Regret and Forgiveness

Regret and Forgiveness

The weight of regret and the lack of forgiveness. Regret and Forgiveness

When working with mothers and daughters, I notice that there is a lot of regret and an unwillingness to forgive. Regret can be something we have for things we have done in the past to others or ourselves. Mothers usually have regret about not showing up a certain way for their daughters. It is so important to forgive our inability to parent without having the tools we need at that given time. Forgiveness is so important and to grant us the grace for being human in those moments.

Daughters may have regrets about how they behaved while growing up and causing their parents such grief in their younger years. This also requires forgiveness and just knowing that you did the best that you could with a very young mind. We only know what we know in that moment and shouldn’t beat ourselves up for our blind spots.

Other regrets can just be about certain things in our past that we did or didn’t do and again we can only do what we are capable of doing and that particular moment. There is no reason to regret past situations. Each and every situation that happens, happens for our higher learning. The best thing we can do is embrace all of our past moments and behaviors and bring love to them.

When we hold on to regret it’s like having our past tied to us, which makes it tough to move forward. It saps our energy leaving us less available for the present moment because we are always in the past. Constantly feeding that part of our life can cause sickness as well. If we aren’t living in the moment and were feeding old issues it can create illness in our bodies.

Living in the past and our old issues can also re-create them because we are putting so much energy into the old belief. When we have regret it means we haven’t moved through or healed our old beliefs or childhood wounds.

When we bring in forgiveness it heals our regret. There are so many ways we can work on forgiving. The biggest thing I believe is to have an understanding that every situation plays out a certain way for my higher learning. When I have this way of thinking it helps me either not going to regret at all or forgive myself for something I was regretting. If you are struggling with regret and not able to forgive either yourself or someone else, you may want to have a conversation with the other person or even your inner child. Discuss what happened and come up with a way to let go, forgive, and move forward.

If you are looking for support around being more conscious, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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When Things Don’t Go Our Way!

When Things Don’t Go Our Way!

What happens when things don’t go our way? When Things Don’t Go Our Way

We are always pushing up against life to get things to go the way we think they need to go. We want things to go the way we envision them to go. We set goals and we do mantra’s to bring in what we want in our life.  Then when life doesn’t happen the way we wanted it to, we think we’ve done something wrong, that we must have made a mistake somewhere along the line.

Of course we all want to be happy, healthy and thriving in our life, which is a pretty natural and human quality. But what happens when we don’t achieve what we want? Maybe our health is compromised, maybe there’s a breakup in partnership. Then what? Then we become unhappy because things aren’t going our way.

What if this is just life? What if all of our trials and tribulations are for our higher learning and not something we did wrong or a big mistake? What if a health issue is also for our higher learning?  Can we be okay with life not going the way we think it needs to be going? If we can’t be okay with life being life, then we will suffer. Everything in life is designed to shine a light on our unconsciousness and deepen our evolution.

 A lot of times it takes something major to happen in our life for us to wake up and shift. It is this loss of control that enables us to see things differently. It reminds us to let go and be in the flow of what the universe has planned for us for our higher learning.  We get in the way of the flow of the universe with trying to control the outcome of our situations. Then when things don’t turn out the way we want them to we get upset and feel like something went awry. Which is not the case at all, most times when things don’t go the way we want them to go, there is a deeper reason for why they turned out the way they did.

I go back to eight years ago when I was trying to sell my home with no luck at all. I had a plan that I thought was best for me and so when I didn’t sell my home I got a little aggravated. What I’ve come to realize is that not selling my home was for my highest good. I did not know that at the time, but the universe did.

So something as simple as being okay when things don’t go our way and just knowing that the outcome no matter what is for our higher good. Breathe and relax and sink into a knowing that you don’t have to control anything.

If you are looking for support around being more conscious, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Realizing our Potential and Recognizing our Growth

Realizing our Potential and Recognizing our Growth

How to realize your potential and recognize your growth! Realizing our Potential

A part of recognizing our growth is actually looking back at what we have done and how we have shifted our limiting beliefs. When we recognize our areas of transformation, we see what potential we have come into.

Because we are with ourselves 24/7 it is difficult to see our growth. It is like being a parent and having your children growing up, you don’t notice them growing because you are with them everyday. When an outside person sees them, they completely notice how much they have grown. It’s the same thing with our self.  It’s a good idea to take an inventory on what old beliefs you have been shifting and how you are showing up differently in your life.

When we examine our old beliefs and the attached behaviors it is a good barometer for where we are and how our outside world is showing up differently for us. If we don’t take inventory occasionally we will think we are hovering in one place when actually were not. When I look at my list of old beliefs I get excited because I can see exactly which ones have shifted or I am still shifting. Even though I have shifted a belief I don’t delete it off my list because it helps me see my progress. Leaving it on the list also helps me in case I fall back.

I’m not big on setting goals but I do want to realize my potential. But my potential isn’t outside of me; my potential is my personal growth. I feel like as long as I am constantly becoming more self-aware and growing, the outside world shows up exactly the way it needs to, to support my growth. This way I am not trying to control or force things that happen in my life, I’m more in the place of surrender.

