Understanding Our Inner Monologues

Understanding Our Inner Monologues

How important is it to understand your inner monologues? Understanding Our Inner Monologues

How do we know what voice to listen to insider head and deciphering if it is the ego mind or our intuition and higher self. If we choose to voice the ego mind we will notice that people will be in resistance to us and that things might not flow with grace and ease. When we speak from our higher mind people tend to resonate with what were saying instead of resisting and we will be co-creating with the universe instead of fighting against it.

 When we voice what our ego mind is telling us it could come from a place of needing to be polite or maybe be a good girl because of our old beliefs or a triggered state that just needs to be right.  It is so important to understand our inner monologues and where they’re coming from.

We do not want to act out of our lower self and create a mess.  If we don’t know when we are acting out of our lower self we will notice that our life isn’t in the flow and maybe a little chaotic.  In all of my retreats, the mother-daughter retreat, the couple’s retreat and the individual intensive retreat are designed to help you recognize your lower and higher self so that you can live in a higher state of consciousness.

If we want to get our needs met, our communication needs to be clearly conversed through our higher mind to our outer voice.  Communication can be tricky because we are dealing with others wounded self and most people communicate through that part of themselves. So if you are communicating through your lower self and they are communicating through their lower yourself you can see why communication would be a bit messy.

When we communicate through a higher place in us to get our desires and needs taken care of in the world outside of us we will also feel more balanced. It is always an upset when we communicate through a lower place in us and it activates a whole new set of beliefs that are wrapped up in guilt and shame.

If you don’t know where you are communicating from I suggest you look at my mentoring program or my retreats so that you can be clear about communicating and get your needs met.

Through my Individual Retreats, Mother Daughter Retreats, Couples Retreats and Mentoring programs you will understand the patterns in yourself that block love from flowing through you and to you.

If you are looking for support around loving yourself and others, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Our Amazing Strength

Our Amazing Strength

It’s amazing the strength we have! Our Amazing Strength

When we look back throughout our lives we can see how we have risen up to the challenge of all of our many trials. Even though in the midst the turbulence we do not feel that we can handle it and it will surely take us down. The tough challenges to handle are the ones that seem to be compounded one right after another. We may handle the first one with grace and ease but then when the other one comes on its heels we find ourselves floundering a bit.

We often find our selves thinking that life is not fair and that we are never going to get a break from these life trials. When challenges are compounded, it is then that we lose our balance and forget what these challenges can bring us. If we see life through the lens of our higher self, our spiritual self, instead of our physical self, we will recognize that all of our challenges are yet another opportunity to grow.

If you recap all of your experiences and look at them through the learning you will see how much you have grown. So if we can take on every situation knowing that it is a chance to elevate and evolve and not take the situation so personally it will take the sting out of the obstacle.

I have been working on getting an issue fixed with my car for the last two months and finally figured it out and got it fixed only to have spilled a drink on my gearshift that put me back in the shop. This is on top of dealing with a sprinkler issue and other minor things that I’m working on. I could have easily clicked into over well but recognized that this was just an opportunity for me to breathe and be patient and surrender to life being exactly the way it is.

I talk about this a lot that life is just life and we can resist life being what it is or we can surrender to it. When we resist life it creates conflict inside of us. When we can recognize what’s happening and what our lessons are we build strength in us instead of a weakness.

Its important to pay attention to our growth and recognize how far we have come. If you are looking to get more in touch with yourself check out my mentoring and retreats. Through my Individual Retreats, Mother Daughter Retreats, Couples Retreats and Mentoring programs you will understand the patterns in yourself that block love from flowing through you and to you.

If you are looking for support around loving yourself and others, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Communication Techniques for Mothers and Daughters

Communication Techniques for Mothers and Daughters

How important is communication between mothers and daughters? Communication Techniques for Mothers and Daughters

The biggest issue I see between mothers and daughters is the breakdown in communication. It seems that people in general don’t know how to communicate or they are not communicating at all. Both of these issues present huge problems in having a healthy relationship.

The main process in my mother daughter retreats is learning how to communicate through your higher self not your ego. Our egos tend to defend and blame others and they always want to be right. So you can see if you are communicating through this part of yourself it would not be very effective.

So the first thing we do in the mother-daughter retreat is learn how you are acting out through the wounded part of yourself, which shows up as your ego. Just this information alone allows for subtle shifts. Once you recognize these parts in yourself it is easier to not react through a trigger and instead respond and interact in a kinder way.

When our egos are blaming and defending, they usually hit below the belt. If both mother and daughter are communicating in hurtful ways it will just build up more resentment and separation. This is why I have mothers and daughters coming to me that are totally shut down to each other and in need of help.

I don’t think most of us realize how important healthy communication is, nor do I think the majority of the adults even know how to communicate. Communication isn’t something that we are taught when we are younger. We are normally taught how to communicate by watching our family members interact. I am sure you chuckled after reading that, because most families communicate in very dysfunctional ways.

In my household nobody talked about anything, everything was ignored. So when I became an adult it was really hard for me to talk to someone about something that was bothering me. I had to really practice this often so that it wasn’t so uncomfortable for me. Others lived in an environment where everyone was yelling to be heard, so they may be overbearing with the way they interact. Either way of conversing isn’t healthy.

