Of all the people we can be hard on, we tend to be our own worst critics. At times when we are healing ourselves, it can be very difficult to give ourselves a break.
If we feel ourselves start punishing our inner child by yelling at her or getting upset, especially when she is acting out, we need to take a breath and give ourselves a break. We are human, and change and healing take time. When we start the process to grow up our inner child, we are bound to meet obstacles. Those old beliefs that were created from our inner child have been around for a long time and will take a lot of practice to shift. We have to be gentle with ourselves while also setting good boundaries.
I have a client who works very hard at her self-development. She was raised by parents who didn’t except anything less than perfection. When she falls back into old patterns, which we all do because we are a work in progress, she beats herself up terribly.
Every time we punish ourselves for making a mistake, we are rewounding our little girl. My client’s parents expected perfection from her and so does my client with herself.
Healing our old beliefs is having understanding and compassion for that inner child and letting her know that you are not buying into the old beliefs. If we can’t have compassion for ourself and our little girl, it will be tough to shift old patterns, and we will never be able to feel compassion for others.
We don’t want our wounded little girl to run our lives or allow our belief systems to run rampant, but we also don’t want to drive ourselves crazy and feel like a fix-it-project.
Most progress comes when we are consistent and also kind to ourselves on our path to healing. We don’t need more wounds! The key to a happier and healthier you means you are relaxing into yourself more as you naturally are, not where you expect yourself to be. Take a deep breath and know that everything is lined up perfectly for your growth.
Healing yourself requires having kindness and compassion for your own situation, and for yourself. Take a moment for yourself and check in with the old belief systems as they come up, but remember –
There is nothing to fIx-Give yourself a break!
