Is your Home a Sanctuary?

Is your Home a Sanctuary?

Creating a sanctuary in your home for your own happiness. Is your Home a Sanctuary

I have always been a big believer in making our home a place that is relaxing, comforting and a sanctuary. A few things that you can do to make your home and oasis is: first and foremost decorating your personal space to your liking.  If you are surrounded by objects you don’t like or resonate and simple don’t like, it has an affect on your psyche. So it is very important to be surrounded by things you love and enjoy. This is just one simple thing you can do.

It also helps to be organized and comfortable in their home because it has a very calming effect on you and everyone that comes into your home. I noticed that when things are a little unorganized even in my office I tend to feel out of alignment. I know that this can be difficult when you have younger children and animals in your home, but I feel that it’s really important.

Soft lighting and colors that are soothing like purples, greens and blues can also make your home feel warm. Aromatherapy is another way of bringing a calm into your home with lavender and other scents that make you feel tranquil. Music with a rhythm that stays constant instead of something that jumps all over the place also helps. Other peaceful sounds like chimes and fountains also create a serene environment.

Be aware of the energy that your furniture could possibly be holding as well. Sometimes when furniture is used it may be bringing in the energy from past owners and you might need to smudge it or clear it any other way that you can. I think smudging your home regularly and burning incense is also a way of making your home feel more like a sanctuary.

Whatever it is that you do to feel good in your home is important, but the most important thing to remember is to keep your mind calm and create a sanctuary inside yourself as well.

If you are looking at how you might create a more serene environment within your home and mind, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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A Time to Retreat

A Time to Retreat

When is a good time to retreat? A Time to Retreat

Retreats can be a great time to go inward, renew and gain a new perspective. It allows us to go deeper into ourselves so that we can emerge in a whole new way. It’s important for us to just stop and step away from the busyness of our world so that we can gain a new awareness of what’s going on.

Vacations don’t hold the same strength as retreats do because on vacations we are still in a mode of doing not being. During the retreat we have time to rest, reflect, heal and renew.

The retreats that I offer, whether it is an adult mother-daughter retreat, a couple’s retreat, or an intensive individual retreat, will allow you to reflect on your life and reawaken to your passion and purpose. My retreats help you connect with your inner self and heart, so you can start to live your life in a more authentic way.

Being on retreat allows you to pull away from family issues, the Internet, relationships and deadlines you may have so that you can go into a quiet place to reflect. Reflecting on our feelings and being able to release them will help us live our life in a more directed and creative way.

With all of my retreats you will have enough time to be with yourself and reflect while also having the guidance of moving through tough issues you’re having. I think going into a silent retreat is wonderful when we have a firm grasp on what old beliefs are running our lives. If you are still in a place where you have drama from your past a silent retreat will only bring temporary relief.

It’s important to remove our blocks so that we might be able to go into a place of silence with more peace. Going into a silent retreat without this would be like trying to take a nap while 10 kids are playing in your napping area. Probably not going to happen!

If you are looking at moving through some tough issues to get to a clear more peaceful place, check out my retreats. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Recognizing your Growth

Recognizing your Growth

How important is recognizing your growth? Recognizing your Growth

Most of the time we are in a slow growth process when it comes to our evolution. Every once in a while we have bursts of breakthroughs that seem like we shift on a dime. But most commonly it’s a slow, gradual process.

Because it is a slower process it’s hard to recognize the changes that we made in our lives. But it’s very important to do check in’s to see where we are at. This is why I love journaling so much because I get to look back and see where I was and where I am.

When we bring intention into our process and recognize how far we’ve come and celebrated it, it actually compounds the growth and makes the shifts even bigger. Most often when I bring my attention into the growth that I have just experienced it really cements the learning.

It’s important to look at your life as the observer seeing how your life differs from one moment to the next and how your growth has expanded. I think it’s great to create lists or journal about the progress that we’ve made either with our spiritual growth or even physical world. Maybe we’ve had progress with our job, or our workout regime or our eating habits. It’s nice to acknowledge our progress.

We continuously change as we evolve. Our attitudes, our opinions, our values can even be different, so it’s nice to notice our differences and also be open to accept that we have more to learn.

Giving yourself credit for how far you’ve come is an important part of our growth. When I work with clients for long periods of time I noticed that they don’t remember where they were and they have a feeling of being stuck until I bring attention to where they were and how much they’d shifted. A lot of times just being in the day-to-day situations, we forget how far we’ve come.

Our evolution is a fact of life and needs to be celebrated. Knowing that we are wiser, and more grounded than we were and that we will continue to grow is powerful. By recognizing our growth we build a strong foundation to continue to grow in the future.

If you would like to explore shifting and evolving in a powerful way, check out my retreats. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Processing Our Hurts

Processing Our Hurts

Why is processing our hurts so important? Processing Our Hurts

When we aren’t looking at and understanding our childhood wounding so we can process through them, they will start becoming part of our personality.

