The possibilities in a Adult Mother Daughter Retreat of growth are huge!
There are so many shifts possible in a mother-daughter retreat. As long as the mother and the daughter are both in a place where they can commit to their own personal development and owning their part. The one obstacle that cannot be overcome is if one of the parties is deep in an addiction. Whether it is an alcohol addiction, prescription drugs or any other addiction, it’s impossible to look at yourself when you’re medicating to such a high degree.
Unfortunately I get calls from adult daughters wanting to create a healthier relationship with her mother, but their mother is wrapped up deep in her addiction. As long as the mother isn’t willing to look at her addiction and go to recovery, the only advice I have to the daughter is to stop trying to fix your mother and set strong boundaries and go to Al-Anon and Co-da meetings.
Whether it is the mother or the daughter that is the addict, they are both participating in the addiction. The problem is the person that doesn’t have the addiction doesn’t really see how their behavior is playing out in the addiction as much as the addicted party. They are working on changing the addict and being very codependent. Most of the time they are living with another addict and playing their behaviors out there as well..
Because I’m not able to work with the addict, I work with the one in the addictive relationship to see if we can shift their perspective so that they can shift their behaviors. Otherwise if they don’t look at themselves and do the necessary work they will continue to be in relationships with addicts.
To be a part of the amazing shifts that a mother-daughter retreat provides both people have to be really willing to be honest and authentic and unfortunately if you are using in any way you are not capable of being honest with yourself or others. So to participate in any type of self-development is a waste of time until you are clean and sober.
Is your mother daughter relationship in trouble?
Is your heart aching to reconnect?
Are you tired of being blamed for the problems?
