Are Your Triggers Shutting You Down?
Have you noticed how open and loving you are until you get triggered? What about when a lot of triggers come in a row, what happens then? I hear my clients and friends say, “If they just wouldn’t have done that, I could stay open and love them.”
The problem is that triggers aren’t going to stop. People aren’t going to stop crawling under our skin. The world is never going to become a perfect place to be.
Triggers Are Good! We Learn About Ourselves Through Them!
Every time someone does something that makes our hair stand on end, it’s an opportunity to get to know ourselves better, to really see how we are operating through our little girl/lower self.
The challenge during a trigger is to become hyper-aware of what our little girl is thinking and how she is operating. Pausing and recognizing that our little girl/lower self is activated isn’t at all easy when we are in the heat of an emotional situation. Instead, if we can catch ourselves by noticing what our little girl is saying and not let her jump in and hijack our physical and emotional body, we could shift the outcome. If we can do this, we are less likely to shut down. Just recognizing that our little girl is activated is half the battle. The other part is not to do what she says and let her know that the old belief she is hooked into is just an old belief, nothing more.
Staying open to people is very challenging and pretty impossible if you aren’t doing some self-examination. Without really looking at ourselves, we will be in reaction mode, operating from the lower self, and when our little girl gets her feelings hurt, she can shut down, throw a fit, and go deeper into her story to try and make herself feel better. None of these behaviors promotes an open and loving environment.
When you get triggered, realize it’s your lower self/little girl and stop her from reacting. Go inside and take a good look at what the real truth of the situation is, not her delusional story.
