To dramatically shift our beliefs requires taking the action that is the exact opposite of what our inner child tells us to do. That right action can be seen as our “higher self” telling our little girl/boy that she/he is not going to buy into the childhood wound and old limiting belief. Then, we must not do what our inner child is suggesting. In order to change our belief systems that come from our wounding, we, as the adult must take direct action.
An example of this may be, your partner does something that triggers you and you think, “I can’t handle this, I’m walking out.” This is the advice of your inner child. Now, you can listen to that voice and walk out, and the consequences would be no resolution, no healing, and no connection with yourself or your higher power.
When we are triggered, we tend to feel a reaction in our body. Our chest tightens, tears come to our eyes, our jaws may clench. Whatever the reaction, if we don’t deal with the trigger, the wounding stays in our body and actually reinforces our old belief systems.
For example, if my partner starts telling me a story and I’m triggered in the middle of it, I need to speak my truth right there in the moment. If the person is familiar with you referring to your little girl, then you can say, “Sorry for interrupting but my little girl is triggered. She thinks there is something wrong with her and actually I know that’s not the truth. The truth is there is nothing wrong with her and she is safe.” If the person isn’t familiar with the work you are doing, address it right there in your head and speak your truth to yourself.
Do not wait!
Waiting only creates stronger belief systems and reinforces the little girl’s behavior. Your little girl might think interrupting is rude and remain quiet because she doesn’t think she has rights. If you don’t say anything in the moment, you won’t be able to be present to the person anyway.
As you continue to take the right action and speak your truth, you become more and more honest with yourself and honest with others. You will notice that your beliefs will dramatically shift, and your life will open in a whole new way.