In all of my retreats you will learn how to handle your triggers so that you can communicate with others in a healthier way. If you are acting out of your triggers and not able to communicate in a healthy way it is virtually impossible to have a relationship from the heart.

Through my Individual Retreats, Mother Daughter Retreats, Couples Retreats and Mentoring programs you will understand the patterns in yourself that block love from flowing through you and to you.

If you are looking for support around loving yourself and others, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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The Importance of Loving Yourself

The Importance of Loving Yourself

The Importance of Loving YourselfFor as long as I can remember I have felt poorly about my body and myself. I remember being 15 years old and slamming my looks and being so critical of my body. It took me many years to come to terms with loving myself. What helped me most is realizing I am truly not this body, I am spirit. That my essence is beautiful and I am a Being of love. When we identify with our bodies and believe that this is who we are, it becomes very important that it look a certain way and act a certain way.

Knowing that I am here in this physical form to evolve and be more Godlike (Love), helps me to know that I am not my body, it is just a vehicle I am using to grow. One of the most important things I can do in this lifetime is learn to love myself so I can love others and be in service in the world. A client sent this to me and I just love it.

Pretty Ugly

I’m very ugly
So don’t try to convince me that
I’m a very beautiful person
Because at the end of the day
I hate myself in every single way
And I’m not going to lie to myself by saying
There is beauty inside of me that matters
So rest assured I will remind myself
That I am worthless, terrible person
And nothing you say will make me believe
I still deserve love
Because no matter what
I am not good enough to be loved
I am in no position to believe that
Beauty does exist within me
Because whenever I look in the mirror I always think
Am I as ugly as people say?

(Now read from the bottom up)

The importance for self love is critical to having a healthy relationship with ourselves and others. Through my Individual Retreats, Mother Daughter Retreats, Couples Retreats and Mentoring programs you will understand the patterns in yourself that block love from flowing through you and to you.

If you are looking for support around loving yourself and others, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Asking for Help

Asking for Help

Asking for help, isn’t a sign of weakness! Asking for Help

How hard is it for you to ask for help?  Most of us prided herself on being self-sufficient, although some of us take it to a whole another level. It’s okay to be responsible for taking care of yourself and pulling your own weight in the world but it’s also important to be able to ask for help when needed.

I remember many years ago how hard it was for me to ask for help. Asking for help or accepting help when I needed it made me feel weak and inadequate. Because of losing my mother when I was newly divorced at 26 years old, with 2 young kids, I learned to do things myself at all costs. The problem with this process is that it took a toll of my health and well-being. 

Always being strong enough to do everything and never being able to ask for help or be nurtured was not only exhausting it made the people around me feel like I didn’t need them.  It also made them not want to ask me for help because they felt weak and dependent. 

Another area it affected was my healing when I was truly in a place to need care and would accept it. It would take a lot longer to recover because I would push myself before I was ready.

When we allow our self to be helped we can also sink into a place of deep gratitude.  How lucky are we to have people in our lives who are willing and want to show up for us. 

Another part of this equation is accepting the situation as it is. When we accept that we need help, then we can surrender to being taken care of and relax and heal.  We are partly resisting what is happening to us and then resisting help. The resisting in and of its self can prolong our healing.

It takes strength and insight to own our humanness and to accept that we have limits, just like everyone else. Understanding the human experience is a huge growth opportunity that provides humility and vulnerability. Both humility and vulnerability can soften the heart.

If you are looking for support around learning to be vulnerable and to know yourself better, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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How Important is You Time?

How Important is You Time?

How important is “You Time” for your well-being? How Important is You Time

I find it so critical to carve out time for only me during each day. It can be reading, meditating, being with friends, or doing anything that is relaxing. We act like a bottomless pit of energy that can keep going without renewal. Constantly filling our schedule with a long list of things we need to accomplish without considering how we are feeling. When we move through our days like this we often feel depleted, exhausted and totally disconnected from others and ourselves.

Most of us wear so many hats that is hard to find downtime and take care of ourselves. To truly be big in the world we need to make sure we are rejuvenating, not just checking things off our list. Besides taking care of yourself daily, and annual rejuvenating retreat, where you get away for 3 to 5 days is a great way to fill your cup back up.  I think retreats are wonderful because they force you to let go of your long list and just concentrate on yourself.

What normally happens in our day-to-day lives is our intentions are great to carve out a specific time for ourselves and then something that appears to be more important takes its place. This is why I make sure when I first wake up; the first hour is for me only. I meditate, stretch and read a little. I also try to end my workday at a reasonable time and take time in the evening to relax.

Women have a tendency to feel guilty or selfish when they take time for themselves. I have noticed that men have an easier time with this. Most of the time women even when they work they carry a larger load at home. It’s important to set boundaries around shared duties within the family team, because if this isn’t done the burden usually will fall on the woman.

When we are go-go going and not taking time to rejuvenate, we get exhausted and cranky. It is crucial for our well-being to make sure we have enough time for our self each day. And during this time for just you, you will get to hear what’s going on inside of you for your personal growth. When you are constantly on the go your personal growth gets ignored.

If you are looking for support around taking care of yourself, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

Is your mother daughter relationship in trouble?

Is your heart aching to reconnect?

Are you tired of being blamed for the problems?

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