Do you have guilt when you take time for yourself?
What does it look like to take care of yourself first, then attend to others? Most women think putting yourself first is selfish. They might even be called selfish, self absorbed, or narcissistic. Many men can go to work, go to the gym afterwards, come home and relax and it’s perfectly normal, encouraged even. I hear my women clients say, “He deserves to relax”, while they are running themselves ragged. Stay at home moms especially feel that they have to do everything. They have to take care of the entire household, the kids with chores, homework, discipline, any family emergency and still find time to take a shower.
When I am mentoring women, one of the biggest things we work on is being okay with putting your needs before others. It is important to take care of yourself in order to show up for others without resentment.
What does taking care of yourself actually look like?
- Realizing your needs are as important as others
- Processing through the guilt of taking care of yourself
- Doing things that you are passionate about
- Taking the time to eat right, exercise and get proper amounts of sleep
- Asking for help when you need it
- Setting good boundaries
- Doing things to pamper yourself like massages, pedicures, etc.
- Spending time with people outside your family
- Going to lunch with friends regularly
These are a few of the things you can do to take care of yourself. But the biggest and most important lesson to learn is that it is healthy for you to have a life filled with the things you want as much as anyone else. And it is important to understand that you are the only one who can make that happen. Learn how to meet your needs first in a women’s retreat. If you are ready to start loving yourself, call now to set up a consult.
