Do you want to bring Intimacy into your relationship through a Sedona couple’s retreat?
Are you looking for a better way of communicating and feeling closer to your primary partner? Have you tried couple’s counseling with no luck? What does it take to have a successful outcome in therapy, counseling or a couple’s retreat?
First, it takes two people in a partnership who are willing to change, learn and grown in order to form a more rewarding relationship. This takes a certain amount of awareness and understanding of the part each of you play. Do you blame your partner? Does your partner blame you? If either of you believe that the problem lies with the other one, are both of you willing to re-examine your own actions and motives? And finally, it takes a lot of practice, patience and kindness.
Are you in a relationship with someone who isn’t aware of their behavior and blames you for most things, is unwilling to go to therapy, and yet for some reason, you still want to stay and try to work it out? If so, then it’s time to look at yourself and ask why.
For a partnership to have intimacy, both must contribute at a very high level. Most of the participation involves looking at your own beliefs and limits. We always come up against our limits when it involves love in a relationship. This is why relationships are such a wonderful place for mutual healing, if both parties have interest in doing the work.
Critical to a harmonious relationships:
- Two people participating at a high level
- An awareness of yourself and your woundedness
- Desire to wake up to your shadow side
- Practicing the tools
- Patience with yourself and partner
- Kindness with yourself and partner
Most partnerships will not change unless each participant shifts. So, if you are looking for your relationship to be more loving and close, look at what you aren’t bringing to the table. Start working on your own stuff and stop expecting your partner to meet your needs. This would be the first place to start, even if your partner can’t participate.
We can only be concerned with our own personal healing, not because we don’t care about our partner, but because healing our partner isn’t our job. You are only capable of healing yourself. If you want to help your partner heal, the only way is through your own healing. We have enough on our plates with our own shadow side. Usually when we are in our partner’s business and looking at what isn’t happening over there, it’s because we don’t want to look at ours. The more you can see how your thoughts, words and actions affect the relationship, the greater the change in that relationship can be.
