Is a mothers support critical?
I have found that no matter what age we are it is so important to have the support of your mother. I lost my mother when I was 26 years old and even though she wasn’t the most supportive mother, the little bit she did support felt lost when she died.
I notice in all of my mother-daughter retreats whether they are teens or adult daughters, the daughter is always looking to the mother for advice, support, and love, the need for a mothers care never seems to dwindle. The mother-daughter relationship is a very sensitive connection and it’s important to make sure that it’s healthy. This is why my mother daughter retreats are life-changing.
I just wrapped up in adult mother-daughter retreat where both mom and daughter came in completely closed off to each other and it was breaking both of their hearts. The daughter was very sensitive and needing love and acceptance from her mother. Through the retreat they came out the other end after looking at their own behaviors, projections and old beliefs and shifting them. One of the biggest things I noticed was the adult daughter still looking for the mother’s love and support. It just doesn’t seem to ever go away.
The daughter will see herself through the mother’s judgments unless she does work on herself to know that no matter how her mother shows up she is okay. Even though we work on them owning their own feelings, when a mother shows compassion and support it helps the daughter reconnect with herself.
The mother-daughter dynamic is so special and when it is broken it is hard for a daughter to be big in the world unless personal work is done and she has moved through it. It is possible for a daughter to not have the support of a mother and be perfectly healthy although when the mother is involved in the transformation, it makes a big difference.