Is it hard to develop self-esteem as an adult?
Most people think self-esteem issues only show up in teens. If self-esteem isn’t developed as a teen it will follow you into your adult years. I know many adults suffering with really low self-esteem matters.
Our relationship with our self is our primary relationship. No one else in the world knows exactly what we are going through and experiencing everything in our life, but us.
So, why is it that we are so hard on our self when we are going through tough times? Why can’t we have compassion for our self? The obvious answer is the inner critic/ego voice. This part of our self keeps us from developing a strong sense of self, by its constant criticism and lack of acceptance.
To combat this ego voice, we first have to be a ware of what it is saying and then let it know that it is not speaking the truth. Then we have to reinforce the good qualities in us daily. I teach how to get to know your ego/lower mind so it isn’t running your life in my mentoring course and retreats.
The second part of this equation that is so important is giving our self, constant positive feed back daily. If you had a child and wanted that child to feel good about them selves, what would you do?
Here are a few tips:
- Write 5 things you like about yourself daily.
- Look in the mirror every morning and say “You are amazing and I love you so much.”
- Every time you feel sad, upset, or angry, imagine you are holding our inner child and being with the feelings.
Feeling empowered makes us feel good about our selves. The key thing to do is to show up for your self everyday in a positive way. Keep the inner critic/ego at bay and let it know that you aren’t going to listen.
If you are interested in learning more about your self and how your ego is ruining your life, let’s talk!
If you are looking for someone to process with and help you move through your issues, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion.
If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.
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“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)
Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)