Do we all have trauma?  I have been studying trauma and the effects and listening to Dr. Gabor Mate for many years. If you haven’t seen his new documentary Wisdom of Trauma, I highly recommend it. Many people associate being traumatized with experiencing childhood abuse. Nonetheless, a parent doesn’t have to purposefully harm their child to...

Avoiding your feelings can create an unhealthy environment in your mind and in your body. But the worst thing that avoiding your feelings does is takes away the opportunity for you to look at what's going on in a much deeper way and grow from the experience. Potent emotions can be extremely challenging especially when there are many crazy...

Getting centered during the Covid 19 Pandemic: How can a Personalized Sedona Soul Retrieval Remote Retreat can help bring you back to center? Hello Everyone, it has been a while since I have connected and I hope you and your family are safe and well. This time in history has brought up a lot of old wounding and beliefs around aloneness and safety...

It's important to manage our fears regarding the Corona Virus! There is an extreme amount of fear circulating with everyone regarding this virus and our economic situation. I notice it rumbling in my body throughout the day. It is critical that we learn to manage this anxiety by going inward not outward. When we look at the situation outside of...

Looking at the benefits of being in relationship and not being in one. To be single or be in a relationship is such a personal preference. One isn't better than the other; it's just a choice that's made. There isn’t a right or wrong way to life regarding being single or being in relationship. Both ways have benefits and downfalls. One benefit of...

 Do you love and accept yourself? When we label our actions or ourselves good or bad we are seeing things through our lower mind. The choices that we make can certainly lead us in a direction that may not be in our highest good, although it may be for our higher learning. If one of our choices leads to an unfavorable outcome, we have the...

 Are you dating consciously? I have been single quite a bit throughout my life and while my other friends were dating miserably, I was enjoying myself. For me it was an opportunity to get to know someone different and to hone in my skills of being conscious of human behavior. Not only conscious of  the behavior of someone else but mostly my own...

 Why are you being so hard on yourself? Why are we so hard on ourselves and what damage does it do to our sense of self? Most of us are consistently tough on ourselves without even realizing it.  We do this in subtle and overt ways that if we pay attention we will be able to catch ourselves in the process.  Recognizing our action and behaviors...

 How do you look at our self worth? It seems we all come into the world with the belief that we are not good enough; that something is wrong with us.  And we base how we feel about ourselves on what accomplishments we are making out there in the world.  If we don’t have a job that is successful, a nice house, a perfect relationship, and a good...

The power of being present! When we live in the present moment, we take ourselves out of habitually performing activities and living with intent. Most of us have a lot of things on her plate every day, which leads us to multitasking quite often.  We may find ourselves moving through our days multitasking with everything we do. It is very hard to...

How many good friends do you have and what do these friendships look like? I know for me I have a lot of different types of friendships.  Some of my friends are an active part of my daily lives and know what is going on with me, whether it be good or bad. Then I have other friends that I only get together with every few months and we catch up on...

Is it hard to develop self-esteem as an adult? Most people think self-esteem issues only show up in teens. If self-esteem isn’t developed as a teen it will follow you into your adult years.  I know many adults suffering with really low self-esteem matters. Our relationship with our self is our primary relationship.  No one else in the world knows...

  Do you want to clear obstacles so you can live a more passionate and purposeful life? Looking back can you determine what impediments were holding you back? What areas in your life were you stuck and having problems? If you can identify the issues, then you will be able to see the obstacles and figure out what areas need to be healed to...

The power of having expressive relationships! How important is it to express our selves and be heard in our relationships? How many relationships do you have in your life where you feel the freedom to express yourself without judgments? I know in my life I feel so honored to have a handful of relationships where I know I can talk about the things...

Are you looking for a powerful retreat? Allowing ourselves the time to heal is always a powerful way process life situations and one of the greatest ways is through a personal retreat. Whether it is with your partner, you mother or daughter or simple by yourself, setting an intention to grow spirituality and heal is potent. It is very important...

Creating the peace within us and creating a peaceful world. The only way to truly have peace inside of us is to go within. The biggest question is how do we find inner peace when the outside world seems to be in a bit of chaos. Most people would agree that if the world were more peaceful place it would be easier for us to be at peace. The problem...

Do you make conscious decisions? How do you make your decisions? Do you automatically assume it’s a good idea because a lot of other people are making the same choice? Just because others are doing something doesn’t mean it’s right for you. We have all made one or two decisions based on the populous and realized that it wasn’t a good idea for us....

