It’s funny, I was talking to a friend the other day about being alone and she said she loves it. Then I asked her when was she actually really alone, with no husband and no kids. She started looking a bit perplexed and said that she never viewed being alone as being without people around at all. She realized she had never truly been alone.
I have always had some anxiety around being alone. When I started exploring my belief about what alone was, I realized it had been skewed by my childhood. Because of being sexually abused as a child, I view being alone as dark, empty, scary, and full of angst. When I actually asked Alone what it was like to be him, he said, “Calm, quiet, relaxing and peaceful.” Wow! I was shocked because I had misjudged Alone totally.
I started to get to know Alone in a new way, seeing past my old limiting beliefs from my childhood to really seeing what Alone was. We do this often with a lot of views we have. We see them through our little girl’s eyes and she has a skewed view of things. If we continue to see through her eyes and live through her beliefs, we will live our lives with an abundance of fear and judgment.
This is not how I want to live!
I want to live in my higher self with purpose, joy and happiness. If I am in fear it will be impossible for me to live there. When I come from this place of joy and purpose, my life unfolds organically with a flow that feels calmer. This isn’t to say that I’m never triggered. It means that when I am triggered, I know that I am buying into my little girl’s skewed way of thinking. Then I bring in my higher self and set my little girl/ego straight. When I do this right at the onset of the trigger, the heat comes out of the trigger and I support a higher way of living, not my old way of believing through my lower self/little girl.
