Are you Ready for Love?

Are you Ready for Love?

What will it take to be ready for love? Are you Ready for Love?

Do you have love in your life? Is it the love you want? Do you feel like it’s not enough? I hear from my married clients that their partners are not fulfilling them; they aren’t affectionate enough or present. When I hear this I usually ask them “are you fulfilling yourself, are you giving yourself all the love you deserve and are you present with yourself and other people?”

If we aren’t showing up for ourselves we will not bring in partner that we fulfill us. We must be sure that the qualities we want in a partner we have as well. If we don’t have specific qualities that we demand our partner to have, we will only bring in a relationship that is vibrating at the same level as we are.

I have a lot of single friends and I myself am single as well. Most of my friends are in pursuit of a partner. I know what it’s like to have a deep yearning to be in relationship. My practice today has been to surrender to how my life is now, no matter what it is, relationship or not!

A part of being ready for love is being okay if you’re not in partnership and look at your deep yearning for one. If you are yearning desperately for a relationship you may settle for someone that isn’t right for you. The biggest thing I have realized is that the love is already here, it’s the love I have for myself. If a partner isn’t in my life, then I’m not ready for the one I want.

I always find that it’s important to list the qualities you want in your partner and make sure you have those qualities. Also it’s important to ask yourself what could be keeping love away. Do you feel worthy of love, are you so picky that the perfect partner will never show up, or maybe you are scared of closeness. Do you have a core belief that you are unlovable?

Look deeply at yourself and how you love yourself and others. If you have old beliefs in the way, start to shift them. If your standards are over the top to high, analyze that. You must prepare the ground to bring in the love you so deserve and want. Without the preparation it will be tough to be open and receptive.

“I surrender to what is in my life”

If you are interested in mentoring or a personal retreat, please Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what couples are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“I almost chose a different couples retreat in Sedona Arizona which would’ve had my husband and I driving all over town for our healing sessions with different healers. Debra’s couples retreat was perfect in every way. We saw only Debra throughout our whole retreat (with the exception of going out on the land with Mark who picked this up.)  We never had to drive anywhere!

I felt an immediate connection to Debra and felt she always knew what we needed. Her technique gave me a better understanding of my ego/inner child. She gave us the tools to own our own actions/emotions and the ability to take the responsibility off the other person. I saw my husband in a different light and learned more about him as he began to open up to me.

As we spent three additional days in Sedona after the retreat, I was aware how a lot of things that used to bother me about my husband did not cause a reaction within me. I constantly visualize myself as a little girl and him as a little boy harmoniously playing together. My satisfaction with Debra and her techniques is so great I plan on giving my 21-year-old son a gift to attend her individual retreat. I have great confidence she will guide him to be a better, deeper understanding of his true self.”
-Virginia

Debra Beck

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Why is Taking Action and Looking at your Inaction So Important?

Why is Taking Action and Looking at your Inaction So Important?

Let’s look at our actions, whether active or passive.Why is Taking Action and Looking at your Inaction So Important

Everything in our life that comes to fruition is because of an action we either take or an action we don’t take. The thoughts we think, the words we speak and of course the actions we take contributes to how our life unfolds. All of our actions whether taken or not, affect not just our lives but also the lives of the people on the planet and the planet.

When you look at your life as it is now, it is because of some action or inaction that you have taken? Even when we decide not to take action our life unfolds a certain way because of that inaction. It’s important to be aware of the decisions that we do make in our life and how they may affect the end results.

You may be in a 25-year relationship that hasn’t been serving either one of you and yet you stayed. This is a perfect example of how inaction can create a negative outcome in our life. If we were always looking at what the outcome of our actions could be, we may decide to take a different path with her decision. It’s easy to do this when were thinking about actually taking a specific action in her life to get a certain outcome; the difficult part is the inaction. We tend to be in a more passive role with inaction.

An example would be the long-term relationship that wasn’t working out but you just stayed in it year after year. Inaction can be every bit as damaging as taking an action that isn’t in your best interest. Another example is possibly not voting this is considered inaction and we all know that when we don’t vote the outcome can still be very powerful and damaging. What about recycling, you are contributing if you don’t recycle to the negative effects that recycling has on the planet

So don’t fool yourself into believing that just because you didn’t participate that you didn’t contribute to the outcome. Take a look at your life and how you’re participating either actively or passively and see what changes you can make.

If you are interested in mentoring or a personal retreat, please Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what people are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“Debra 
I’m so grateful that the universe let our paths cross. I found you at the perfect time!
Thank you so much for helping me gain insights into my inner child and how much damage she was causing. I look forward to practicing the tools you taught to help keep her in check and let me live in my higher self. And thank you also for teaching me how to forgive. You are a gifted guide and blessed are those of us who get to learn from you. Thank you also to Mark another generous soul who took me out on the land to feel the healing energy of the beautiful area.
“Thank you again for these invaluable gifts.” -Yvette

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Why are we Afraid of Being Honest with Our Self

Why are we Afraid of Being Honest with Our Self

Why are we Afraid of Being Honest with Our SelfWhy are we so afraid of being honest with our self?

