Why is disappointment so hard to handle? 
Disappointment is such a part of life. We usually feel disappointment because we have an expectation of how things need to turn out and they don’t. When things don’t go as planned we may feel an entire range of emotions from being sad from the let down to even angry.
Whether we are feeling disappointed with ourselves, others or a situation that happens in life, it isn’t always easy to deal with. Knowing that we will be disappointed, that disappointment is just a part of life and that we have choices on how we can handle it, may help.
With all of our feelings, including disappointment it always comes to us to help us grow and learn more about ourselves. The more we are able to accept our feelings around this the faster we can process through it and move into a better place of being. When we are having any feelings, it is always good to sit with them and explore why they are coming up. I notice that when I do not process through my feelings I may project them onto others. And when I project them onto others, there is no learning and no healing.
I think writing how we felt about the situation not turning out the way we wanted it to and what did actually happen, helps us get back into alignment. I believe one of the biggest gifts from being disappointment is to realize that life doesn’t always play out the way we want it to. In many cases, if we really look at the situation, the outcome may be better for us than what are expectations were.
I know for me disappointment often leaves me feeling hopeless and for me to turn it around I have to accept the reality of life and let go of any expectations I might have. When I am facilitating my personal retreats I notice what people get hung up on most is expectations. The expectations of someone behaving the way they need them to, life to play out the way they need it to or bad things not to ever happen. This just isn’t reality. In my personal retreat we explore what disappointment looks like, whatever fears are and how to look at our self through the reality of life.
