How powerful is it to experience an adult mother-daughter retreat?
I have been getting so many requests for mother-daughter retreats with adult daughters. I work with women to help them go deeper into themselves, to notice their patterns, and to shift limiting beliefs and to hopefully live a more joyous life. The work that I do with mother-daughter retreats is working separately with the mother and the daughter to look at their own wounding and how they are acting out of that wounded place in them.
It’s very similar to doing couples retreats because we are not working on the relationship; we are working individually on their old beliefs and how it shows up in the relationship. So it is the same with the mother daughter retreat. Both people get to know themselves really well and how they are reacting to their triggers, so they organically start showing up differently in the relationship.
I have seen shifts many times in the family dynamic while working with just one person in the family. I worked with a woman who had six children and a husband thank goodness, that shifted her entire family by recognizing her own patterns and shifting them. I have seen this in my own life as well as with my clients time after time.
I work with mothers and teenage daughters where the biggest shift is with the mother doing her work. Most of the time when moms call me telling me they want me to work with their daughter because their daughter is acting out, I would much prefer to work with the mother. I notice in the work that I do with adult daughters with their mothers is also very similar. We as mothers feel like we have to control and fix our kids, instead of allowing them the freedom to explore their life and own their own consequences.
By controlling and fixing people in general they feel like they can’t come to us and share so they shut down to us. I see it happening with teenagers and adult daughters all the time. It would look totally different if we were just allowing them to experience their own life and suffer their own consequences. We might be able to listen to their experience, have compassion and be detached from the emotions of their situation.
This takes practice and having an understanding of where your triggers come from so you cannot react from them.
