In each situation where we are triggered we have the opportunity to lean into love or fear. In the moment of the trigger we usually react without thinking about what is going on inside of us. It is such an automatic reaction from our lower self/inner child that stems from a place of fear. When we are in fear, we could possibly react negatively and the outcome of our reaction is normally not positive.
Love comes from our higher self. Love is connected to the universe, God, source, whatever your higher power is. Love is trusting that everything is perfect exactly the way it is, and every experience is for our greater good and learning.
How do we lean into love instead of fear through our inner guidance?
The first thing we have to do is, when we are triggered, we have to pause and stop ourself dead in our tracks. If we get triggered and there is no pause, we will react from our scared little girl that is coming from a place of fear. So, the second you feel a contraction in your body, your little girl will start creating a story. If you get highjacked by your little girl, you’re in FEAR! It’s the PAUSE that is going to save you.
In the pause, you’re going to take a few deep breathes and from that higher place of being, tell your scared little girl, she is safe and you’re not buying into the story. In the moment it’s important not to react from that fearful place. That’s where the drama happens and we create a bit of a mess.
After you’re out of the situation, you need to see what feelings your little girl was experiencing around the trigger. It may start with anger or frustration. If you go deeper into the feelings, it’s usually sadness, fear, or disappointment. If you can get to the deeper feelings, this is where the compassion is. If we can feel compassion for our little girl, we will be able to transfer that compassion to the person that triggered us. We will be able to see the mirror.
It is in the compassion for ourself and others that we can sink into the LOVE!
This process takes practice; it won’t come organically at first. The more you practice, the better you get and the easier it will be to move straight into a place of love from fear.
I practice all the time because I want to show up for others and myself through my heart. It feels better for me and it feels better for others when I come from a place of love.
