Is it possible to break through our fears and make healthier choices in our life?
I have a client that is totally debilitated by her fear. The decisions that she mostly makes are based on making sure she doesn’t touch up against her fear. The problem with that she’s in a pattern of doing things where she doesn’t take care of herself thereby lowering her self-esteem and keeping her in dysfunctional situations.
Anything worth doing will have some fear attached to it. It could be a new career, getting married, or getting divorced, speaking your truth, or making a decision to change locations, like moving. So obviously there is good fear and there is fear from our childhood wounding. We are not talking about valid fear where you’re afraid to walk down a dark alley. I think we know the difference between valid fears and fears that keep us from moving forward
Fear can make us feel totally off balance with insecurity and uncertainty. It’s important to look at where this fear is coming from and work through it so it doesn’t stop us from doing the things that we would like to do or should do in our life. In regards to my client above she is in a very dysfunctional marriage and the fear of not being taken care of financially is keeping her in this relationship. Now, I totally understand a fear of not being able to financially take care of yourself, I was divorced when my kids were four and five and had no idea what I was going to do for a living. I had to make a decision at that time to either stay in an unhealthy relationship or plow through my fears and create a healthier situation for my children and myself.
Fear is Only as Deep as the Mind Allows!
To understand fear we have to be able to allow our self to feel it, then to know that its purpose is to notify us that we are on the edge of our comfort level. Whenever we face our fear, we overcome an inner obstacle and move into new and life changing space. The more we learn about our fears and start to embrace the fears, the more will be able to hear the wisdom of the fear. When we face fear it seems to lose its heat, at least in certain situations.
I believe when we don’t address fear; it owns us and creates havoc in our life. We seem to be in chaos when we don’t face it head-on. The best thing we can do with situations that create fear is to really explore what we are afraid of and if it isn’t a valid fear, to do our best to take the action that moves through the situation even though were experiencing fear.
