First of all, let’s look at the ego mind, which I also refer to as the inner child or our thoughts. Ego/inner child/thoughts are all the same. All of our suffering comes from our ego mind. If we are living in our higher self or adult self, we wouldn’t be suffering. I usually talk about the inner child because it is easier to understand than the ego. We can see how an ego might behave in certain situations, but it is clearer to see how the inner child chatters at us incessantly because of past wounding.
Even when we are not triggered, our minds are always talking. It could be about what we have to do, what we haven’t done or won’t be able to do, what so-and-so thinks about us, if we did something wrong, if we are good enough, if we are too fat, too skinny, blah, blah, blah. It’s exhausting!
The only way to be content is to first understand the ego mind/inner child.
Once we have an understanding of why the ego behaves the way it does, we can have compassion for our inner child and at the same time set boundaries by saying, “I understand why you believe this, but I’m not buying into that because it isn’t real.” This is why an individual retreat might be right for you. It is a way to get a deeper understanding of what makes you tick.
When we don’t know why we think the way we do and why we act the way we do, we are asleep. We are unconscious! Becoming conscious is all about understanding our ego mind/thoughts/inner child so that we do not react through our woundedness. This is not an easy process and cannot be done alone. This is why people have mentors and go to retreats. We cannot see our own blind spots because we are in them. The only way out of them is to work with someone who is not emotionally attached to you.
Are you tired off reacting to your partner, family and friends?
Are you exhausted from the constant battle of the thoughts in your mind? Are you ready to get to know yourself in a more authentic way? Call me and let’s talk about how you might be able to live a more harmonious life.
