Handling conflict in your life can be tricky. How do you do it?
When conflict arises and you may possibly feel the heat of emotions, do you act out or bring your emotions in? When that initial heat of a trigger happens, if we can bring our minds to compassion and love instead of anger, it immediately diffuses the trigger. When we go to love and compassion, we bring our being into a calm place and can respond to someone instead of reacting through the heat of anger.
Whenever there is a disagreement it is always better to approach it with an open heart. It is important to have respect for one another and put aside your judgments and blame. It’s important to always ask yourself why am I feeling triggered in this moment? Conflict is unavoidable and it’s a great way to heal unresolved trauma and shift old beliefs. Instead of being frustrated when conflict comes into our lives, we could get excited because we know there is higher learning right around the corner.
If we look at the conflict as a way to get the person to see things our way, we may be creating a bigger disagreement and feeding the anger around the conflict. If you realize this isn’t something you have to fix and instead go inside to see where your feelings come from and work on shifting your old limiting beliefs around it, this is where you will find peace. Not only will you find peace but you will be creating peace within the situation.
It’s important to be examining your lower self/ego and what it is saying and telling you. It takes practice to slow down and be able to catch your ego that loves conflicts and actually looks for ways to cause conflict. If conflict comes to you, there is a reason. The reason is you need healing in the area it is reflecting. Put your attention there, not on the conflict or situation. To come from a place of love, we have to be able to shift out of our ego minds that are full of fear. If you can stay out of your fear and move into love, you will be better prepared to bring the conflict to a loving space.
In my mentoring sessions, clients are amazed at how easy it is to get highjacked by their ego’s and allow a situation to spin out of control. In my personal retreats you will learn how to manage your ego and live in your higher self.
