The Damages of Holding onto the Past!

The Damages of Holding onto the Past!

How damaging is holding onto the past? The Damages of Holding onto the Past

Holding onto the resentment and regret of the past is like carrying all of our baggage around on our backs. It’s exhausting and a huge drain on our energy leaving us empty for the present moment. When we are constantly in the past with our angers, we cannot be fully alive in our present life. When we are clinging to old issues, we are not leaving space for something new and beautiful to grow and be created in its place.

We also know that our current life is created through our thoughts, so if we are always locked into our past we may create the same scenario again and again in our life. I’m not sure about you but I do not want to create the same issues or situations that I worked so hard to move through.

The key to moving through resentment and regret is forgiveness. One way of forgiving is to realize that we are all human and will make mistakes, including ourselves and have compassion for the human condition. Realizing that we are not perfect and that we have probably brought harm to our brother just as our brother has brought harm to us, helps us to forgive.

When we refuse to forgive we keep people locked in the space of our judgments and this energetically does damage to both of us. When we realize that their actions aren’t about us, they are more about their own woundedness, we are better able to have compassion for them and forgive.

Keeping our energy and our mind in the present helps us with our healing both emotionally and physically. When were able to do this we can be in a place of love and not fear. So I encourage you to look at all the places where you’re holding onto resentment and replay how you will let go and forgive and bring yourself into this present moment.

If you want to stop holding onto the past and forgive and grow through them, check out my Personal Retreat or couples retreats and remember that I also do mentoring. Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“I walked into this retreat feeling overwhelmingly sad, broken and alone. I am walking out empowered awake and at peace. To say that this retreat was life changing would be a huge understatement. This work is incredible and creates huge shifts. I’ve done self-improvement work for over a decade, but nothing ever really changed for me.

This work with Debra made it clear why nothing had ever worked before. She is an incredibly warm, sincere and loving person who creates a beautifully safe place to work in. I don’t want to leave! All I can say is you deserve this retreat. Love yourself enough to give yourself this gift. I will be forever grateful that I get it.”
-Melissa

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Finding Strength Through Our Trials

Finding Strength Through Our Trials

Finding Strength Through Our TrialsHow hard is it to find strength through our everyday trials?

We have all been in a place where the pressures of life have been insurmountable and unbearable. We find ourselves wondering if we will have the strength to make it through. Sometimes we notice that as we are just making it through some major difficulty, there is another obstacle right on its heels. How do we endure one loss after another or withstand several health issues right on top of each other.

I remember a neighbor when I was younger going through one tragic loss after another with her family. Her family of eight dwindled down to two within a three-year period of time. With every loss of her family members, this mother seemed to have a resilient quality about her. All I kept thinking about was how, how can she make it through this.

When we look back at our lives, we see that we have survived many tribulations and often wondered how. It always amazes me the strength that we have. Just when we thought we couldn’t handle any more, we seem to. Sometimes we make it through by just putting our heads down and barreling through and other times we just sink into deep compassion for ourselves and let go.

I look at each obstacle in my life as an opportunity for me to go deeper into my learning and also know that when they are piled on top of each other there’s going to be a huge breakthrough. When I’m deep in it sometimes I can’t see it unless I quiet my mind and look at the deeper meaning of the obstacles. This helps me move through challenging situations with greater ease along with surrendering to what life is and not pushing up against it.

If you are having a hard time with challenges and moving through them, I urge you to check out my Personal Retreats. If you are going through tough times with the partner maybe couples retreat would fit your needs better. Either way you will learn the tools you need to learn to accept life as it is and learn to grow through tough situations.

If you want to learn how to move through tough situations and grow through them, check out my Personal Retreat or couples retreats and remember that I also do mentoring. Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“I walked into this retreat feeling overwhelmingly sad, broken and alone. I am walking out empowered awake and at peace. To say that this retreat was life changing would be a huge understatement. This work is incredible and creates huge shifts. I’ve done self-improvement work for over a decade, but nothing ever really changed for me.

This work with Debra made it clear why nothing had ever worked before. She is an incredibly warm, sincere and loving person who creates a beautifully safe place to work in. I don’t want to leave! All I can say is you deserve this retreat. Love yourself enough to give yourself this gift. I will be forever grateful that I get it.”
-Melissa

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

#1 Best Seller! Debra Beck, Contributing Author:

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Staying with Feelings

Staying with Feelings

How difficult is it to stay with your feelings? Staying with Feelings

We live in a world that promotes escaping our feelings. If we are depressed, doctors give us pills so we don’t feel the deep sadness. When we have physical pain we also get pills to take away the physical pain. I understand why being with feelings is so difficult. In the midst of the trigger where feelings come up of anxiety, anger or deep sadness our first reaction is to do something to not feel it anymore.

