At some point, we must pause and ask ourselves a hard question: When did we become okay with rallying for someone’s death simply because they believe differently than we do?
In our culture today, I see a growing trend of celebrating when someone we disagree with is harmed, even killed. Social media makes it easy to dehumanize people and forget that behind every headline, there are grieving families, wives, husbands, children, and communities. When I watched the conversations around Charlie Kirk’s death, I was deeply saddened. I didn’t agree with everything he said, but I never would want to see his life end because of his beliefs.
The fact that so many voices—on stage, in comment sections, across platforms—could meet his death with celebration rather than compassion is a stark reminder of how much fear drives us when we take sides.
Fear or Love?
Every time we divide ourselves into “us” and “them,” we are acting from fear. Fear says: If you don’t believe what I believe, you are dangerous. You must be destroyed. Love says: Even if I disagree with you, your life still matters.
We can’t claim to be “leveling up” as human beings or as spiritual seekers if our first instinct is to hate, to cancel, to destroy. True growth is measured in compassion. Compassion does not require agreement—it requires humanity.
Looking Inward
When anger arises and we feel compelled to lash out at “the other side,” that is the moment to look inward. What fear in us is being triggered? What wound inside us is looking for an outlet? Projection—whether through social media rants, cruel comments, or dismissive attitudes—is never the answer.
Instead, we can use these moments as invitations for inner work:
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Pause before reacting.
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Ask what fear or belief is being challenged.
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Choose compassion instead of judgment.
Teaching by Example
Our teens, our children, and even our peers are watching. What we model—hatred or compassion—teaches louder than anything we say. If we want a future grounded in love, it has to start with us now.
Let us show by example that we can disagree without destroying one another. That we can acknowledge pain and difference without abandoning our humanity. That we can look beyond sides and return, again and again, to love.
Whether you are a parent of a teen or just a parent, my book – What If Your Teen Isn’t The Problem? A Guide To Conscious Parenting is a great source of information to explore your fears and how you react through them.
If you want to practice more love in your life and understand your fears, check out my retreats and mentoring, individual intensives, a couples retreat, pre-marital retreat or a mother-daughter experience. You’ll walk away with a clearer path, a lighter heart, and a deeper connection to yourself.
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Sending Love, Debra
