How do we release ourselves and grow from our experiences of suffering rather than become more constricted?
- Start to view suffering as an opportunity for your inner child to grow up. The experiences of life are an opportunity to become empowered, conscious, and a more compassionate person. We can begin to train our minds to see “difficult” situations as a friend and our greatest teacher. It is an opportunity to shrink the ego and connect to a more authentic you.
- Contemplate on the likeness and oneness of all people. If we are suffering with something in our lives, expand that thinking to the whole world. Others are also suffering with the same or worse experiences. If you find yourself agitated by being sick, think of all the people who might have a similar condition, or even worse. By practicing this type of thinking, we stay open, relax the mind, and soften the ego.
- Be grateful for what you do have. Take a moment to reflect on the things that bring you comfort or joy. Even if it seems superficial or forced at first, just begin. You could try, “Today, I am grateful I can walk, or speak.” It’s important to practice stepping into gratitude.
- Wish for happiness for others. If you find yourself in a situation that brings you suffering or grief, take a moment and make a wish that others suffering from something similar be alleviated. It not only helps you develop more kindness, but it lessens the intensity of your situation.
- Meditate on impermanence. We tend to think of things as constant and secure until they aren’t. By reflecting on the constancy of impermanence, we relax into a higher state of awareness. Then, when difficult situations do arise, as we know they will, we realize that this is the way of life. Life has its ups and it has its downs. Both are equally great!
- Develop an open heart. If we are willing to be kind to ourselves when we are going through a painful situation, our hearts naturally open to others. Having compassion for ourselves is the first place to start for having an open heart toward others.
Healing is not a magic trick. There are no quick fixes. It requires the willingness to look at ourselves honestly and see what is already there, no matter how painful. All of our experiences in life are opportunities for us to learn and connect more deeply with ourselves.
