What will it take to be ready for love? 
Do you have love in your life? Is it the love you want? Do you feel like it’s not enough? I hear from my married clients that their partners are not fulfilling them; they aren’t affectionate enough or present. When I hear this I usually ask them “are you fulfilling yourself, are you giving yourself all the love you deserve and are you present with yourself and other people?”
If we aren’t showing up for ourselves we will not bring in partner that we fulfill us. We must be sure that the qualities we want in a partner we have as well. If we don’t have specific qualities that we demand our partner to have, we will only bring in a relationship that is vibrating at the same level as we are.
I have a lot of single friends and I myself am single as well. Most of my friends are in pursuit of a partner. I know what it’s like to have a deep yearning to be in relationship. My practice today has been to surrender to how my life is now, no matter what it is, relationship or not!
A part of being ready for love is being okay if you’re not in partnership and look at your deep yearning for one. If you are yearning desperately for a relationship you may settle for someone that isn’t right for you. The biggest thing I have realized is that the love is already here, it’s the love I have for myself. If a partner isn’t in my life, then I’m not ready for the one I want.
I always find that it’s important to list the qualities you want in your partner and make sure you have those qualities. Also it’s important to ask yourself what could be keeping love away. Do you feel worthy of love, are you so picky that the perfect partner will never show up, or maybe you are scared of closeness. Do you have a core belief that you are unlovable?
Look deeply at yourself and how you love yourself and others. If you have old beliefs in the way, start to shift them. If your standards are over the top to high, analyze that. You must prepare the ground to bring in the love you so deserve and want. Without the preparation it will be tough to be open and receptive.
