How loud is your inner critic? Mine can be very persistent and loud. The inner critic is the part of your little girl that doesn’t feel lovable.
“You’re aging too fast”
“You have so many wrinkles”
“You’re flabby”
“You’re not smart enough”
“No one will ever love you”
Geez, give me a break!
With the teens that I mentor, I tell them it’s the negative voice inside their heads. We name it Ralph, for ralphing on, throwing up on. Their Ralph may tell them they will never be as good as the others at soccer, they’re too tall, too fat, not pretty enough, etc. You get the picture. Either way, it’s hard to feel lovable if we have these beliefs running through our heads.
It’s like a viscous circle. Our inner critic says all these things about us, we feel badly about ourselves, then the inner critic says more bad things about us. It’s up to us to stop this inner critic before we sink into the quagmire of sadness and self-doubt.
So, how do we do this?
We talk about managing the little girl, letting her know we understand why she feels the way she does, and not taking the action she might want us to take. Another thing we can do is let the little girl/inner critic know that no matter how much she is judging us and disliking things about us, we still love her. We love her exactly the way she is, no matter what! I know this seems like a weird process unless you have done inner child work, but seriously give it a try.
After exploring The Sedona Soul Retrieval Method this will all make sense.
Whenever you hear the voice of your inner critic saying things about you in a negative way, just imagine you looking at your little girl and telling her how much you love her, even though she doesn’t love you. If that critic is slamming and judging you, then there is a part of yourself that doesn’t love you. This takes practice and it has to be done sincerely.
Start paying attention to that critic inside and see how active it is. We all have one, but sometimes we don’t recognize when it’s up. Sometimes it’s such a natural way of being that we don’t even think that it’s something we should look at and get a hold of. If we allow the inner critic to continue beating us up and beating us down, it will be tough to be in a place of love and compassion for ourselves and others. If we can’t truly love ourselves, we cannot love others.
During my Retreats and Mentoring you will learn the tools to calm the inner critic and bring compassion to yourself and find a deep love and purpose for your life. As women we are seekers, seeking to evolve and become more connected to who we are and to ourselves.
