The power of having expressive relationships! 
How important is it to express our selves and be heard in our relationships? How many relationships do you have in your life where you feel the freedom to express yourself without judgments? I know in my life I feel so honored to have a handful of relationships where I know I can talk about the things that are important to me and have someone witness my words without judging or trying to fix me.
I reserve my most intimate self for those people in my life and I also know how rare they are. We all long to be heard, understood, accepted and loved and vulnerable communication allows this. It also helps to have friends that process in a similar way to you, so that when you do take your issues to them they don’t create drama out of them, they help you see things more clearly so you can process them. This way you can continue to grow instead of getting wrapped up in the projections of your issues.
If your friends are triggered by your experiences they will not be able to hold space for you and hear you. They will normally try to fix it because they are having difficulty sitting with their own trigger so they can’t really show up for you. This is why it is so important to hold your expressions for those processing through their own issues so they don’t project them on to you.
We may only have one or two people in our lives that are capable of holding space for us without letting their own stuff come in. But, quite frankly that’s all we need. If we take what we are processing out to too many people, it gets very deluded and will be more difficult for us to move through it. I usually sit with myself first and figure out what is going on and then I may run it by one of my friends that I know will get it. She may be able to have more insight or just be a witness to my process; both are extremely important!
If you are looking for someone to process with and help you move through your issues, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion.