 Happy Thanksgiving! I am grateful for all. of you being in my life and for my life and lessons through this beautiful existence. Thank you for being on this amazing journey with me! The journey for me is all about working through our triggers so we can show up for others in a more loving way. If you are working with me or on my newsletter, you...

 Having gratitude for just being alive! Because we are often wrapped up in our day-to-day life of going to work, grocery shopping, taking care of our house and possibly taking care of kids, it is hard to sink into truly being thankful. When we do bring ourselves back to what we are grateful for, we tend to count our blessings for our abundance in...

Are your relationships out of balance? In all relationships including primary and friendships, we need to check to see if it is a give-and-take situation. In some relationships you will find that you are giving maybe a lot more than you are receiving. In some situations this is okay like when you are helping someone out that is sick or disabled...

Why are we not being our true self? Our true selves or our higher selves always exist; unfortunately they are hidden under our patterns and fears. Who are we, really? In our day-to-day life it appears that we might be the ego acting out. But is that who you truly are? If we were to live in our most authentic self we would not be in the ego mind...

Why do we fill the void inside us? What do you do to fill that void inside of you when you are feeling totally disconnected from yourself? In society we are actually encouraged to consume so that we don't have to be in touch with their feelings. This could be the consumption of food or things. Do you ever consume chocolate, food, alcohol or...

How important is it to understand your inner monologues? How do we know what voice to listen to insider head and deciphering if it is the ego mind or our intuition and higher self. If we choose to voice the ego mind we will notice that people will be in resistance to us and that things might not flow with grace and ease. When we speak from our...

It's amazing the strength we have! When we look back throughout our lives we can see how we have risen up to the challenge of all of our many trials. Even though in the midst the turbulence we do not feel that we can handle it and it will surely take us down. The tough challenges to handle are the ones that seem to be compounded one right after...

For as long as I can remember I have felt poorly about my body and myself. I remember being 15 years old and slamming my looks and being so critical of my body. It took me many years to come to terms with loving myself. What helped me most is realizing I am truly not this body, I am spirit. That my essence is beautiful and I am a Being of love....

Asking for help, isn't a sign of weakness! How hard is it for you to ask for help?  Most of us prided herself on being self-sufficient, although some of us take it to a whole another level. It's okay to be responsible for taking care of yourself and pulling your own weight in the world but it's also important to be able to ask for help when...

How important is "You Time" for your well-being? I find it so critical to carve out time for only me during each day. It can be reading, meditating, being with friends, or doing anything that is relaxing. We act like a bottomless pit of energy that can keep going without renewal. Constantly filling our schedule with a long list of things we need...

Living in our true authentic self and feeling at peace! Whether we acknowledge it or not, our authentic self exists but unfortunately it is hidden under our limiting beliefs and fears. It is only through the recognition of these fears and beliefs that we can truly live in our authentic self. I had a client today asked me why we would put so much...

It’s a beautiful time when we go inward for our healing instead of looking outside of our self. There is nothing we can do to make somebody else take responsibility for his or her own actions.  The only thing we can do is to make sure that we are taking full responsibility for our own actions and not getting wrapped up in the drama that is caused...

The weight of regret and the lack of forgiveness. When working with mothers and daughters, I notice that there is a lot of regret and an unwillingness to forgive. Regret can be something we have for things we have done in the past to others or ourselves. Mothers usually have regret about not showing up a certain way for their daughters. It is so...

What happens when things don’t go our way? We are always pushing up against life to get things to go the way we think they need to go. We want things to go the way we envision them to go. We set goals and we do mantra’s to bring in what we want in our life.  Then when life doesn't happen the way we wanted it to, we think we've done something...

How to realize your potential and recognize your growth! A part of recognizing our growth is actually looking back at what we have done and how we have shifted our limiting beliefs. When we recognize our areas of transformation, we see what potential we have come into. Because we are with ourselves 24/7 it is difficult to see our growth. It is...

Learning to not react from our triggers, can be a life savers! It's amazing how fast we react when we get triggered. If we are not constantly being the observer and watching ourselves the heat of the trigger can hijack us. It doesn't matter if the feelings are anger, fear or sadness if we get hijacked because of our old belief system there is no...

Do you feel run down when you do your emotional process? Sometimes I notice that when I am deep in my emotional work that I started to feel a little achy, like I have the flu. Sometimes it shows up with a headache or just fatigue. I will often think that I am coming down with something when actually it's just detoxing from my emotional process....

