Are you acting out of the wounded part of you and your old beliefs?
Does your mother or daughter bring the wounded parts of you up to the surface?
There are a few old beliefs I have noticed that play out regularly in most people’s lives. Here are two that I see often: I’m not good enough and I’m always doing something wrong. I have been doing this work for quite a few years and these two beliefs seem to hit me the strongest. When people get triggered and then snap at me, the little girl in me goes right to; I’m doing something wrong and I’m not good enough.
The first thing I do when I get triggered around these beliefs is get to my little girl as fast as I can. If I don’t, my ego will and my ego will have me defending my position, making sure that they know that I didn’t do something wrong and I am good enough. Usually it takes a bit to calm my little girl down. The good thing is, that I am aware that it is the wounded part in me that is upset, not the adult higher self in me.
There is nothing we can do to return to the past and make our parents, parent us differently. They did the best that they could do, taking into consideration how wounded they were from their childhood. The only thing we can do to heal these wounds and shift these beliefs is to parent ourselves in the present moment with empathy and compassion.
The beautiful thing about this work is that while we are giving our inner child empathy and compassion we can also feel it for parents. It is so important for us to show up for that little girl inside of us, so that she can start feeling safe with the world. When we feel safe in the world, we show up for others through our higher self, not our little girl.
The little girl in us can be very emotional and very needy, so if we try to show up for others through this emotional and needy place, you can see how we might be trying to get something from someone else rather than give.
This healing process is so magical, because it doesn’t only affect us, it affects everyone in our lives. It’s amazing to se how doing this work, shifts the mother daughter relationship.
In all of my retreats, whether it be, the individual intensive, mother-daughter, or the couples retreat you will learn how to recognize your inner child, love yourself, shift these old beliefs and show up differently in the world.