situations? If you’ve made the commitment to think positive no matter what, you’ll need to keep an eye out for triggers that could spark your inner negativity. We all have them. A bad day at work, a fight with your spouse or even a nasty cold virus could get you feeling all...