How do we stay positive around people that are wrapped up in the drama of situations? If you’ve made the commitment to think positive no matter what, you’ll need to keep an eye out for triggers that could spark your inner negativity. We all have them. A bad day at work, a fight with your spouse or even a nasty cold virus could get you feeling all...

Do you have guilt when you take time for yourself? What does it look like to take care of yourself first, then attend to others? Most women think putting yourself first is selfish. They might even be called selfish, self absorbed, or narcissistic. Many men can go to work, go to the gym afterwards, come home and relax and it’s perfectly normal,...

Do all the events in our life have a purpose for our higher learning? I was just talking to a client this morning and she was thinking about getting a job. She is a mother of four and her husband works full time. She wanted a job to bring in some extra money while she completes courses to become a coach. She has a lot on her plate with the kids...

What does it look like to co-create with the Universe by surrendering to spiritual guidance? Surrendering to the natural process of co-creating with the universe is easier said than done. This surrendering thing puts us control freaks on edge, right? Who are we surrendering to? It seems, at times, that it is easier to give it up to a real person...

How Does Being Alone Feel to You? I am talking again about being alone because as the holidays were upon us, many of my clients expressed deep feelings of sadness around not having family or friends and how they were feeling utterly alone. This “alone” thing seems to be a big one for many. Being alone isn't difficult for everyone. In fact, for...

Empathy is the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing, i.e., the capacity to place oneself in another's position. Is empathy something that some people are born with and some aren’t? Is it a learned trait? Can we teach our children how to have empathy? There is a significant amount of research indicating that the...

Do you and your partner communicate? Does your partner listen to you? Do you feel like you and your partner are drifting further and further apart? Do you long for a closer, more connected relationship? Relationships are not easy. They bring up our childhood wounding and actually make us behave more like a child. If communication, hearing each...

The holidays are upon us again and being with family can be quite challenging. How do we stay in a place of love and have a good time during the holiday season? Is it even possible? It is so funny how excited we get to spend time with family only to come unglued when we are together because they do such annoying things. So, our families are going...

Teens are selfish by nature. Their brains haven’t yet fully developed, which means that it will take them time to grow into the caring individuals they have the potential to become. We can help them become the best possible versions of themselves by teaching proper values from a young age. One of those values is realizing the importance of...

It’s amazing what we will do to not acknowledge, avoid, or get away from our feelings. Why is this? The answer is because we dislike how they feel. We only want to feel good things and when something comes up in our minds and bodies that feels uneasy, anxious, terrifying, sad, hopeless, etc., we push it away. Is it possible only to feel good all...

“Life is available only in the present moment.” -Thich Nhat Hanh I love these quotes because I know that true joy and aliveness come from being present in the only moment we truly ever have, this Moment! We are so trained to live in the past and the future. Look at our careers. We look at how we can get ahead, move up the ladder so we can earn...

How do we release ourselves and grow from our experiences of suffering rather than become more constricted?  Is a personal retreat a way through?   I wrote this blog one year ago and I just love the information. I added a few things and decided to repost it. I hope you enjoy it. In my personal retreat you will learn how to see how your suffering...

When we are 20 years old, we think we are invincible.  Our body looks good and strong.  Even though our emotions are all over the place, we can stuff them so deep that we hardly even know that they are there. It’s a pattern we have followed since childhood. This response may work for us until we are well into our 30s. And then things change....

How do we stay out of the drama of life and take that drama and move into a place of higher conscious learning? First what is drama? Drama is conceived through getting wrapped up in a situation that happens instead of looking at why it is happening. Let's say someone treats me with disrespect. If I lament about the situation and say things like,...

In each situation where we are triggered we have the opportunity to lean into love or fear. In the moment of the trigger we usually react without thinking about what is going on inside of us. It is such an automatic reaction from our lower self/inner child that stems from a place of fear. When we are in fear, we could possibly react negatively...

What I have come to see through my spiritual retreats and mentoring is that something starts to shift in women around 40 years old. They start feeling unsettled with the way their life is and feel a deep need to explore themselves in a more authentic way. They feel stuck and realize that their life doesn’t seem to be working for them living the...

How loud is your inner critic? Mine can be very persistent and loud. The inner critic is the part of your little girl that doesn’t feel lovable. “You’re aging too fast” “You have so many wrinkles” “You’re flabby” “You’re not smart enough” “No one will ever love you” Geez, give me a break! With the teens that I mentor, I tell them it’s the...

First of all, let’s look at the ego mind, which I also refer to as the inner child or our thoughts. Ego/inner child/thoughts are all the same. All of our suffering comes from our ego mind. If we are living in our higher self or adult self, we wouldn’t be suffering. I usually talk about the inner child because it is easier to understand than the...

Let's look at being an adult in your relationships. Whether it be in your partnership, friends, or with your children and how a personal retreat can change your outlooks and reactions to those around you. How do you behave when you get triggered? Do you shut down and walk away? Do you yell and spew your anger? Do you shut down completely and...

There is a lot written about letting go of your ego, diminishing the ego, or shifting limiting beliefs. The ego is our thoughts, the inner child, as well as our limiting beliefs. It’s very true that for us to live more authentically, we will have to let go of our ego and shift our negative limited beliefs. The work we do through my individual...

It’s been said that love blinds people. It creates intoxicating feelings of attraction, and for someone with low self-esteem, this blinding effect can have devastating results. Being in abusive relationships can completely play havoc or destroy a person's life. Usually abusive relationships start in the early years of dating as a teen and then...

Happy New Year Everyone, what an amazing year it has been for growth for myself and for my clients.  When I look back it seems as though everything has been in hyper-drive. We live in a world where stimulation runs rampant.  The day to day stuff can absorb us and leave us feeling disconnected and totally alone, if we let it. It is so important to...

“She is so vain.” “He is such an idiot.” “My boss is completely out of touch with reality.” Every time we put our attention to what is happening out there, we miss what is going on inside of ourselves. Slamming others is a great way to avoid our feelings. If we talk about or think about the other person’s actions, we will never look at how we...

Many of us have the belief that we are doing something wrong or that there is something wrong with us. This old belief could come from growing up in a family where no matter what you did, it was wrong, or someone was trying to fix you instead of addressing the issues going on in the family unit. I grew up with an alcoholic father and a very...

How do we release ourselves and grow from our experiences of suffering rather than become more constricted?      Start to view suffering as an opportunity for your inner child to grow up.  The experiences of life are an opportunity to become empowered, conscious, and a more compassionate person. We can begin to train our minds to see...

Are you taking responsibility for yourself? Getting stuck in the drama of our lives means we get wrapped up in a situation and our feelings about it and aren’t able to see what’s happening. An example could be someone at work making a remark and you feel disregarded. You could say, “She is terrible. How could she say that to me? She is...

When something happens in our life that triggers us, we usually try to keep from feeling the feelings that arose from the trigger.  To avoid these feelings, we may medicate ourselves by using alcohol, shopping, TV, working, or exercising, slamming the person who triggered us to friends or reacting or projecting onto someone else. This type of...

Of all the people we can be hard on, we tend to be our own worst critics. At times when we are healing ourselves, it can be very difficult to give ourselves a break. If we feel ourselves start punishing our inner child by yelling at her or getting upset, especially when she is acting out, we need to take a breath and give ourselves a break. We...

When life experiences happen, our first tendency is to look at what is happening from outside of us.  If something happens that we are uncomfortable with, we look at the person or the situation and think that if that person or situation could change, we would feel better. That is going outside of yourself for how you feel. If we look for change...