How important is “You Time” for your well-being?
I find it so critical to carve out time for only me during each day. It can be reading, meditating, being with friends, or doing anything that is relaxing. We act like a bottomless pit of energy that can keep going without renewal. Constantly filling our schedule with a long list of things we need to accomplish without considering how we are feeling. When we move through our days like this we often feel depleted, exhausted and totally disconnected from others and ourselves.
Most of us wear so many hats that is hard to find downtime and take care of ourselves. To truly be big in the world we need to make sure we are rejuvenating, not just checking things off our list. Besides taking care of yourself daily, and annual rejuvenating retreat, where you get away for 3 to 5 days is a great way to fill your cup back up. I think retreats are wonderful because they force you to let go of your long list and just concentrate on yourself.
What normally happens in our day-to-day lives is our intentions are great to carve out a specific time for ourselves and then something that appears to be more important takes its place. This is why I make sure when I first wake up; the first hour is for me only. I meditate, stretch and read a little. I also try to end my workday at a reasonable time and take time in the evening to relax.
Women have a tendency to feel guilty or selfish when they take time for themselves. I have noticed that men have an easier time with this. Most of the time women even when they work they carry a larger load at home. It’s important to set boundaries around shared duties within the family team, because if this isn’t done the burden usually will fall on the woman.
When we are go-go going and not taking time to rejuvenate, we get exhausted and cranky. It is crucial for our well-being to make sure we have enough time for our self each day. And during this time for just you, you will get to hear what’s going on inside of you for your personal growth. When you are constantly on the go your personal growth gets ignored.
If you are looking for support around taking care of yourself, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion.