It might be easier to talk about what doesn’t cause fear in us, right? The biggest cause of fear is that we think we are separate from each other and source. I hear more than I care to admit from clients, friends and in myself at times, that we feel alone, isolated and separated.
For me when I think of the physical world as real, that’s when things get scary. What would be the point? If getting a better job, bigger house, the perfect boyfriend, etc. was the end all, no thank you! There just has to be more.
So what is the “More”?
The “More” for me is my evolution, for me to grow and be the best version of myself. How do I do that? First, I have to pay attention to my thoughts and actions. If my ego mind is telling me that I am separate, I have to thank it for sharing and say “I’m not buying into that old belief.” And then not take the suggested action, like trying to get away from my feelings of loneliness by medicating.
Another thing we do that cause fear is have expectations. We think things need to work out a certain way for us to be happy and content. When things don’t work out as planned, we are filled with fear and we suffer. Think about all the different expectations you have in your life, actually write down all the things in your life that you want to show up differently. Also write down how you feel when they don’t show up that way.
When we go out in the world and do things to get a certain result and things don’t work out the way we thought, we get very disappointed and fearful. It we are co-creating with the universe maybe our vision isn’t in our best interest and the universe has another plan. If we aren’t aware of our ego’s voice, it will be hard to be guided by the universe. We won’t be able to hear it because the ego is yakking to loudly.
Self-exploration is the only way we can face fear front and center. Look at it, figure out what it is saying and then don’t listen to it, no matter what. Ask Source what it has planned for us, what’s in our higher good. Deciphering our inner voices can be tricky and it usually takes an outside mentor to help you see things clearly. An individual retreat can give you all the tools you need to get the clarity you need to see your higher self and hear Source. When we are able to hear Source we are able to live in a place of Love, not fear and flow with ease and grace.
“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”
― John Lennon
