Can we change the things that trigger us? 
There is always going to be situations and people in our lives that trigger us that we can’t control. It’s more about how we respond to these people or situations that determine how we feel in our lives. The amount of suffering we do is in reference to how much we take things personally and try to control our environment.
We mostly try to avoid people that don’t behave the way we want them to so that we don’t get bugged. But is this possible, to avoid all situations and people that annoy us? Wouldn’t it be better to utilize the situation to grow spiritually, to actually realize that is what it’s here for. From a spiritual point of view our annoyances are our biggest teachers. These annoyances show us where we are with our personal growth.
Life isn’t just going to be a bed of roses. Life is uncomfortable circumstances such as, illness, money contractions, relationship drama and a lot of other annoyances. If we try to control the things that trigger us, we are in the wrong place for our spiritual development.
It is about how we respond to our triggers that is important, not changing the situation so it doesn’t trigger us. If that were the case we would be trying to change everything in our life so that we could not suffer. The goal of our spiritual awakening is to use all of our situations to evolve and wake up more and more each day. We know when we are evolving when we really act out less to outside stimulation and we bring our learning inside of us.
The more we put our attention outside of ourselves the further away we get from growing spiritually. It is always the presence of annoying people and experiences that provide us with our ultimate opportunity to develop. The great thing about this lifetime is that there is going to be plenty of opportunities to practice.
