I think it’s humorous when people find out I’m single and act as though it’s a bad thing. They say things like, “Oh, you’ll find that special person some 
day!”
Being single and being in a relationship each have their own ups and downs.
Life is about being with the highs and the lows, whether you are in a primary relationship or not. We learn while being alone as much as when we are in partnership. Our personal growth is what it’s all about.
Here are various ways we can view our situation:
- I love sleeping alone. I also love sleeping with a partner, as long as our energy is authentic.
- While single, I can do whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it. Oh, yeah, I can do that in a relationship as well.
- When I’m single, I don’t have the security of knowing I have someone to be with on the weekends. But I stretch myself to meet new and interesting people.
- As a single person, I am on my own financially. I also get to develop the part of me that thinks my safety is in money or a partner.
- Without a stable partnership, I have no consistent sexual relations. However, I can learn that my life is about more than my desires.
I think it’s wonderful to be in relationship as long as we are both doing our own work and able to grow through our partnership. Most of the couples I have seen are together because they don’t want to be single. They are afraid of being alone, not having enough money or maybe how the kids will be affected.
Personally, these are not good enough reasons for me to be in partnership!
I am learning about the freedom that comes with being single, the freedom from my lower self/inner child fears. I do not want to be in a relationship because I am afraid.
I think walking away from a relationship is one of the hardest things a person can do. But I also think that being in a relationship that isn’t right for you is one of the most painful experiences as well.
Life in general is about being with the highs and lows, whether you are with someone or not. Some of the women I mentor believe that if they could just be in a relationship, their suffering would end. Our suffering is in our minds and life is about dealing with the good things that happen as well as the not-so-good things.
If you would like to learn either how to be single or in a partnership with grace, let’s connect.
