Being in Relationship or Not

Being in Relationship or Not

Being in Relationship or NotLooking at the benefits of being in relationship and not being in one.

To be single or be in a relationship is such a personal preference. One isn’t better than the other; it’s just a choice that’s made. There isn’t a right or wrong way to life regarding being single or being in relationship. Both ways have benefits and downfalls.

One benefit of being single is that it is truly a wonderful way to explore who you are. Certain things come up around doing life solo. It really depends on what your old belief systems are. One of the benefits of being single you have total flexibility to do what you want at a moments notice and the freedom to make your own choices. There comes great strength in making our own choices.

The downfall of being single is always having to make all of your decision alone without someone that knows you really well to bounce things off of; although a good girlfriend can certainly fill those shoes. Another downfall is the obvious one, which is limited affection or touch unless you are in relationships that offer affection. I don’t know many people my age who would choose to be in an affectionate or sexual relationship with a commitment. But that isn’t saying it isn’t possible.

The benefits of being in a relationship can also offer great growth and evolution. This is mostly dependent on if your partner is willing to do the work necessary to grow through difficult triggers. The transformation that can happen being that intimate with another person can be life changing. Another benefit of being in relationship is the pure comfort of knowing you are facing life’s challenges with another and able to give each other comfort through hard times.

There are pros and cons to both being single and being in relationship, again it is just a personal preference. I have loved being in relationship and I currently love being single.

If you are having difficulties with your choices around relationships, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Another Testimonial!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Loving and Accepting Yourself

Loving and Accepting Yourself

 Do you love and accept yourself?

When we label our actions or ourselves good or bad we are seeing things through our lower mind. The choices that we make can certainly lead us in a direction that may not be in our highest good, although it may be for our higher learning. If one of our choices leads to an unfavorable outcome, we have the opportunity to learn from it, which is always good.

When we make choices that take us in a direction that create a reality for ourselves that we don’t want, we will feel unhappy, sad or bad. We want to be careful not to label ourselves bad when we are in these situations. We may just want to acknowledge that we made a choice that led us down a path we didn’t want to go down and then let it go. Learn from that decision, forgive ourselves and be conscious about not doing it again.

Most of us grew up with the words good and bad being used to manipulate us. If you did what you are supposed to do you’re a good girl if you didn’t you are a bad girl. This type of discipline isn’t the best for us to be guiding our own inner self and moral compass.

Even though I wasn’t raised by parents who said I was a bad girl or a good girl, they were always trying to fix me, therefore I always felt like something was wrong with me. Whereas people that were raised by parents that use these tactics may find themselves feeling badly in ongoing situations.

As human’s we are here to learn, grow and evolve. The best way to evolve is to dissect the decisions that we have made that lead us down a path we don’t want to be on. When we just label ourselves good or bad, we don’t allow ourselves the opportunity to grow. If you find yourself in judgment of your actions, push yourself to go a little deeper into exploring what outcome you desire and forgive yourself and just do it differently next time.

If you are having difficulties spotting the areas where you aren’t loving and accepting yourself, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Another Testimonial!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Dating Consciously

Dating Consciously

Dating Consciously Are you dating consciously?

I have been single quite a bit throughout my life and while my other friends were dating miserably, I was enjoying myself. For me it was an opportunity to get to know someone different and to hone in my skills of being conscious of human behavior. Not only conscious of  the behavior of someone else but mostly my own behaviors.

I get a chance to keep and eye on my inner child, that little girl that believes she has to be in relationship and be taken care of to be happy. So I get to watch her either get excited by good things that he does or bummed out around the crummy behavior he has. I also get the opportunity to watch how the lower part in me might defend his poor behavior.

If I am dating consciously and watching myself like a hawk, I will learn a lot about my dysfunctional behaviors and how they might play out if I let them. So it’s a great opportunity for me to have my eyes wide open to how that lower part in me works.

Another thing about dating consciously is that when the typical things like unreturned texts or calls happen, you have the opportunity again to just stay neutral and not get entangled emotionally. Getting tangled emotionally may look like you thinking there is something wrong with you or that possibly you did something wrong or you’re not good enough, when actually when they don’t text or call back it has nothing to do with you. Think about all the practice you’re going to get around not taking things personally, not clinging to good feelings and resisting bad feelings.

My suggestion is to get out and date, don’t put on a show and be somebody you’re not and if there’s a connection great and if there is not that’s great too. Dating helps you to see into your soul’s deepest desires and biggest vulnerabilities.

As long as we are okay with being alone we will never sacrifice our desires just to be in relationship and not be alone. So next time you go on a date, really watch yourself and ask important questions, to see if you are a soulful fit with this person.

If you would like to get to know yourself better, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Another Testimonial!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Stop Being So Hard on Yourself

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself Why are you being so hard on yourself?

