How Does Being Alone Feel to You?
I am talking again about being alone because as the holidays were upon us, many of my clients expressed deep feelings of sadness around
not having family or friends and how they were feeling utterly alone.
This “alone” thing seems to be a big one for many.
Being alone isn’t difficult for everyone. In fact, for some, it’s actually enjoyable. For others, being alone feels horrible. It can be empty, scary, dark and disconnected. When my teacher asked me what “Alone” was saying to me, I said those exact words: empty, scary, dark and disconnected. But, when I sat in Alone’s seat and asked Alone what it was, it said it was peaceful, calm, connected and independent.
So, it was interesting how I saw being alone. We all have a skewed view of some things. My view of being alone, among other skewed views I have, came from my childhood experiences. If an experience we’ve had as a child isn’t positive, we will see things through that negative lens.
It’s so important to really look at our feelings and explore why we have them and what lens we are seeing these feelings through. Is it the lens of a scared little girl or the lens of our trusting higher self? If we will sit and reflect, we will see who we are seeing things through. Most of us don’t take the time or energy to be with our feelings long enough to go deeper into the actual sensations of anything to get clarity on
it.
I am encouraging you to go into how you feel, and check out who is feeling the darkness, emptiness, etc. and see if it’s skewed because of something that happened a long time ago that isn’t really the truth in the present moment as an adult. With the spiritual guidance in a personal retreat, you will learn about your skewed beliefs and how to shift them. We will uncover the blind spots that keep you stuck in a life that isn’t working for you.
If you are feeling alone or have other debilitating feelings, a personal retreat may help you see yourself more clearly and give you the spiritual guidance you need.
