How do we work through our pain and heal our unhealed wounds?
Throughout our life it is hard to realize how our unhealed wounds affect us. If we are processing and really paying attention to our behaviors, it will be easier to recognize what woundedness we have ignored.
Many of us are aware of this underlying current of either pain, anxiety or fear that we have felt for quite some time that has been left unresolved. These feelings have become a part of who we are. We get use to them. It isn’t until we are in crisis, when our feelings are too strong to ignore, that we wake up and must do something.
It’s important to realize that whether we’re in crisis or the pain is constantly residing, it needs to be understood and processed. It’s when we don’t attend to our feelings that they become a crisis and will be tougher to deal with. Even when things seem impossible is important to take small steps toward our healing. If we sit back hoping they will go away they will usually get bigger.
Just thinking about moving through our wounding gives most of us feelings of anxiety and resistance. If we can connect and embrace any pain or feelings that we are having and look at what old beliefs are attached to them, we will have a better chance of shifting them. You can only sweep issues under the rug for so long before the pathway is impossible to get through.
Taking on our pain is a brave path!
If the crisis is too big for you to handle, it’s important to seek outside help and support of family and friends. Seeking a mentor, counselor, spiritual teacher or therapist is critical because friends and family are not equipped to handle such crisis. If you are not with a therapist and you only depend on friends and family, there’s a good possibility that you will deepen your wounding and expand your old beliefs. Talking incessantly about your pain and how you’re unable to handle it isn’t helpful.
In seeking healing for our selves is important to look at all options. For me the most important option for healing is making sure I have a spiritual teacher, then looking outside for other practice’s to move my healing along. This could be through spiritual healing books, meditation practice, sitting and exploring my pain, yoga nidra, craniosacral, exercise and eating right. Taking care of our self is a critical part of our healing. If we aren’t eating, sleeping or getting the proper exercise during these times it will put us deeper into our wounding. Whatever path you choose, commit to going deep into your pain so that you may release it and free yourself. No matter what age you are, if you are experiencing deep sadness and pain, now is the time for your healing.
The reason we are on this planet, using this physical body that we have, is to heal the wounds that bind us and stop us from being pure love.
