How tough are some mother daughter relationships? 
It’s amazing to me how many calls I get regarding the mother-daughter relationship. It’s either a struggling mother with her teenage daughter or an adult daughter or mother wanting to get their relationship straight. It‘s interesting that I don’t get calls from father regarding their relationship with their daughter or son.
I was thinking about why this might be. First of all, mothers for the most part are more involved with issues regarding their kids, especially their daughters. This is purely a generalization. Not all moms are more involved, sometimes the father is. I believe another reason why I get more calls from mothers is as women we may be more emotionally attached.
When you look at how girls grow up playing with baby dolls, Barbie dolls and playing house, we start at an early age developing our emotional body. Boys on the other hand play with dump trucks with no one in them, moving dirt from one side to the next, or war games killing each other without any emotional attachment at all. Again remember this is a generalization.
There are a lot of emotions with the mother daughter relationship because both the mother-daughter is more connected to their emotional side then say a father-son. The work that we do in the mother-daughter retreat is looking at where these emotions come from and how they get acted out. If both parties can shift the beliefs that keep them reeling in their emotions then they can come into a more adult relationship.
I love working with mothers and daughters because both of them are so open and willing to look at their own behaviors and shift them to have a better relationship together.
The heartache that goes along with a strained mother-daughter relationship is so painful for both the mother and the daughter. It is a beautiful thing to see the mother-daughter relationship heal.
