What does it look like to get out of other peoples business and deal with your own?
Our biggest problem with our personal growth is that we stick our nose in other peoples business instead of staying in our own lane and paying attention to what’s going on inside of us.
When something comes up and we get triggered, our first reaction is to look outside of our self and fix it. If our partner does something that triggers us, we look at how we can change his or her behavior to make us feel better. This leaves us in a place of having to change outside interferences to feel better inside of our self. Impossible quest!
This is the first and biggest mistake we make in handling our feelings. If we look outside of our self to feel better, we expand our old beliefs; miss the learning, lose the connection to our higher self and our self.
Stay in your own lane!
When a trigger comes up it’s very hard to not blame others for how we feel and put the responsibility on them to make us feel better. The problem with this behavior is that we are in the wrong place, in the wrong lane. If we are feeling something, it has nothing to do with someone else; they didn’t do anything to us.
The only way to do your healing is to except full responsibility for your own feelings and make it an inside job. As you bring it inside of you, breathe and relax your whole body. As your body starts to release, then relax your heart. Stay out of the story line of what happened and only allow yourself to feel what you are feeling. Just be with the feeling and breathe and relax and let go and imagine the feeling releasing from your body.
If you do this every time you have a trigger, you will begin to heal your wounds from the past instead of creating more. Bring it in and heal, instead of projecting it outward and creating more.
It’s a beautiful process but sometimes can be tough, but it’s not as tough as the frenetic energy of your trigger when it’s projected outside of you.
If you are looking at how to do your personal work without drama, check out my retreats and mentoring. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion.