Why is processing our hurts so important?
When we aren’t looking at and understanding our childhood wounding so we can process through them, they will start becoming part of our personality.
Some of our personality quirks are actually coming from our reactions to our unhealed childhood wounding. It actually seems that it is a part of who we are and how we see the world. When we get triggered and react from our woundedness, this is not who we are, this pain is something that we need to acknowledge and process through.
The longer we wait to process through these triggers the more they become a part of our personality and our life becomes more explosive. Instead of waiting for this to happen, we can become empowered by going into the pain, being with it and recognizing it’s not about the situation, it’s about healing the old wounds.
Going inside and sitting with our feelings brings up a lot of resistance for most people. It’s not easy to look at why were triggered and bring it into ourselves instead of projecting it outside of ourselves. There’s something about projecting it outside of ourselves that gives us a little bit of relief for short period of time. The problem with this is that it keeps coming back so that we can heal it instead of project it.
When we carry those hurts inside of us and don’t heal them, it becomes a life sentence of pain. It takes a lot of bravery and dedication to do the work instead of projecting it outside of our self and reacting all over everybody else. If we can do this we will save ourselves a lot of suffering in the future.
The best way to heal your wounds is first you have to acknowledge your trigger and where the trigger is coming from. Then look at your old belief attached to it, then sit with the pain instead of run from it and begin to shift the old belief. It sounds easier than it is to actually do. It is a process that again takes an extreme amount of dedication.
If you would like to explore healing your wound and shifting your old beliefs , check out my retreats. The individual intensive, the couples retreat, or the mother-daughter retreat, you will learn about yourself and how to clean up your past so you can move through this life with love and passion.