Being with your Feelings

Being with your Feelings

Is it hard for you to being with your feelings? Being with your Feelings

How tough is it to just sit with your feelings and feel the intensity of them? Most people medicate their feelings away so they don’t have to be with them.  They shop, eat, drink, do drugs, argue, complain, blame, they do anything not to feel.

The heart has a wide range of feelings that it experiences, from the deepest of sorrow to the most elated joy. When we restrict feeling any of them because of our old beliefs, they get stuck and it stops our energy, our chi from flowing.  It’s much better for our health to allow feelings to bubble up and flow through us.

Often we put our feelings off to the side to deal with them later and we end up storing them in our bodies and minds. If we could get a visual on this is would look like a hoarders house.  If we store them for later and never get to them, they stay inside us and block energy from flowing.

No matter how scary it is to look at and be with our feelings, it is always better to deal with them as they come up and not stuff them down, hoping they will go away.

One of the main reason we hide our feelings is because we live in a culture that doesn’t support having emotions. It is our job to allow ourselves to acknowledge our feelings and be with them. If we feel sadness, we can embrace it and let it in and noticing where we feel it in our bodies and allow ourselves to express it through crying or just going inward.

When we give ourselves the right to feel our feelings as they come up, it will be easier for us to let them go. All the feelings want is to be felt. Get out of the story of what is making you feel this way and just feel.  Feel, relax and watch your heart open.

In all of my retreats, the individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to be with your feelings. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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The Art of Surrender

The Art of Surrender

What does it look like to be in surrender? The Art of Surrender

Surrendering is to cease resistance, yielding, and give in, and succumb. The biggest issue to just letting go and surrendering is our resistance. Our resistance to change, our resistance to staying awake and looking at our blind spot and our resistance to life being exactly what life is! When we resist anything, we strengthen the energies around what we are resisting.  

“What you resist persist”

Do you notice how some issues keep coming around repeatedly, no matter how hard you try to avoid or ignore them? It never works to push issues away that we need to process through. The more we push it away, the more we get push back. 

Our resistance gives power to that which we resist and leaves us with unresolved issues. To be able to totally surrender we need to look at what is coming up and get an understanding of what it is trying to teach us. It is critical to stop resisting to be able to surrender. Surrender cannot happen without yielding and giving into the lessons in front of us.  

What affects us on the inside is a direct call out to us that we have work to do on the inside. If we avoid or run away from the emotions, this causes a resistance inside of us and an inability to let go and surrender.  If we have emotions and feelings coming up from the outside world or our thoughts it’s best to do a deep dive to move through them, not push them to the side. 

Everything happening on the outside or inside us with our thoughts and feelings is a reflection of what we need to work through, it’s always an opportunity to go deeper into our learning.  It’s difficult to go running straight into our fears and of course you will notice resistance.  This is where surrendering to the process will help us go through the fire and come out the other end to peace and serenity.  

In all of my retreats, the individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and where surrender is important. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Improving Your Mother Daughter Relationship

Improving Your Mother Daughter Relationship

How can you improve your mother daughter relationship?

Improving Your Mother Daughter Relationship

Mother daughter relationships are so important. If they aren’t nurtured while growing up, chances are they we be strained in adulthood. Creating a healthy relationship can be complex because of all of our old beliefs. There are so many different you can do to create a better relationship together although if you don’t do the healing necessary on yourself, all of these suggestions will fail.

 

  • Look at your expectations of how the relationship should be. Both parties will want different things and it’s important to get your needs met but always remember to compromises. My oldest daughter dislikes talking on the phone. The problem is, we live in different states.  I don’t take it personally, thinking she doesn’t love me or want to talk to me.  We talk once a week and I make it work and so does she.
  • If you have an argument, don’t let pride prevent you from making the first move to mend it. The Ego is very prideful and will keep you away from love. Don’t listen to it.
  • Continuously be working through your own issues that keep you acting out of your ego and away from your higher self. If you’re triggered, you need to do the work around your beliefs. Don’t go outside yourself to make yourself fell better. Don’t put the burden on your mother or daughter that they need to show up a certain way for you to be okay.
  • Listen to what the other person is saying and step into their reality. Try to see how they feel, realizing there is always a different way to see things.  Really explore the opposing side.
  • Don’t try to fix each other’s situation. Moms do this mostly. If your daughter comes to you with a problem, stay out of fix it mode. Listen to them and maybe say something that lets them know you can relate and hear them.  Maybe saying “ I hear how hard this is for you, if you need anything from me, let me know.” Don’t jump into telling them what they should do. Telling them what to do makes them feel inadequate. 
  • Communicate your needs to each other. No one is a mind reader; they need to know what you want. Also be prepared to not get your way.  It’s important to express your needs to one another and talk about a compromise.
  • Realize we are all human. Forgive each other for being human. We are going to make mistake, so make sure you allow room to be human.
  • Don’t dig up old issues and bring them into the present. Leave the past in the past. Deal with the issues at hand and don’t complicate it with your emotions around old issues. If you are bringing up old stuff it’s because you don’t understand the workings of the mind and need one of my retreats.
  • Don’t avoid conflict and think that it will miraculously go away; it usually gets bigger. Make time to come together and clean up the issue. So things don’t pile up.
  • Stay away from blaming each other for feelings you are having. Realize your feelings come from your belief system not their actions.

There are so many more things you can do to create a more harmonious relationship between each other. A good start is to book a Mother Daughter Retreat and get all the tools you need to create a healthy relationship with each other. 

In all of my retreats, whether it be, the individual intensivemother-daughter, or the couples retreat you will learn how to recognize your inner child, love yourself, shift these old beliefs and show up differently in the world.

If you are looking to connect with yourself in a whole new way, check out my retreats. Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

I also do Adult Mother Daughter Retreat, Couples Retreats and mentoring.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Why is There So Much Depression and Anxiety?

Why is There So Much Depression and Anxiety?

Why are there so many people with depression and anxiety and what is causing it?

 Why is There So Much Depression and Anxiety

In my practice more than ever, people are coming to me of all ages, with depression and anxiety.  Anxiety and depression are the two biggest issues that I work with my clients. Again it is hitting all ages, from the 13-year-olds to the 60-year-olds I am working with.

 

If it isn’t a clinical issue around depression, it could be a suppression of feelings. When we suppress how we are feeling about ourselves, about our circumstances and about the world around us, it tends to settle inside of us. It could be a sense of hopelessness about your current situation or the world affairs. There is a lot going on with our lives and the world to be having feelings about. If we are stuffing those feelings, they could come out as depression or anxiety.

 

Depression is an umbrella for what’s really going on. Are you having sadness, are you hopeless or maybe you have high anxiety. It’s important to get to what’s underneath the depression or the anxiety. The work that I do gets to the core reasons you are feeling and why. It is so important for us to feel what we are feeling and have an understanding about our feelings so it doesn’t sink into depression.

 

Depression and anxiety are great indicators that there is something inside of us that we need to look at so we can transform our thought patterns. If we are continuously looking outside of ourselves to feel better and not addressing our feelings, we could start feeling pretty depressed.

 

What makes this life palatable is that every life experience is an opportunity to shift my skewed thinking from my old beliefs. If I had to go outside of myself and change the situation, that would be very frustrating, leaving me feeling pretty hopeless, which would lead to depression.

 

In all of my retreats, the individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and what triggers these feelings of anxiety, hopelessness, sadness or fear and start shifting them.

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat or my Adult Mother Daughter Retreat to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, check Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Are We Crazy Making the Same Choices and Wanting Different Results?

Are We Crazy Making the Same Choices and Wanting Different Results?

How can we create a different outcome by doing the same action? Are We Crazy Making the Same Choices and Wanting Different Results

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” -Albert Einstein

I believe this behavior is from a lack of consciousness that we continue to do the same thing over and over again, while getting upset with the results. It is very important to pay attention to our behaviors and the outcomes so we can adjust our thought process and behaviors in order to create a different outcome.

The same situation may continue to come up over and over when we don’t recognize and learn from it. When this happens it gives us an opportunity to make a different choice.  Sometimes we push really hard up against a situation hoping to bring about change, only to settle into the same results.

With these encounters it is best to pause and look at the situation from your higher mind, digging deeper into old patterns and beliefs and see if it’s possible to create it in a healthier way.

If you notice that you are creating the same situations in your life that don’t work for you, it is time to explore what is happening inside of you.  A change in perspective, behavior and your reaction can do so much more for shifting the outcome. It takes a fair amount of self-observation to change our patterns and thus creating a different outcome to a situation.  

This self-examination isn’t for the weak of heart; it is for Warriors.  It isn’t easy or fun to look at our dark side and then hold ourselves accountable for our actions. If we don’t self-reflect we will repeat our patterns and behaviors.  Asking questions directed at our ego minds and little girl will give us the data needed to see how we are seeing things through a skewed lens. Once we see things clearly we are able to make the shift to our higher self. We cannot make the shifts through our ego or little girl (lower mind) because thinking through that lens is what got us into the situation in the first place.   

I love it when I am in a mother daughter retreat and both the mother and daughter see how their behaviors have been playing out and causing havoc on one of the most important relationship they have in their life.

In all of my retreats whether it be the Individual Intensive, Mother Daughter or the Couple Retreats you will learn how recognize your ego mind, and stop acting out of your unconscious little girl to shift your beliefs.

If you are interested in any of my retreats to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, check Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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What Do We Have To Learn From Our Children?

What Do We Have To Learn From Our Children?

Are We Only Teaching Ours Children or Learning From Them as Well? What Do We Have To Learn From Our Children

When we have an awareness that we are also learning from our children as much as we are teaching and guiding them, we become very present to ourselves. When our children come into the world they come in without preconceived notions about things, situations and people. They are not avoiding situations because they don’t feel good. Because of this we have so much to learn from them about our judgments of situations and people.

Children are much more heart centered because they haven’t had the experiences to taint them. We do have so much to teach our children about life in general, but we have to be open to what we are learning from them as well.

One thing that I believe is most precious to learn from children is how they express their emotions without worrying about what people think. How many times have you not expressed how you feel because you didn’t want to seem vulnerable, weak or needy. They live their life fully in the present moment with an open mind, not caring about the judgments of others.

What would this be like as an adult if we were living in this moment completely open-minded without any of our wounds from our past tarnishing how we see things?  It would be so freeing and we would feel completely alive and full of passion. It’s our triggers from our wounding that make us look at situations with a judgmental eye.

Another important component about seeing our children as teachers is that it removes the hierarchy of parents being The Great Wizard of Oz. I believe it is important for children to know that their parents don’t know everything and they are on a path of learning as well. I remember when my kids finally understood that I was human too. They had more compassion for me and stopped treating me like a machine.

The biggest problems I see in mother daughter relationships are the mothers treating the daughters less than because they believe the daughters aren’t as wise. The daughters become very resentful when they feel like they have nothing to contribute.

The work I do in my retreats and mentoring is all about learning about yourself and actually using everyone and every situation to become more self-aware. No one is better or worse than another.

In all of my retreats whether it be the Individual Intensive, Mother Daughter or the Couple Retreats you will learn how to live in your true authentic self, come from your heart, stop acting out of your ego and shift your beliefs.

If you are interested in any of my retreats to look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, check Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

#1 Best Seller! Debra Beck, Contributing Author:

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