Working through your resentment in a retreat, can be life changing!
We have the habit of creating expectations in almost every situation. When things don’t go according to plan, we can become angry and resentful. These expectations often get projected on to others. When others don’t meet our expectations, there is often a feeling of loss. Loss then leads to anger, and stored anger leads to resentment and bitterness.
We set ourselves up for disappointment when we expect a certain result. When we get triggered by these expectations and disappointments, we have the opportunity to look at where we at, and where we are not in the flow with the universe.
The real practice here is letting go of your attachment to the outcome.
I can work toward a goal but if I become attached to the outcome, then I will be disappointed if it doesn’t show up in the way I want.
When we are attached to outcomes, we become the victims who have to deal with the resentment and bitterness of things not fulfilling our hopes and expectations.
Bitterness and victimization cuts us off from love and our open hearts. If we do not have an open heart, love cannot flow to us or through us. It is very important to notice how we set up situations with attachment to the outcome. From there we need to work through our resentment before it grabs hold of us. The best way to work through resentment and bitterness can be as simple as forgiving yourself or others and just move on.
Great learning and healing can come from these situations bound in expectations and attachment. We can settle in a place of contentment, knowing that the outcome is perfect, just the way it is. We are always co-creating with the universe to heal our old wounds, it’s just difficult to know it is for our higher learning.
So check in with yourself when you are setting goals or trying to accomplish something. Are you attached in the outcome before you even start? And if you think you are, settle into the fact that maybe what you think is a better outcome for you might not be so.