Also who wants to feel physical pain, this is why we work so hard to alleviate it, this I understand. But when feelings come up it’s critical to sit with them and explore them and not medicate them. So many times the minute we feel anything, our reaction is either to fix the situation creating the feelings, or to shut down or even to the blast the person that triggered us. It’s so important to realize that these are our feelings that have nothing to do with them.

When we stay with our feelings we are able to examine them and shift the old limiting belief that is creating them. This way we do our work instead of projecting our feelings outside of us. This is an inside job.

If we just stuff our feelings we will end up storing them in our minds and in our bodies and this is when we will hold anxiety that will create other health issues. This is why it is so important that no matter how big our feelings are, the best thing we could do for ourself is to be with them.

Unfortunately we live in a culture that doesn’t support emotional awareness this is why we tend to push away our feelings. However I believe things are shifting. The more we look at mind, body, and spirit, the more we become aware of the importance of our feelings. There are so many retreats, workshops, and books that help us deal with our emotions. My personal retreat is all about looking at what feelings you have and why they are there and handling them in a healthy way.

When we allow ourselves to feel fully when our feelings are present, we tend to move through them with greater ease. This isn’t so easy when you don’t have the tools to be present with them. This is by my personal retreat is so critical.

If you want to learn how to be with your feelings and shift limiting beliefs that are holding you back to help you on your spiritual path, check out my personal retreat and remember that I also am a spiritual teacher Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“I walked into this retreat feeling overwhelmingly sad, broken and alone. I am walking out empowered awake and at peace. To say that this retreat was life changing would be a huge understatement. This work is incredible and creates huge shifts. I’ve done self-improvement work for over a decade, but nothing ever really changed for me.

This work with Debra made it clear why nothing had ever worked before. She is an incredibly warm, sincere and loving person who creates a beautifully safe place to work in. I don’t want to leave! All I can say is you deserve this retreat. Love yourself enough to give yourself this gift. I will be forever grateful that I get it.”
-Melissa

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

#1 Best Seller! Debra Beck, Contributing Author:

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Achieving Peace Through a Personal Retreat

Achieving Peace Through a Personal Retreat

Achieving Peace Through a Personal RetreatHow to achieve peace through a personal retreat! 

Most of the time we look outside of ourselves at the world full of chaos and we feel compelled to transform that situation so that we can have inner peace. We often become very disappointed because our attempts to change the outside world only bring us frustration and more friction inside of ourselves.

Finding peace within our self starts inside our own heart and inside our mind. It is not an outer journey. When we truly look inside ourselves to find peace this is how we bring peace to the world. Imagine if everyone was doing their inner work and shifting them selves to become more calm and peaceful. If we are full of anxiety and friction our outside world will show up as a mirror.

So the first step to creating the world that we want outside of us is to go inside and do our work. People who create peace internally are not really different from us, they have the same ego mind talking to them, the only difference is they’re not listening or acting out of those thoughts. We’ll have the choice to buy into that chatter of old beliefs or recognize that the chatter is not true and move through life being who we truly are.

This is what meditation teaches us, to just recognize our thoughts and bring it back to the present moment. Our chatter, old believes keep us from being in this present moment. So when we recognize the chatter instead of going deeper into the story line we can wake up and recognize that this is just chatter and to bring ourselves back to the present moment.

Being in the story of the old beliefs keeps our vibration lower, when we start to recognize how buying into the untrue story line hold us hostage, we are better able to let go of it.

If you want to create a more peaceful life and shift limiting beliefs that are holding you back to help you on your spiritual path, check out my personal retreat and remember that I also am a spiritual teacher Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“I walked into this retreat feeling overwhelmingly sad, broken and alone. I am walking out empowered awake and at peace. To say that this retreat was life changing would be a huge understatement. This work is incredible and creates huge shifts. I’ve done self-improvement work for over a decade, but nothing ever really changed for me.