I know that I am co-creating with the universe, all I need to do is get out of the way and stop controlling everything, so it can play out in a way that is for my higher good. The first thing to do is to surrender and accept life exactly the way it is, so we can realize our potential. The second thing to do is keep a tally on how you are shifting so that you can recognize the growth that you have had and become more aware of how to shift current limiting beliefs that you are still playing out.

If you are looking for support around being more conscious, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Using Your Mother Daughter Relationship to Grow

Using Your Mother Daughter Relationship to Grow

Why would you use your mother daughter relationship to grow? Using Your Mother Daughter Relationship to Grow

The mother-daughter relationship is our biggest opportunity for waking up and growing. We have two relationships in our life for optimum growth possibilities; the first one is the mother-daughter relationship and the second one is with our primary partner. Both of these relationships offer the greatest chance for us to break old patterns and shift.

When I work with couples and mother daughters, the retreats are so profound. When two people understand the work and do it together the transformations are epic. When they recognize what their wounding is, and how they projected onto each other, it helps them shift more rapidly. When both parties are practicing the work together they are actually able to be clearer because the other person is holding them accountable. It is hard to bust ourselves when we are acting out of our old beliefs, so when we have a partner that is able to see our actions and help us see it with love, the possibility for change is way more probable.

Quite often when I work with individuals their partners see a significant change in them so they end up coming to me in a couples retreat because the husband wants to have them shifts himself. The mother-daughter retreats help both the mother and daughter relate to each other in a completely different way. Instead of relating through their wounded inner child they are connecting with each other through their higher more mature self.

I have seen many mother-daughters’ come to me with arms folded, not speaking to each other and leave holding each other and smiling. It truly is a beautiful process to be a part of.

We all have wounding and old beliefs. If we do not do the healing of these inner child wounds, we will act out of them. The biggest places they show up are in our most important relationships. Looking at your triggers and exploring your limiting beliefs with your important relationships or any situation is the greatest opportunity for growth.

If you are looking to grow through your relationships in your life, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Reacting From Our Triggers

Reacting From Our Triggers

Learning to not react from our triggers, can be a life savers! Reacting From Our Triggers

It’s amazing how fast we react when we get triggered. If we are not constantly being the observer and watching ourselves the heat of the trigger can hijack us. It doesn’t matter if the feelings are anger, fear or sadness if we get hijacked because of our old belief system there is no healing there is only an expansion of the lower self.

If we get taken away by our triggers and into the story, we may find ourselves seeking revenge, isolating or just simply reacting to our emotional body in some way. All of these behaviors put us out of alignment and make us feel unbalanced.

It’s going to be very hard to recognize and handle your reactions if you’re not in a daily practice of being conscious. It’s important to pay attention in each moment what the universe is setting up for us for our higher learning. When we get triggered it’s just an opportunity to go deeper into our learning.

If possible, you need to recognize the trigger immediately and take two big deep breaths relaxing your body and relax your heart, this allows you a little bit of distance between the trigger and your emotions. It’s a chance to look at what old beliefs you are buying into. A few common old limiting beliefs are; I’m not good enough, I’m always doing something wrong, I’m inadequate, I’m not lovable.

When we scratch up against our limiting beliefs we get an emotional reaction, it’s critical that we observe what’s going on instead of being it. I love what Michael Singer of the Untethered Soul says about watching a movie. You know you’re not in the movie you know that you’re watching it, is the same with our life.  Can you be the observer of your life and watch it instead of being it? When we get triggered we get sucked into our old beliefs and then we react. It’s important to just recognize that the trigger is simply rubbing up against our old beliefs that aren’t the truth.

Create a daily practice of observing this part of yourself wrapped up in the old beliefs that you have. Start the morning by setting an intention to notice when you’re acting out of your lower self and at the end of day with seeing where you fell down.

If you are looking for support around being more conscious, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Feeling Run Down with Emotional Work

Feeling Run Down with Emotional Work

Do you feel run down when you do your emotional process? Feeling Run Down with Emotional Work

Sometimes I notice that when I am deep in my emotional work that I started to feel a little achy, like I have the flu. Sometimes it shows up with a headache or just fatigue. I will often think that I am coming down with something when actually it’s just detoxing from my emotional process.

It is important to recognize these symptoms and go deeper into the feelings of possible sadness, anger, or hopelessness. This is a very natural part of any cleansing process whether it is emotions or a physical. When we do our deep inner work many times we will have flulike symptoms. When we explore our emotions and old belief systems it often prompts deep shifts and external changes that may affect our bodies.

When our bodies start to feel tired because of this inner-process it is a call to action to take a break, relax and just allow these feelings and process to take place. It’s always good during these times to not push ourselves physically and just listen to our bodies and honor the process so that we can have breakthroughs.

When you notice that you aren’t feeling good, stay connected to your inner work and continue to move through it but also make sure you have extra downtime and get enough sleep. You’re going to want to support your body with nourishing foods plenty of water and more relaxation.

It’s important during this time to practice surrendering and letting go, sometimes holding on or resisting keeps us stuck in our process and that is where the body may start having symptoms of illness.

This is a natural process and getting to the other side feels very freeing both emotionally and physically.

If you are looking for support around your emotional work, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Are you tired of being blamed for the problems?

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