Let’s look at being an adult in your relationships. Whether it be in your partnership, friends, or with your children and how a personal retreat can change your outlooks and reactions to those around you.
How do you behave when you get triggered?
- Do you shut down and walk away?
- Do you yell and spew your anger?
- Do you shut down completely and withhold?
- Do you get so emotional you can’t gather up the pieces?
- Do you defend your position and get lost in your story?
- Do you go into fix-it mode and try to control the situation?
- Do you take all the blame just to have it go away?
- Do you pretend like it never happened and sweep it under the rug?
All of these behaviors are the acts of a little girl and not a mature adult. A mature adult would explore her feelings around the trigger, track where the feelings came from in her childhood, and then share those feelings with the person that triggered her to keep the lines of communication open and keep safety in the relationship.
When you behave like a child with any of the behaviors noted above, it closes down the heart space in the relationship and eliminates any hope for an intimate and close connection. If you haven’t done your work around your woundedness as a child, there is very little hope for you to behave like an adult during an upset/trigger.
During your personal retreat, you will learn all about your childhood wounds, how your little girl behaves when she is triggered, and how to shift the limiting belief in order to behave like a mature adult.
This process is growing the little girl up!
Not only do you behave like a little girl during an upset but also the emotions that run through your body are sometimes overwhelming and hard to ignore. Wouldn’t it be better to be able to look at all upsets from your higher self, which is calm and capable of making a decision, that will bring a win-win solution and keep all parties’ hearts open?
Acting from our higher self and living from our heart is always a much better solution for creating more connected relationships and more peace in the world in general. It is actually shocking how many people get affected by one person acting like a child.
A child is someone who cannot share their feelings maturely. We expect this behavior from children, not grown-ups. It is amazing how many grown people are living through their wounded little child and behaving immaturely.