Some of our personality quirks are actually coming from our reactions to our unhealed childhood wounding. It actually seems that it is a part of who we are and how we see the world. When we get triggered and react from our woundedness, this is not who we are, this pain is something that we need to acknowledge and process through.

The longer we wait to process through these triggers the more they become a part of our personality and our life becomes more explosive. Instead of waiting for this to happen, we can become empowered by going into the pain, being with it and recognizing it’s not about the situation, it’s about healing the old wounds.

Going inside and sitting with our feelings brings up a lot of resistance for most people. It’s not easy to look at why were triggered and bring it into ourselves instead of projecting it outside of ourselves. There’s something about projecting it outside of ourselves that gives us a little bit of relief for short period of time. The problem with this is that it keeps coming back so that we can heal it instead of project it.

When we carry those hurts inside of us and don’t heal them, it becomes a life sentence of pain. It takes a lot of bravery and dedication to do the work instead of projecting it outside of our self and reacting all over everybody else. If we can do this we will save ourselves a lot of suffering in the future.

The best way to heal your wounds is first you have to acknowledge your trigger and where the trigger is coming from. Then look at your old belief attached to it, then sit with the pain instead of run from it and begin to shift the old belief. It sounds easier than it is to actually do. It is a process that again takes an extreme amount of dedication.

If you would like to explore healing your wound and shifting your old beliefs , check out my retreats. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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What Does Non-attachment Look Like for a Mother?

What Does Non-attachment Look Like for a Mother?

Do you practice non-attachment with your adult daughter? What Does Non-attachment Look Like for a Mother

The toughest challenges, as a mother is to allow our kids to be who they are.  Looking at our attachments around what we want our kids to be is extremely confusing. Part of successful parenting depends on our love and guidance for children; unfortunately this is done mostly with an attachment to the outcome. So how do we love our children and guide our children while letting go of our expectation of how they need to be.

How do we love and guide them and let go at appropriate times, while practicing nonattachment. As our children grow up and become independent our attachment to them and how they live can feel smothering, which pushes them away. I see this all the time when working with mothers and daughters in retreat. It doesn’t matter if the daughter is 15 or the daughter is 40, it seems to be an issue.

True love requires us to guide our children and let go and let them live their lives, knowing that they will make mistakes and it is for their own learning. One of the biggest complaints in my mother-daughter retreats is the daughter at 40 years old, saying that the mother is still treating her like a child and criticizing her life choices. 

The mother appears to be confused because she wants to be close to her daughter and can’t figure out a way. The work I do with the mother is letting go of her attachment to believing that she knows what’s best for her daughter. This scenario leads to the daughter feeling like she isn’t good enough and doesn’t know better for herself.

Even though we give birth to our children, they are their own person and at some stage of their life, usually when they become adults we have to turn their life over to them. If we don’t turn the keys over to them, they will make their own set and sever their ties with you. When your children become adults it’s important to start treating them as a peer who may or may not want your advice or input. If they want your input, they will seek it. Unfortunately, if you are trying to run their life for them they will not seek your advice.

If you would like to explore your relationship with your mother or daughter, check out my retreats. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

Is your mother daughter relationship in trouble?

Is your heart aching to reconnect?

Are you tired of being blamed for the problems?

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Helping Women Rise Up!

Helping Women Rise Up!

Why do women compete with other women? Helping Women Rise Up

I just attended a weekend event called Women’s Speak and the one thing I noticed about the event was it all about helping each other rise up. Knowing that we don’t have to break someone down to get ahead, especially another woman. Having compassion for each other and ourselves as well.

Throughout my life, I noticed a huge competition going on between girls regarding friendships and then women in the workplace. There was so much fear about not getting ahead or keeping friendships that girls had to slam other girls to survive.

How can we as women support each other? Whether this support be around helping each other notice our value or just support in whatever we are doing to move our life forward.

When women feel like they need to keep other women small due to their own insecurities, it does damage to all women including themselves. 

In my youth I had been on the receiving end of other girl’s insecurities, which left me feeling very much alone.  I have really good friends in my life today that care about me and get excited for me when good things happen. When good things happen in your life and you aren’t able to share it with the women in your life, it might be time to explore what value those friendships have for you.

To support people in general is to help them rise above their lower self and come into their true authentic self. A few things we can do for others is be able to just show up and listen, allowing the person to know there is someone there holding space. Another thing we can do is when we see insecurities in someone, letting them know this is not who they truly are, while allowing them the space to move through all of their emotions without judgments.

In the mother daughter retreats I do, a lot of the times both the mother and the daughter are so wrapped up in getting their own needs met that there isn’t any consideration for the others feelings in the matter. If we can have compassion for our self and for others with this messy life, it will help us all move forward in a more healthy way and create a more peaceful planet.

If you would like to explore your old beliefs that keep you from rising up, check out my retreats. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

Is your mother daughter relationship in trouble?

Is your heart aching to reconnect?

Are you tired of being blamed for the problems?

Sign up for your FREE 30 minute Consult Here:

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