First, let’s talk about what a projection is. I was talking to a client this morning, and she was telling me that a friend, Katie of her daughter was concerned about the way her daughter was eating. A little background info is that her daughter watches what she eats carefully and has been diagnosed with a disorder concerning eating but not a full blown eating disorder. My client and her daughter are on top of this. The daughter sees a nutritionist, a mentor, and a doctor.
A group of the youths went out after a game for donuts at 11:00 PM and my client’s daughter said she would go but wouldn’t be eating a donut because it would make her feel crummy for tomorrow’s game. Katie said she and Katie’s mother were very worried about my client’s daughter’s eating habits and that my client’s daughter needed to see a therapist, and Katie wasn’t going to be able to hang out with my client’s daughter anymore.
Projection or Not?
It is a total projection. If Katie and her mother are having fears regarding my client’s daughter’s eating habits, it’s their trigger. They should go see a therapist and figure out why they are having so much fear concerning someone else’s behavior. Remember in my blog: Do Your Feelings Come from Inside or Outside of You?, where I talked about lower and higher consciousness?
Lower consciousness is where we feel the need to change other people’s behavior to make our self feel better, and higher consciousness is where we know our feelings come from inside of our self. So, in this situation, Katie and her mother would have to change a lot of people’s behavior in the world so that they wouldn’t feel afraid.
That’s impossible. We couldn’t change other people no matter how much we wanted to. We can only change how we react to the fear inside of us. It would be a good thing if Katie and her mother could look at where their fears are coming from and stop projecting them onto my client’s daughter.