Why are we so hard on ourselves and what damage does it do to our sense of self? Most of us are consistently tough on ourselves without even realizing it.  We do this in subtle and overt ways that if we pay attention we will be able to catch ourselves in the process.  Recognizing our action and behaviors solves half of the problem. If we can catch ourselves in these destructive behaviors, then and only then will we be able to shift them.

A few ways we are hard on ourselves:

  • Cringing when we look in the mirror or not even being able to look in the mirror.
  • Not being able to accept a compliment, making excuses about the compliment.
  • Never being satisfied with ourselves and what we do, always thinking we can do better and getting upset at ourselves.
  • Packing your schedule so tight that don’t have a minute to relax.
  • Taking care of others before taking care of your self.

Above are just a few ways we are hard on ourselves, that send our mind and bodies the message that we aren’t good enough.  When we body shame, set high expectations, and not allow time to relax and rejuvenate, this sends a message that we aren’t good enough.

In looking at the bullet points above, think about if you were doing any of these things to your own daughter, if you had one. It would be brutal.  So if you wouldn’t treat others this way, you shouldn’t be treating yourself in this manner either.

We are good enough, which means we deserve to be cared for and treated with honor.  It is so important to care for our self with love and respect.

If you are having difficulties spotting the areas where you aren’t honoring yourself, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Another Testimonial!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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When is a Good Time for a Mother-Daughter Retreat?

When is a Good Time for a Mother-Daughter Retreat?

Is it time for a Mother-Daughter Retreat? When is a Good Time for a Mother-Daughter Retreat

  • Are you feeling distant from one another?
  • Do you want to develop a deeper connection?
  • Is your relationship estranged?

When our daughters become adults it doesn’t necessarily mean we start having an adult relationship with them. If we don’t work through our childhood wounds there may be some resentment on both sides. The mother-daughter retreat is a great opportunity to work through all old wounding and patterns so that you can begin to have a more adult relationship with each other.

If your daughter is in her 20s or 30’s and your relationship still resembles that of when she was a teen, it’s time for retreat.  The retreat helps you both work through any resentments or anger that prevent you from opening your heart in a more loving way. If one of you is being triggered, the trigger alone will shut your heart down and will prevent you from having a more loving relationship.

I get to witness mothers and daughters working through old patterns and come into a healthier place with each other which will look more like an adult relationship then a parent teen relationship. Most parents want a closer relationship with their kids but have a hard time figuring out how to achieve it.

To achieve a closer relationship with each other it takes honesty and vulnerability.  Usually trying to work this out without the right setting can actually do more damage than healing. The environment of the retreat is very safe and nurturing and allows all parties the ability to look at themselves deeply so they can make the shifts to have a healthy relationship. Unfortunately without the right set up you will go into old patterns and end up at the same place with a closed heart.

When we look at why we are triggered and stop acting out of our trigger in anger or shutting down, we begin to understand our behavior and then act out of a higher place in ourselves.  When one party thinks they don’t have anything to work through and come to the retreat they actually realize that they do have a part in how the relationship is. Both parties in any relationship should take ownership for how the relationship looks

Even though I facilitate a lot of mother-daughter retreats, I have done father-son retreats, father daughter retreats and family retreats.

If you are looking to shift a relationship in your life, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Another Testimonial!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Are We Ever Enough?

Are We Ever Enough?

Are We Ever Enough How do you look at our self worth?

It seems we all come into the world with the belief that we are not good enough; that something is wrong with us.  And we base how we feel about ourselves on what accomplishments we are making out there in the world.  If we don’t have a job that is successful, a nice house, a perfect relationship, and a good body, we feel less than.

What makes us enough?  Are we looking outside of ourselves for our worth?  What I find is that people that look outside of themselves to see if they’re okay usually aren’t, but if we look inside at who we are as a person, we can usually feel good enough.  I say usually because if I’m behaving in a way that isn’t kind or loving, I still may not feel good enough. But if I’m in alignment with who I am and I’m acting in a loving way and looking truly at my essence, I will always feel good enough.

When mentoring or doing retreats I would say that the limiting belief of I’m not good enough, is on everybody’s list.  And usually along with that belief comes the belief of something is wrong with me. Both of these beliefs are important to shift if we want to go out into the world and share our gifts. Because feeling good enough allows us to show up in a more confident way in the world.

When we go into the world feeling good enough, we go out into the world and influence and touch the lives of people in a more positive way. When we are out there making a difference in people’s lives we start to expand our bigness in the world.

When we start from the inside and then go outward, we are coming from a much more authentic and loving place to make a difference in the world.  Instead of trying to be big in the world to feed that part of us that doesn’t feel good enough.

Learning to love ourselves will create a feeling of being good enough and being good enough will allow us to help others feel good enough.

If you are looking to develop your self of self and love yourself more, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Another Testimonial!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

Is your mother daughter relationship in trouble?

Is your heart aching to reconnect?

Are you tired of being blamed for the problems?

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