Sexual Assault is an Epidemic in the United States!

Sexual Assault is an Epidemic in the United States!

Sexual violence is any sexual activity where consent has not been given! Sexual Assault is an Epidemic in the United States

  • An American is sexually assaulted every 92 seconds.
  • 8 out of 10 rapes are committed by someone known to the victim 19.5% are committed by strangers.
  • 39% are committed by an acquaintance.
  • 33% are committed by a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend.
  • 6% are committed by more than one person or the victim cannot remember.
  • 5% are committed by a non-spouse relative.

Sexual violence has affected millions of people a year in the United States.

  • More than one in three women and nearly one in four men have experienced sexual violence involving some sort of physical contact at some point in their lives.
  • Around one in five women and one in 38 men have experienced attempted or committed rape in their lives.

The more we educate our selves and our children regarding this issue; the more we will be able to combat this problem.

We live in a very sexually casual world where people are engaging in a more relaxed environment sexually. I believe that this in itself has created more blurred line.

Women need to watch their behaviors regarding sex and they need to get strong about their boundaries. Learning how to say a hard NO instead of a soft no, is critical. Men need to honor women’s no, even if it’s a soft no. If it’s not a YES, it’s a NO.  Men need to recognize when a woman is in a vulnerable state and protect her from predators not act like a predator.  Asking for consent is a direct question and getting a direct answer and if a direct answer isn’t given it’s a NO!

I want to say that I know men are violated as well, so this goes both ways.

It’s so important to do your wounded work so you aren’t out there doing damage to others in the world. If someone isn’t honoring someone else’s boundaries this tells me they have inner work to do.  We have a responsibility to our selves and others to not cause harm to others and ultimately to our selves. When we violate others we are violating our selves.

If you want to look at how your actions are affecting others, check out my retreats. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

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Managing Difficult Times

Managing Difficult Times

What does your mind do during difficult times? Managing Difficult Times

When our life gets difficult what do we do? Do we become overwhelmed and fall apart or do we look at this as an opportunity for some personal growth? It can be very tough to manage a positive attitude when challenging times hit us.  

When we look at challenging times as being punished by the universe it doesn’t make things easier. What helps us is to know that we are co-creating with the universe and that everything that is happening in our life is an opportunity for us to stretch and grow. It’s important not to believe that when good things are happening to us it’s because we are being good and bad things are happening to us we are being bad. Life happens, there are ups and there are downs.

The important thing to remember is that whether we have labeled it good or bad it’s an opportunity to check in with herself and see if we are clinging or resisting.  When good things happen we have a tendency to cling to them and not want them to go away. When bad things happen, we have a tendency to push them away and resist them. This way of being limits our growth. The reason we are clinging or resisting is because we do not want to feel. We try to get the bad stuff out so we can feel good again and we try to cling to the good stuff so we can continue to feel good.  An important part of our growth is to feel all the feelings not just the good ones.

When we are resisting a situation, or mind immediately goes into thinking about how it can make us feel good again, because that is the mind’s job to make us feel good. The best thing you can do in that moment is to sit with the feelings and let your mind know that it is no longer its job to make you feel good.

Once we release our minds from the job of making us feel good during difficult times and allow our self the space to just feel, this is when true healing to come in.

If you want to look at dealing with difficult times in a more conscious way, check out my retreats. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Harnessing the Power of Partnership

Harnessing the Power of Partnership

How easy is it to harness the power of partnerships?

When we go into partnership consciously we have the ability to create in a powerful way. All partnerships, not just romantic but creative or professional relationships, we have the ability to pool from each unique talent and ability.  Not because we are deficient but more because having two people create has more energy than one.

It’s important not to go into relationships unconsciously because it could make the creative process harder rather than easier. When we go into any partnership because of a need rather than a clear intention, it will usually be good for the short term but the problems of rushing in so fast without much thought can be hard to recuperate from in the long haul. 

If you have clear intentions in the relationship you are creating, it is easier to stay on track instead of getting into a relationship and trying to fix it. Again this isn’t just a romantic relationship, this could be for a professional relationship as well. I find that the more okay you are with yourself and you are your own source of happiness, it will be easier for you to not jump into a relationship that doesn’t work for you.

Obviously, there’s always something to learn from all of the relationships we’re in, but they don’t have to be that difficult if we know what we are wanting and not waiver from what we want out of the relationship. All relationships give us the opportunity to look at our self honestly and see our shadow sides and grow from them, but most of the time we need to be on the same path for an easier flow.

When we enter into a symbiotic relationship the chance of drama is way less because both parties have a clear intention of what they are co-creating.  Creating on this level offers the opportunity for transformation, flow and an easy collaboration.  Think back at when you were trying to co-create in a relationship with someone that wasn’t in alignment with you. Not as easy as you would have liked, right?

In all of my retreats you will learn about how to work through your shadow side and be able to create better relationships in your life. Make your life easier by having relationship you are alignment with.