What does it look like to get out of other peoples business and deal with your own? Our biggest problem with our personal growth is that we stick our nose in other peoples business instead of staying in our own lane and paying attention to what’s going on inside of us. When something comes up and we get triggered, our first reaction is to look...

Nature in and of itself is a healing modality. It's amazing how good I feel while hanging out by the creek, hiking in the mountains or simply walking barefoot in the grass. As amazing as I feel when I’m close to nature, I'm always so shocked by how hard it is for me to get to it. Our lives are so busy with working, family schedules and other...

Creating a sanctuary in your home for your own happiness. I have always been a big believer in making our home a place that is relaxing, comforting and a sanctuary. A few things that you can do to make your home and oasis is: first and foremost decorating your personal space to your liking.  If you are surrounded by objects you don’t like or...

When is a good time to retreat? Retreats can be a great time to go inward, renew and gain a new perspective. It allows us to go deeper into ourselves so that we can emerge in a whole new way. It's important for us to just stop and step away from the busyness of our world so that we can gain a new awareness of what's going on. Vacations don't hold...

How important is recognizing your growth? Most of the time we are in a slow growth process when it comes to our evolution. Every once in a while we have bursts of breakthroughs that seem like we shift on a dime. But most commonly it's a slow, gradual process. Because it is a slower process it's hard to recognize the changes that we made in our...

Why is processing our hurts so important? When we aren’t looking at and understanding our childhood wounding so we can process through them, they will start becoming part of our personality. Some of our personality quirks are actually coming from our reactions to our unhealed childhood wounding. It actually seems that it is a part of who we are...

Do you practice non-attachment with your adult daughter? The toughest challenges, as a mother is to allow our kids to be who they are.  Looking at our attachments around what we want our kids to be is extremely confusing. Part of successful parenting depends on our love and guidance for children; unfortunately this is done mostly with an...

Why do women compete with other women? I just attended a weekend event called Women's Speak and the one thing I noticed about the event was it all about helping each other rise up. Knowing that we don't have to break someone down to get ahead, especially another woman. Having compassion for each other and ourselves as well. Throughout my life, I...

Do you think worrying serves you in a productive way? Do you know how much you worry? Most people don't even know that they spend a large portion of their day and worry. The way worry shows up in the body is anxiety. A good practice to get into throughout the day would be to check in with yourself to see if you have anxiety and why. Does worrying...

How do you bring yourself back to center? Have you noticed when you have too many things going in your life that you become off-centered? Your thoughts are completely scattered and not only are your thoughts going in too many different directions you are physically all over the place. When we spread our self to thin it affects us both mentally...

Sexual violence is any sexual activity where consent has not been given! An American is sexually assaulted every 92 seconds. 8 out of 10 rapes are committed by someone known to the victim 19.5% are committed by strangers. 39% are committed by an acquaintance. 33% are committed by a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend. 6% are...

What does your mind do during difficult times? When our life gets difficult what do we do? Do we become overwhelmed and fall apart or do we look at this as an opportunity for some personal growth? It can be very tough to manage a positive attitude when challenging times hit us. When we look at challenging times as being punished by the universe...

How easy is it to harness the power of partnerships? When we go into partnership consciously we have the ability to create in a powerful way. All partnerships, not just romantic but creative or professional relationships, we have the ability to pool from each unique talent and ability.  Not because we are deficient but more because having two...

Can we change the world by changing ourselves? I think it is a great deed to do charitable work and help others. Going out into the world and making a difference can be an honorable thing to do. It is also important to look at the reasons why you are giving. I believe it was Anthony De Mello in his book Awareness that said that most people are...

Dealing with people who are passive-aggressive can be exhausting and hurtful. Usually passive aggression comes from people who feel powerless and don't want to feel their own feelings. They can also be blaming you for something that's going on inside of them, again leaving them in a powerless position. Acting out of aggression comes from people...

Why do we have regret and why is it so harmful?  There are a few reasons why we may have regret. First is because we are not seeing life through our higher minds consciousness. We are seeing life through a skewed wounded inner child. Second, we have created a mess that we have it cleaned up. If we have acted out of our little inner child and we...

How do we find the strength within us through the tough times of this life?  We all experience challenging moments in our lives when we feel that we are on the edge and can't handle it. Sometimes we have just moved through a pretty big obstacle or illness only to find another one waiting on the other side for us, before we can catch her breath....

