What is the point of complaining? Does it fix things?
Why do you think we complain or obsessively talk about an issue? I hear a lot of people say they are processing through it, getting it out of their system. On the contrary, agonizing over something doesn’t get it out of your body it actually makes it grow bigger. I think if we are trying to figure things out in our minds to process the issue, this could lead to going over it and then immediately getting down to business. The problem with our ego mind is that it wants to go over it over and over and over it and over it until you and everyone else are sick.
If you notice that you are lamenting over a problem a lot, stop and think about it. Pull the problem inside and see what feelings are coming up for you. Take the issue from the outside and bring it in. Are you processing through it or just complaining about it? Processing through an issue looks more like, realizing you are triggered and immediately connecting the trigger to an old belief and thanking your ego for sharing and telling it that you’re not buying into it.
If we let our ego minds go on and on about an issue, we expand that part of ourselves. I’m sure you are aware that the fire you feed gets bigger and the one you don’t dies out. Well, if you are feeding your ego mind it will grow and your higher self will die down.
When we first start doing this work our ego is huge. Then, as we practice bringing in the higher self and not buying into the ego our ego begins to dies down. So complaining about a situation that triggers you simply grows the ego. Our egos have enough power without us feeding it.
The only way to strengthen the higher part of us, the part of us that is love not fear, is to lean into the higher self not the ego mind. This is what I teach in my Individual Retreats. If our ego minds have power over us we will be reacting through our triggered fearful state and not healing the wounded part of us that will allow us to live in our loving higher self. The ego is full of fear and this is why we react when we are living through this part of our self. When we strengthen the higher self we are able to respond from a loving more calm space. Our egos cause us to suffer because of the fear that it has. The higher self just knows that everything is perfect for your higher learning.
