I wrote this for my Empowered Teens and Parents site and really thought it would be good for my Sedona Soul Retrieval, incase their were any parents. Look at how you can empower yourself to empower your teen.
What do you desire for your teen? Do you want them to be empowered, to be happy, caring, and respectful? Do you want them to be able to communicate well and to fulfill their dreams, to love themselves, to be confident, independent and self assured? How about hoping they will make good decisions, be productive in life, be kindhearted, and have really good values?
If so, how can we help empower our teens? We can:
- listen to them
- step into their reality
- give them more praise and less criticism
- let them follow their dreams and not push our dreams on them
- teach them how to manage their life knowing that they are on the biggest learning curve of their life
- allow mistakes to be the pathway to learning
- be a role model showing them that you can handle challenges without losing your cool
Take a moment and think about what stops you from empowering your teen.
Fears and triggers are a big reason why we don’t follow through. And when we react to our teen rather than support him or her, they tend to shut down and stop listening to us. Instead, they begin listening to their peers, the exact opposite of what we want. We want to guide our own teens.
Take a look at your behavior when you are around your teen. What are your fears and triggers like when it comes to your teen? The answer is probably many things. Bad grades, drugs, too much internet, not listening, not respecting their bodies, getting with the wrong crowd, and their well being are just a few things to top the list.
So how do you stop reacting to your teen? First of all, you stop projecting your fears onto them and stop blaming them for your fears. Own your own feelings and stop believing that your teen is the cause of your fears. You have a choice. You can act from the higher self inside of you, the self that knows that your feelings come from what’s happening inside. Or you can act from your lower self, the inner child that’s very wounded and thinks that everything we feel is because of something or someone on the outside. It’s very important to understand that all of our feelings come from what’s happening on the inside, not on the outside. So if your teen does something that triggers you, it’s not about them. It’s actually coming from you, from a wound in your childhood that’s being triggered.
