Many of us have the belief that we are doing something wrong or that there is something wrong with us. This old belief could come from growing up in a family where no matter what you did, it was wrong, or someone was trying to fix you instead of addressing the issues going on in the family unit.
I grew up with an alcoholic father and a very reclusive mother. I was a very anxious child that didn’t do well in school and had a hard time sleeping. My parents were always trying to fix me or drug me to make me better, instead of dealing with the issues that were causing the problems.
I have an old belief that something is wrong with me, or I’m always doing something wrong. If anyone challenges my opinion or what I am doing, I notice my little girl getting triggered. If I didn’t realize it was my little girl’s wounding, I might defend myself and get upset, instead of just let my little girl know I understand why she is triggered, and I’m just not going to buy into that something is wrong with me; it’s just not the truth.
When you start working with yourself and challenging yourself to see clearly where your actual triggers are stemming from, it may seem like all your beliefs come up at once. You may tend to get discouraged or feel overwhelmed initially. All that is required at that point is to recognize that the thoughts in your head are only your little girl’s voice. It’s not actually who you are. Your higher self is always watching the drama occur and is always able to step in at any moment and be the parent. Normally just saying, “I’m triggered,” sets the higher self into play.
If you want to shift this belief, you have to take the action to not defend your position that you are wrong. If you defend it you are buying into that in fact you were wrong. A simple “I can see how you would feel that way” is all that is needed. What others think and do has nothing to do with you.
Just remember that as long as you continue to work with yourself, the idea that you are doing something wrong may arise, but it’s simply not true. In fact, what you are doing is perfectly right.