Is it hard for you to being with your feelings?  How tough is it to just sit with your feelings and feel the intensity of them? Most people medicate their feelings away so they don’t have to be with them.  They shop, eat, drink, do drugs, argue, complain, blame, they do anything not to feel. The heart has a wide range of feelings that it...

What does it look like to be in surrender?  Surrendering is to cease resistance, yielding, and give in, and succumb. The biggest issue to just letting go and surrendering is our resistance. Our resistance to change, our resistance to staying awake and looking at our blind spot and our resistance to life being exactly what life is! When we resist...

Why are there so many people with depression and anxiety and what is causing it? In my practice more than ever, people are coming to me of all ages, with depression and anxiety.  Anxiety and depression are the two biggest issues that I work with my clients. Again it is hitting all ages, from the 13-year-olds to the 60-year-olds I am working with....

How can we create a different outcome by doing the same action?  “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” -Albert Einstein I believe this behavior is from a lack of consciousness that we continue to do the same thing over and over again, while getting upset with the results. It is...

Are We Only Teaching Ours Children or Learning From Them as Well?  When we have an awareness that we are also learning from our children as much as we are teaching and guiding them, we become very present to ourselves. When our children come into the world they come in without preconceived notions about things, situations and people. They are not...

What are some of the things you can pay attention to, to create a happy new year?  I don’t usually set intentions for the New Year or do New Years resolutions.  I am always in the process of moving forward in life regarding my personal development and other projects. I don’t know how resolutions pan out for you, but what I see in other people and...

What does it mean to be your authentic self?  When we show up completely ourselves in the world, keeping it real, we offer the same to others. Most of us know what being authentic means and we know intuitively when were not being a real and when we are out of alignment. When we don't show up being ourselves it's mostly because we are afraid of...

Happy Holidays!  The holiday season is here, and so is all of the joy and all of the chaos. The great part about the holidays is getting together with friends and family, shopping for special gifts, baking and just an all over warm and cozy feeling. The downfall of the holiday season is the triggers of friends and family, shopping in crowded...

When you experienced jealousy what do you do?  Jealousy is such an odd emotion that we have all experienced probably numerous times in our life. Starting out when we were younger, having feelings of jealousy for siblings or wanting what another child has, leading into our teenage years possibly being jealous of our friends, then moving into our...

Having reactive people in your life, can be exhausting!  I have had my fair share of reactive people in my life and what I notice is that I have less energy for the positive things going on with me. I have said this before but I feel the need to repeat it. When you don't know yourself at a core level, the wounded child issues and all, you will...

When we surrender, we allow beautiful things to happen in our lives.  Most of us live in this world believing that we have to be in control to make things happen. It’s set up for us to believe that we are on our own and we have to do everything by ourselves.  If things work out for us and we appear successful, it’s because we made it happen. When...

I wish you all a wonderful Thanksgiving Holiday. It is such a beautiful time to be with family and share the love we have for each other. Of course it would be nice to be in a space of giving and receiving love everyday, but sometimes life gets so busy that we forget. How can we forget to give love? Seems like such an important thing to have in...

Does your home feel calm and comfortable?  Your home can either be a place filled with chaos or it can be a calm stress-free oasis. I don't think people realize how important it is to create an environment in their home space that is relaxing, calm and inviting. Not so much inviting to others but inviting to yourself. My home is my sanctuary and...

Picking the perfect retreat is really an important decision.  There are so many different types of retreat to go to like my couples retreat, individual intensive retreat, rejuvenating retreat, adult mother-daughter retreat or the teen mother-daughter retreat. Going to a retreat can be a very powerful way to process things that are going on in...

Making the changes in our life to keep moving forward!  The entire process in my personal retreats and mentoring have to do with changing your behaviors that don't seem to be working for you in your life. If we continue to do the same things that aren’t working for us, we will continue to have our life play out the same way. Have you ever seen...

Are you acting out of the wounded part of you and your old beliefs?  Does your mother or daughter bring the wounded parts of you up to the surface?  There are a few old beliefs I have noticed that play out regularly in most people’s lives. Here are two that I see often: I’m not good enough and I’m always doing something wrong.  I have been doing...

 How difficult is it for you to be with your feelings? When we get triggered and feelings come up, our first reaction is to run from them and avoid them at all costs. The problem with this is that there is never healing done, the feelings just lay low until the next trigger. It is very difficult to just surrender and be with whatever feelings we...

I grew up having to care for myself because I had parents that were not emotionally available to care for them selves let alone me. I actually prided myself on being self-sufficient and strong. Because of my childhood it set me up to have a hard time asking for help, even when I desperately needed it. Unfortunately, we all need assistance...

Is your Soul Evolving?  When we actively work through our old beliefs and patterns we lighten the load of our souls so we can evolve. If you believe in past incarnations, you may feel like you are carrying the weight of all those past lives with you. When we rid ourselves of our fears, our limiting belief systems and the patterns that we are...

How do we age gracefully?  When we wish for something that we are not or that we don't have, we take our self away from the present moment. So when we wish we were younger or older it really doesn't allow us to sink into the joy of exactly being where we are. In every stage of our life, we have more wisdom and growth because of our current and...

Have you ever experience loneliness? Most of us have.  Have you ever explored your feelings of loneliness? We have days when we feel lonely or disconnected. The idea of loneliness stems from the belief that we are separated from everyone and everything. In looking at our loneliness we can begin to explore our belief about who we think we are. Are...

Can we embrace ourselves and other women in our pure femininity and beauty?  When we as women can look into our past without regret or shame knowing it was a learning experience and is brought us to our wise self, we bring all women closer to becoming their true self. When we self realize we help others become present to their strengths and...

How do you move into your center, to be with yourself?  It's interesting that most of us avoid our life.  It seems like this would be a pretty tough thing to do. Our lives are so busy with day-to-day activities like sleeping, showering cooking, running errands, work and also a lot of busy stuff that actually distracts us and keeps us from looking...

If you are easily agitated, a personal retreat would help you to see what is going on and move through it.  What I notice with people that are on edge and easily agitated, is that there have been many triggers that have built up. What happens is life does what life does and if we don't go inside and reflect on how we feel about certain...

How can you stay calm in this world of total chaos?  How do we maintain a sense of calm in a world of unrest? The world is pretty chaotic right now and it's important for us to maintain an inner calm so we don't add to the chaos.  Something I have noticed with what's going on politically is that even the spiritually balanced people seem to be...

Attaching meaning to neutral events can create a lot of suffering in our Lives. The meaning we place on our experiences whether it be disturbing or pleasant, completely determines how much we suffer or don't. The actual event is very neutral but our mind translates the event through our woundedness. It is critical to know how we see things...

Why is the truth so scary?  Not only are people afraid of telling the truth they don't like to hear the truth. It's amazing what people do to get out of being truthful. I get it; it's difficult and uncomfortable. I just had a situation where I was getting to know someone, dating them and I came to a place where I knew it wasn't yes, it was a no....

Is it necessary to have shame or guilt?  I read this short piece of an article about shame and found it interesting and though I would give you my slant on it. It’s from DailyOm, which I love and I think it’s a great topic. Here it is: Shame is a loaded word for Westerners. Like most things, it can be seen in a positive or negative light....

Is it important to speak your truth? The importance of speaking your truth can sometimes feel like a life or death situation. If we hold our truth in it feels like it might eat us alive. Keep in mind the truth I'm talking about is from the higher self not from the ego mind. When we stop the ego from acting out this is a good thing. I have a...

Grieving our pets that have passed can be just as devastating as any loved one in our life. I find it interesting that some people don't understand the grieving process around losing a pet. I have heard comments like; “it was just an animal or at least it wasn't a loved one.” This always surprises me because I believe that our love for our...

How are our children our teachers?  Most parents believe that they are here to teach and guide their children and because the children haven't had a lot of life experiences, they have nothing to teach them. Part of this is true we do have a lot to teach our children and guide them through the turbulent years of growing up. But the other part of...

How damaging is holding onto the past?  Holding onto the resentment and regret of the past is like carrying all of our baggage around on our backs. It's exhausting and a huge drain on our energy leaving us empty for the present moment. When we are constantly in the past with our angers, we cannot be fully alive in our present life. When we are...

How hard is it to find strength through our everyday trials? We have all been in a place where the pressures of life have been insurmountable and unbearable. We find ourselves wondering if we will have the strength to make it through. Sometimes we notice that as we are just making it through some major difficulty, there is another obstacle right...

How difficult is it to stay with your feelings?  We live in a world that promotes escaping our feelings. If we are depressed, doctors give us pills so we don't feel the deep sadness. When we have physical pain we also get pills to take away the physical pain. I understand why being with feelings is so difficult. In the midst of the trigger where...

How to achieve peace through a personal retreat!  Most of the time we look outside of ourselves at the world full of chaos and we feel compelled to transform that situation so that we can have inner peace. We often become very disappointed because our attempts to change the outside world only bring us frustration and more friction inside of...