When we look at our life truthfully rather than sticking our head in the sand we keep things circulating. When things are moving forward we create a flow that keeps things moving in a more positive direction.

Most of us have experienced a time where we are withholding the truth either from others or ourselves. We often don’t share our truth with others because of how it may be received. They possibly will take it personally and get triggered instead of just allowing it to be our truth.

There are also many situations where we had a hard time confronting ourselves about the truth. This could be something as small as ignoring a home repair, or something more extreme like ignoring our bills. We may also not be able to face the truth in a relationship when someone close to us is pushing us away and we pretend that they’re not.

Usually the truth is staring us in the face, we just choose not to look at it.

Most of the time we avoid these truths because they’re very uncomfortable for us and they scare us. A lot of times we may not know what to do with the situation so we can pretend it’s not there.

One of the biggest parts of my personal retreats is all uncovering the sides of our self that are very uncomfortable, that we would prefer to not see. The hard part about ignoring these circumstances is that they are always there hanging out in an uncomfortable manner. They never go away until we face them head on and take care of business. It takes a strong person to face things and not run away.

Ultimately you cannot avoid the truth, no matter how difficult it is; so the sooner we jump in, the better. When we have an understanding for the truth we just accept it and do the best we can with the situation. This relieves so much stress in our lives. Staying awake and shining a light on areas we need to see in her life will help keep us stay in the flow of things instead of being blocked.

If you want to go into your personal growth head on being honest, please give me a call or Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what people are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“Debra 
I’m so grateful that the universe let our paths cross. I found you at the perfect time!
Thank you so much for helping me gain insights into my inner child and how much damage she was causing. I look forward to practicing the tools you taught to help keep her in check and let me live in my higher self. And thank you also for teaching me how to forgive. You are a gifted guide and blessed are those of us who get to learn from you. Thank you also to Mark another generous soul who took me out on the land to feel the healing energy of the beautiful area.
“Thank you again for these invaluable gifts.” -Yvette

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Shifting Our Attitude, In the Blink of an Eye

Shifting Our Attitude, In the Blink of an Eye

Shifting Our Attitude, In the Blink of an EyeCan we shift our attitude in the blink of an eye?

How easy is it for us to be totally excited and having a good time, when BOOM something happens to trigger us and we go sour. We know how fast our mood changes when something happens that rubs up against us the wrong way. So why can’t we change our mood back just as fast?

It seems that once we get triggered it takes us a while to return back to a peaceful place, when we were totally excited. Let’s take a look at some of the things we might be able to do to shift our attitude back to being blissful, a lot more quickly.

The first thing I do is pause and realize that I’ve been triggered and it’s not about the situation or person, it is coming from me. I make sure that I do not react in any way, which means I don’t say or take any action whatsoever. Even if I feel like a going to explode I do nothing. Because I know if I react in any way it’s not going to be pretty.

The next thing I do is give thanks for this opportunity to go deeper into knowing and healing myself. So instead of blaming the other person for whatever action they took, I immediately know is for my higher learning. This helps me put things into perspective and keeps me out of the blame game.

Then if I have a moment to go to a quieter place and explore what’s going on, I do. If I don’t have that luxury I make sure I tend to it when I get home. Which means I look at what old belief I am buying into that triggered me and then I do the work around it to do my healing. In my personal retreats you will learn how to shift from being triggered to being love. After learning and practicing this method you will notice that it becomes a more organic process and it is much more easy to shift from a triggered state to a loving state.

Okay maybe it’s not in a blink of an eye but it is certainly better than suffering in a triggered state for days. It does take practice and awareness. If you want to stop reacting and learn how to shift from fear to love, check out my personal retreats.

Please give me a call or Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what people are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“Debra 
I’m so grateful that the universe let our paths cross. I found you at the perfect time!
Thank you so much for helping me gain insights into my inner child and how much damage she was causing. I look forward to practicing the tools you taught to help keep her in check and let me live in my higher self. And thank you also for teaching me how to forgive. You are a gifted guide and blessed are those of us who get to learn from you. Thank you also to Mark another generous soul who took me out on the land to feel the healing energy of the beautiful area.
“Thank you again for these invaluable gifts.” -Yvette

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

#1 Best Seller! Debra Beck, Contributing Author:

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Why Do We Try To Change People?

Why Do We Try To Change People?

Why Do We Try To Change PeopleIs changing your partner your job?

How many times do we enter into a relationship with the idea that we are going to change the behavior or fix the person we are with? I don’t believe we do it consciously, most of the time we do it unconsciously. When we go into relationship, we have this idea of what we want and then we proceed to try to fit them into our ideal.

This is a frustrating experience because people want to be who they are. People don’t want to be molded into something they aren’t, that somebody someone thinks is better. Who are we to judge how someone else should be? If someone doesn’t ask for our opinion or guidance, then what right do we have to give them direction on their life.

If we want to create an authentic relationship with people, we have to except them the way they are. If we have expectations of whom they should be and that person doesn’t meet those expectations we will be disappointed. An honest relationship is when we accept each other as the individuals that we are and find a way to share our life together.

When we try to change someone we are saying that we don’t accept them for who they are, that something is wrong with them. How do you think that might feel to your partner? When we accept people the way they are, things we like about them and things we don’t like about them, energetically the relationship feels lighter, and more loving pray.

Don’t let your fear ruin a relationship!

Something that I notice is when we accept people the way they are they have a tendency to be better equipped to look at their shadow side instead of defending it.

I find that people who are trying to change their partners do it because they’re afraid they won’t be able to stay in the relationship the way it is. So instead of picking the right partner or accepting the partner they have, they try to change them.

I believe that if something is bothering you about another person it’s an opportunity to go inside yourself and explore your triggers instead of projecting them outward. This is something we explore intensely in my couples retreat. Realizing part of your work is looking at your judgments and your shadow side.

If you are experiencing disappointment regarding your partner, check out my Couples Retreat. Please give me a call or Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what other couples are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“I almost chose a different couples retreat in Sedona Arizona which would’ve had my husband and I driving all over town for our healing sessions with different healers. Debra’s couples retreat was perfect in every way. We saw only Debra throughout our whole retreat (with the exception of going out on the land with Mark who picked this up.)  We never had to drive anywhere! I felt an immediate connection to Debra and felt she always knew what we needed. Her technique gave me a better understanding of my ego/inner child. She gave us the tools to own our own actions/emotions and the ability to take the responsibility off the other person. I saw my husband in a different light and learned more about him as he began to open up to me. As we spent three additional days in Sedona after the retreat, I was aware how a lot of things that used to bother me about my husband did not cause a reaction within me. I constantly visualize myself as a little girl and him as a little boy harmoniously playing together. My satisfaction with Debra and her techniques is so great I plan on giving my 21-year-old son a gift to attend her individual retreat. I have great confidence she will guide him to be a better, deeper understanding of his true self.”

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

#1 Best Seller! Debra Beck, Contributing Author:

Healthy, Wise & Amazing Women

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Learning To Handle Disappointment. Why is it so Hard?

Learning To Handle Disappointment. Why is it so Hard?

Why is disappointment so hard to handle? Learning To Handle Disappointment

Disappointment is such a part of life. We usually feel disappointment because we have an expectation of how things need to turn out and they don’t. When things don’t go as planned we may feel an entire range of emotions from being sad from the let down to even angry.

Whether we are feeling disappointed with ourselves, others or a situation that happens in life, it isn’t always easy to deal with. Knowing that we will be disappointed, that disappointment is just a part of life and that we have choices on how we can handle it, may help.

With all of our feelings, including disappointment it always comes to us to help us grow and learn more about ourselves. The more we are able to accept our feelings around this the faster we can process through it and move into a better place of being. When we are having any feelings, it is always good to sit with them and explore why they are coming up. I notice that when I do not process through my feelings I may project them onto others. And when I project them onto others, there is no learning and no healing.

I think writing how we felt about the situation not turning out the way we wanted it to and what did actually happen, helps us get back into alignment. I believe one of the biggest gifts from being disappointment is to realize that life doesn’t always play out the way we want it to. In many cases, if we really look at the situation, the outcome may be better for us than what are expectations were.

I know for me disappointment often leaves me feeling hopeless and for me to turn it around I have to accept the reality of life and let go of any expectations I might have. When I am facilitating my personal retreats I notice what people get hung up on most is expectations. The expectations of someone behaving the way they need them to, life to play out the way they need it to or bad things not to ever happen. This just isn’t reality. In my personal retreat we explore what disappointment looks like, whatever fears are and how to look at our self through the reality of life.

If you are experiencing disappointment and want to look at a Personal Retreat or Mentoring, Please give me a call or Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what people are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“I walked into this retreat feeling overwhelmingly sad, broken and alone. I am walking out empowered awake and at peace. To say that this retreat was life changing would be a huge understatement. This work is incredible and creates huge shifts. I’ve done self-improvement work for over a decade, but nothing ever really changed for me. This work with Debra made it clear why nothing had ever worked before. She is an incredibly warm, sincere and loving person who creates a beautifully safe place to work in. I don’t want to leave! All I can say is you deserve this retreat. Love yourself enough to give yourself this gift. I will be forever grateful that I get it.”

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

#1 Best Seller! Debra Beck, Contributing Author:

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Intimate Interviews with Everyday Women Living Powerfully!

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