Learn how to slow down in a personal retreat. What’s your rush?
My first idea for this article was regarding dating, but what I realized as I began to write that it is also about life. Why are we in such a hurry to get things done and move on to the next thing? And why is it that when we meet someone we are in a hurry to make it something solid; like a commitment? What are we worried about?
I talk about fight or flight with my clients because they feel anxiousness in their bodies too often. When I ask them about why they have this nervousness inside of them, they say it is usually because they are having fear. Fear about not being where they think they should be or not getting things done that they think they should be getting done. Or maybe it’s having expectations in their life and things not going as planned.
Even thinking we should be more spiritual and always seeking with a certain amount of frenetic energy can make us anxious. I notice there are so many areas in our life that make us nervous.
Living in anxiety is no way to live!
If we check in with ourselves throughout the day asking where we are, sort of taking our temperature, we will be able to bring ourselves back into balance in the moment. Bring yourself into how your body is feeling and if it is frenetic, connect shortly into why and then breathe back into balance.
Occasionally I will wake up in the middle of the night with my body racing and feeling anxiety. It is always so amazing to me how I can breathe and tell my ego mind that I am safe, that I am a spiritual being, having a physical experience and within seconds the flight or fight reaction diminishes. If I check in with myself throughout the day, I may be able to catch these out of control feelings and bring myself back into balance before I spin out.
It is not being okay with where we are and always wanting to be somewhere else, that brings on an uneasy feeling within us. Take relationships for example; if you are not happy with being alone, then when you meet someone you will probably be more apt to try and force it to be something more quickly, instead of relaxing and letting things flow.
It really comes down to knowing yourself and checking in with yourself several times during the day to see what your ego mind is saying to you that is making you so anxious. Slow down in your day to notice how you are feeling and allowing your self to just be with the feelings in order to transforms them.
