The Importance of Loving Yourself

The Importance of Loving Yourself

The Importance of Loving YourselfFor as long as I can remember I have felt poorly about my body and myself. I remember being 15 years old and slamming my looks and being so critical of my body. It took me many years to come to terms with loving myself. What helped me most is realizing I am truly not this body, I am spirit. That my essence is beautiful and I am a Being of love. When we identify with our bodies and believe that this is who we are, it becomes very important that it look a certain way and act a certain way.

Knowing that I am here in this physical form to evolve and be more Godlike (Love), helps me to know that I am not my body, it is just a vehicle I am using to grow. One of the most important things I can do in this lifetime is learn to love myself so I can love others and be in service in the world. A client sent this to me and I just love it.

Pretty Ugly

I’m very ugly
So don’t try to convince me that
I’m a very beautiful person
Because at the end of the day
I hate myself in every single way
And I’m not going to lie to myself by saying
There is beauty inside of me that matters
So rest assured I will remind myself
That I am worthless, terrible person
And nothing you say will make me believe
I still deserve love
Because no matter what
I am not good enough to be loved
I am in no position to believe that
Beauty does exist within me
Because whenever I look in the mirror I always think
Am I as ugly as people say?

(Now read from the bottom up)

The importance for self love is critical to having a healthy relationship with ourselves and others. Through my Individual Retreats, Mother Daughter Retreats, Couples Retreats and Mentoring programs you will understand the patterns in yourself that block love from flowing through you and to you.

If you are looking for support around loving yourself and others, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Asking for Help

Asking for Help

Asking for help, isn’t a sign of weakness! Asking for Help

How hard is it for you to ask for help?  Most of us prided herself on being self-sufficient, although some of us take it to a whole another level. It’s okay to be responsible for taking care of yourself and pulling your own weight in the world but it’s also important to be able to ask for help when needed.

I remember many years ago how hard it was for me to ask for help. Asking for help or accepting help when I needed it made me feel weak and inadequate. Because of losing my mother when I was newly divorced at 26 years old, with 2 young kids, I learned to do things myself at all costs. The problem with this process is that it took a toll of my health and well-being. 

Always being strong enough to do everything and never being able to ask for help or be nurtured was not only exhausting it made the people around me feel like I didn’t need them.  It also made them not want to ask me for help because they felt weak and dependent. 

Another area it affected was my healing when I was truly in a place to need care and would accept it. It would take a lot longer to recover because I would push myself before I was ready.

When we allow our self to be helped we can also sink into a place of deep gratitude.  How lucky are we to have people in our lives who are willing and want to show up for us. 

Another part of this equation is accepting the situation as it is. When we accept that we need help, then we can surrender to being taken care of and relax and heal.  We are partly resisting what is happening to us and then resisting help. The resisting in and of its self can prolong our healing.

It takes strength and insight to own our humanness and to accept that we have limits, just like everyone else. Understanding the human experience is a huge growth opportunity that provides humility and vulnerability. Both humility and vulnerability can soften the heart.

If you are looking for support around learning to be vulnerable and to know yourself better, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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How Important is You Time?

How Important is You Time?

How important is “You Time” for your well-being? How Important is You Time

I find it so critical to carve out time for only me during each day. It can be reading, meditating, being with friends, or doing anything that is relaxing. We act like a bottomless pit of energy that can keep going without renewal. Constantly filling our schedule with a long list of things we need to accomplish without considering how we are feeling. When we move through our days like this we often feel depleted, exhausted and totally disconnected from others and ourselves.

Most of us wear so many hats that is hard to find downtime and take care of ourselves. To truly be big in the world we need to make sure we are rejuvenating, not just checking things off our list. Besides taking care of yourself daily, and annual rejuvenating retreat, where you get away for 3 to 5 days is a great way to fill your cup back up.  I think retreats are wonderful because they force you to let go of your long list and just concentrate on yourself.

What normally happens in our day-to-day lives is our intentions are great to carve out a specific time for ourselves and then something that appears to be more important takes its place. This is why I make sure when I first wake up; the first hour is for me only. I meditate, stretch and read a little. I also try to end my workday at a reasonable time and take time in the evening to relax.

Women have a tendency to feel guilty or selfish when they take time for themselves. I have noticed that men have an easier time with this. Most of the time women even when they work they carry a larger load at home. It’s important to set boundaries around shared duties within the family team, because if this isn’t done the burden usually will fall on the woman.

When we are go-go going and not taking time to rejuvenate, we get exhausted and cranky. It is crucial for our well-being to make sure we have enough time for our self each day. And during this time for just you, you will get to hear what’s going on inside of you for your personal growth. When you are constantly on the go your personal growth gets ignored.

If you are looking for support around taking care of yourself, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Our True Authentic Self

Our True Authentic Self

Living in our true authentic self and feeling at peace! Our True Authentic Self

Whether we acknowledge it or not, our authentic self exists but unfortunately it is hidden under our limiting beliefs and fears. It is only through the recognition of these fears and beliefs that we can truly live in our authentic self.