In all of my retreats, the individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Changing the World Through Changing Ourselves

Changing the World Through Changing Ourselves

Can we change the world by changing ourselves? Changing the World Through Changing Ourselves

I think it is a great deed to do charitable work and help others. Going out into the world and making a difference can be an honorable thing to do. It is also important to look at the reasons why you are giving. I believe it was Anthony De Mello in his book Awareness that said that most people are giving for self-satisfaction. What does that mean to give for yourself? We need to be seen as a good person; trying to get the acceptance of others, needing to create community or trying to even up Karma, etc. could be a few reason we might give for our own satisfaction.

I think even if it has a touch of self-serving, it is still nice to participate in charitable events. It is just a good idea to check in with yourself to see why you are giving and see if you can shift it if it is self serving.

The biggest way we change the world is through being self-aware. If you are not working on becoming more awakened, you will project your woundedness all over the people you are working with in the organization and the people you are helping. I have been a part of a couple of organizations that were for peace and awakening, with people volunteering there that were often triggered and acting out.

When we act out of our triggers onto other people, it makes them feel crummy as well as us and it spreads negative energy throughout the group. It is very critical that we do our inner work so that we don’t take our junk and projected onto others.

The most basic part of waking up is being able to not blame the outside world, and not project our feelings outside of us in an unhealthy way. It’s important to contain the reaction to the trigger and go to a deeper place and look at what is going on in us.

If we were all looking to become more awake and not project, imagine what the world would look like. It would be a beautiful place to be with many open hearts.

In all of my retreats, the individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Dealing with People Who are Passive-Aggressive

Dealing with People Who are Passive-Aggressive

Dealing with people who are passive-aggressive can be exhausting and hurtful. Dealing with People that are Passive-Aggressive


Usually passive aggression comes from people who feel powerless and don’t want to feel their own feelings. They can also be blaming you for something that’s going on inside of them, again leaving them in a powerless position. Acting out of aggression comes from people feeling threatened and they are unable to sort out what they are feeling.

When we are not able to express our feelings such as anger, fear, resentment or sorrow in a healthy way, it may come out in a passive-aggressive way. People who have a hard time saying no because they feel guilty and constantly breaking promises, is another form of this behavior. Others could just make snide remarks so that they don’t have to feel their true feelings. 

When we are around people playing out their patterns in this manner it’s better to not get drawn into any kind of a struggle for power. The more you try to obtain your viewpoint the nastier it could get. If you have someone in your life that is giving you backhanded zingers and claiming nothing is wrong you may need to seek a mentor that can help you with the situation. 

Most of the time when people are doing their personal work, just simply bringing it to their attention will shift things for them. If this is a blind spot and it’s with someone not doing their personal development you may have to walk away from the relationship or except that you’re going to get zingers from them. In most cases when someone isn’t doing their personal work bringing up anything around their behavior will trigger them more and act out worse. The best thing you can do is to just let them know how their behavior makes you feel and do your work around your trigger.

If you are the one being passive aggressive, I suggest that you start to learn to be with all of your feelings. If fear comes up or anger or any other feeling that you’re having a hard time being with my suggestion is to sit and breathe into the belly and relax your body and just be with the feelings.

In all of my retreats you will learn about your behavior and how it is affecting you and others. Most of that are doing our personal work don’t want to project our junk onto others. 

In all of my retreats, the individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Why Do We Have Regret?

Why Do We Have Regret?

Why do we have regret and why is it so harmful? Why Do We Have Regret

There are a few reasons why we may have regret. First is because we are not seeing life through our higher minds consciousness. We are seeing life through a skewed wounded inner child. Second, we have created a mess that we have it cleaned up. If we have acted out of our little inner child and we haven’t apologized for our behavior this can cause regret inside of us as well. Third, not forgiving ourselves for our past mistakes.

Not apologizing for our errors or seeing things through our lower minds, causing regret is like dragging a huge weight of our past around with us everywhere we go. This would be pretty exhausting. It drains our energy, making it difficult for us to be present in the moment because we are dealing with our past issues.

When we are constantly in the past it is hard to create something new in the future. When we clean up our past issues or our past messes we have the ability to move more freely in life. We create our life from our thoughts, so if we are always in the past in our minds we are creating our past over and over. When we accept what is happened in our past and move forward it transforms the energy inside of us to a more constructive, creative pattern.

Forgiveness is critical because it heals regret. If we were in a situation where we cannot apologize we can re-create the situation in our minds and imagine a different outcome. Or we can simply apologize in a prayer to a person if they are no longer here. Forgiveness comes up quite often in my mother daughter retreats because one or both parties have exhibited behaviors that have been hurtful to the other.

There is so much judgment when we have regret. We mostly are judging ourselves for not behaving in a way that we see loving. It doesn’t do us any good to judge ourselves on top of the regret. It’s best to do it to need to do with others to remove blockages and to also do your personal work around your own regret.

When we do our work around regret we created a clear path for energy to flow so that we can live in a space of love and passion. When we take responsibility for our actions in this present moment we release our past.

In all of my retreats, the individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

Is your mother daughter relationship in trouble?

Is your heart aching to reconnect?

Are you tired of being blamed for the problems?

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