This work with Debra made it clear why nothing had ever worked before. She is an incredibly warm, sincere and loving person who creates a beautifully safe place to work in. I don’t want to leave! All I can say is you deserve this retreat. Love yourself enough to give yourself this gift. I will be forever grateful that I get it.”
-Melissa

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

#1 Best Seller! Debra Beck, Contributing Author:

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What is Possible in a Adult Mother Daughter Retreat?

What is Possible in a Adult Mother Daughter Retreat?

The possibilities in a Adult Mother Daughter Retreat of growth are huge!

There are so many shifts possible in a mother-daughter retreat. As long as the mother and the daughter are both in a place where they can commit to their own personal development and owning their part. The one obstacle that cannot be overcome is if one of the parties is deep in an addiction. Whether it is an alcohol addiction, prescription drugs or any other addiction, it’s impossible to look at yourself when you’re medicating to such a high degree.

Unfortunately I get calls from adult daughters wanting to create a healthier relationship with her mother, but their mother is wrapped up deep in her addiction. As long as the mother isn’t willing to look at her addiction and go to recovery, the only advice I have to the daughter is to stop trying to fix your mother and set strong boundaries and go to Al-Anon and Co-da meetings.

Whether it is the mother or the daughter that is the addict, they are both participating in the addiction. The problem is the person that doesn’t have the addiction doesn’t really see how their behavior is playing out in the addiction as much as the addicted party. They are working on changing the addict and being very codependent. Most of the time they are living with another addict and playing their behaviors out there as well..

Because I’m not able to work with the addict, I work with the one in the addictive relationship to see if we can shift their perspective so that they can shift their behaviors. Otherwise if they don’t look at themselves and do the necessary work they will continue to be in relationships with addicts.

To be a part of the amazing shifts that a mother-daughter retreat provides both people have to be really willing to be honest and authentic and unfortunately if you are using in any way you are not capable of being honest with yourself or others. So to participate in any type of self-development is a waste of time until you are clean and sober.

If you are interested in a Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or you are in relationship with an addict, let’s talk. Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what mother and daughters are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Is There a Message in Physical and Emotional Pain?

Is There a Message in Physical and Emotional Pain?

Is There a Message in Physical and Emotional PainWhat is the message we might be missing when we try to get rid of our physical or emotional pain?

When we feel pain whether it is physical or emotional, our first impulse is to get relief. When we are feeling emotional pain we tend to medicate with drugs, alcohol, shopping, fixing others, complaining or a multitude of other ways to get relief. When we have physical pain we try to move away from it through medication, massage, or other alternative resources. We have a hard time being with pain, we are in a big hurry to get rid of it.

We forget that pain whether emotional or physical is a way of letting us know something needs attention. When something triggers us emotionally we know that this is an opportunity for us to look at ourselves in a deeper way and change limiting beliefs. When it is a physical pain it could be something as simple as a headache telling us that we haven’t eaten or something more major that is letting us know of an emotional issue that hasn’t been dealt with. In both situations if we pay attention we will know what to do to heal ourselves.

I remember quite a few years ago when I had a neck issue and was really working hard to get rid of it through aspirin, heat, chiropractic care, etc. When I was talking to one of my teachers, she asked me if I was willing to explore the pain. What this meant was to not try to get rid of it and just be with it. So what I did was I leaned my head into the pain and when I did that I remember so many emotions coming up. I continued to just be with it and cry. I believe that I was releasing old trauma and exhausting karma. This lasted about an hour and after leaning into and being with the pain, I noticed that there was huge relief.

It’s important to pay attention to wherever the pain is so that we can grow and evolve through it, not get stuck in it. I teach the importance of being with our emotional and physical pain in my personal retreats.

If you have fears about allowing the pain to surface and want a mentor to help you on your spiritual path, or you’re interested in a personal retreat. Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“I walked into this retreat feeling overwhelmingly sad, broken and alone. I am walking out empowered awake and at peace. To say that this retreat was life changing would be a huge understatement. This work is incredible and creates huge shifts. I’ve done self-improvement work for over a decade, but nothing ever really changed for me.

This work with Debra made it clear why nothing had ever worked before. She is an incredibly warm, sincere and loving person who creates a beautifully safe place to work in. I don’t want to leave! All I can say is you deserve this retreat. Love yourself enough to give yourself this gift. I will be forever grateful that I get it.”
-Melissa

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

#1 Best Seller! Debra Beck, Contributing Author:

Healthy, Wise & Amazing Women

Intimate Interviews with Everyday Women Living Powerfully!

eBook Now Available Here For a Special Price 0f $4.95

 
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