I had a client today asked me why we would put so much emphasis on her limiting beliefs? She was curious if that would only bring them up more. I told her that if she is not fully aware of these beliefs, she will act out of them even if her intentions are not to. It’s critical to know what your belief system is so that you can start shifting them to a more positive belief, thereby shifting your entire life.

What I have noticed with the law of attraction is if you have an underlying belief that goes against what you are trying to attract it simply won’t matter how much you try to bring something to you, it won’t happen because of your underlying belief system. Let’s say you have a belief that you have to work hard for money or you have to do what I don’t love for money.  If you are working with the law of attraction trying to attract money, it will be very difficult to do so with these belief systems in play.

So we need to uncover what our belief systems are so that we don’t act out of them and  co-create with the universe, we can live out of our true authentic self. When we are acting out of our wounding or old belief system, we are in our ego mind, which is not who we are. When we have done our healing and shifted our beliefs, we undercover who we are.

When we live in our higher self we are in alignment with our true self and we feel like we are in the flow of life instead of feeling blocked.

If you are looking for support around being more conscious, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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The Blame Game

The Blame Game

It’s a beautiful time when we go inward for our healing instead of looking outside of The Blame Gameour self.

There is nothing we can do to make somebody else take responsibility for his or her own actions.  The only thing we can do is to make sure that we are taking full responsibility for our own actions and not getting wrapped up in the drama that is caused by them not accepting theirs. 

When we start to understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of what is inside of us, we see that there is no one to blame for the issues in our lives. When it comes to a difficult childhood or difficulties in a current relationship it is always a mirror of our old belief system that is inside of us.

It would seem to make sense to blame our fathers dysfunctional behavior for our bad relationships with the men in our life or our mothers criticism for our low sense of self. This is what our egos want to do. Instead of taking full responsibility for our own triggers, project them on to someone else.

The problem with this is that when we blame others for things that have happened or are happening that trigger us, we are in the wrong place for healing.  I love what a lot of teachers say about every event being a neutral experience until our skewed minds say something about it.  So each persons mind will say something different about the situation depending upon the lens they are seeing through.

The ego always wants to blame someone, even ourselves, which is a very aggressive action we take onto others and ourselves.  When we are in a position of blaming someone for how we feel it puts us in a very powerless position where they have to change their behaviors for us to feel good. This is why it is critical for us to take full responsibility for how we feel and not project them onto someone else.  The only way true healing can happen is taking full ownership of our feelings and shifting the underlying limiting beliefs.

Yes It is a beautiful time when we go inward for our healing instead of looking outside of our self!

If you are looking for support around being more conscious, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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Regret and Forgiveness

Regret and Forgiveness

The weight of regret and the lack of forgiveness. Regret and Forgiveness

When working with mothers and daughters, I notice that there is a lot of regret and an unwillingness to forgive. Regret can be something we have for things we have done in the past to others or ourselves. Mothers usually have regret about not showing up a certain way for their daughters. It is so important to forgive our inability to parent without having the tools we need at that given time. Forgiveness is so important and to grant us the grace for being human in those moments.

Daughters may have regrets about how they behaved while growing up and causing their parents such grief in their younger years. This also requires forgiveness and just knowing that you did the best that you could with a very young mind. We only know what we know in that moment and shouldn’t beat ourselves up for our blind spots.

Other regrets can just be about certain things in our past that we did or didn’t do and again we can only do what we are capable of doing and that particular moment. There is no reason to regret past situations. Each and every situation that happens, happens for our higher learning. The best thing we can do is embrace all of our past moments and behaviors and bring love to them.

When we hold on to regret it’s like having our past tied to us, which makes it tough to move forward. It saps our energy leaving us less available for the present moment because we are always in the past. Constantly feeding that part of our life can cause sickness as well. If we aren’t living in the moment and were feeding old issues it can create illness in our bodies.

Living in the past and our old issues can also re-create them because we are putting so much energy into the old belief. When we have regret it means we haven’t moved through or healed our old beliefs or childhood wounds.

When we bring in forgiveness it heals our regret. There are so many ways we can work on forgiving. The biggest thing I believe is to have an understanding that every situation plays out a certain way for my higher learning. When I have this way of thinking it helps me either not going to regret at all or forgive myself for something I was regretting. If you are struggling with regret and not able to forgive either yourself or someone else, you may want to have a conversation with the other person or even your inner child. Discuss what happened and come up with a way to let go, forgive, and move forward.

If you are looking for support around being more conscious, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion. 

If you are interested in my Individual Retreat, Adult Mother Daughter Retreat or a Couples Retreat or Mentoring so you can look at the things that aren’t working in your life and shift them, Click HERE to schedule your free consult. Or call me at 928-300-0447.

Also check out what clients are saying about me in their Testimonials!

“As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go. I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)

Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!”
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)

Debra Beck

Sedona Soul Retrieval 928-300-0447

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