Most parents believe that they are here to teach and guide their children and because the children haven’t had a lot of life experiences, they have nothing to teach them. Part of this is true we do have a lot to teach our children and guide them through the turbulent years of growing up. But the other part of this that parents don’t recognize is that they are also our teachers. Because they are so new here they haven’t been burdened with all of the preconceived notions about objects, situations or people. They certainly don’t have the judgments that we have because of our entire life experiences. They also have an easier way of expressing themselves because they’re not worried about being judged.
One of the biggest lessons that children have to teach us is the pure excitement about the smallest things, their playfulness and their ability to be in the present moment with all that they do. If we look at all of our enlightened teachers these are some of the qualities they have.
When we look at children as our teachers and what we can learn from them, it puts us in the present moment with them and in our life. We tend to let go of our agenda and give up the lead and let things unfold. When we play as children play we return to innocence, not having to know what’s next and just let go and let it flow.
When we love like children unconditionally, this allows us to drop all of our judgments about how people should be and what people should be doing. When we play like children we also let go of being judged. Have you noticed how children play, they run around, spinning, and doing anything they want and not caring what people think of them. So how sweet would that be to love and play like a child.
My two daughters had been my two biggest teachers in my life. They have taught me patience, non-judgment, how to say no, boundaries and just pure letting go. They also teach me what old beliefs I need to shift because they trigger them daily, so I get a lot of practice on shifting those limiting beliefs.
What a beautiful gift my children have been and what a beautiful learning.
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.