by Debra | Aug 24, 2015
When we are 20 years old, we think we are invincible. Our body looks good and strong. Even though our emotions are all over the place, we can stuff them so deep that we hardly even know that they are there. It’s a pattern we have followed since childhood.
This response may work for us until we are well into our 30s. And then things change. Around our late 30s, we start having a hard time keeping that stuff down. It affects us in our body, in our mind, but most of all, in our heart and soul.
And then the quest to wholeness begins. This is a journey that is more adventurous than climbing Mount Everest, swimming the English Channel or surfing the pipeline in Hawaii. It is the topper of all toppers; it is life changing. It is a journey that takes us through our physical body and mind into the depths of our deeply deprived soul.
The journey to wholeness involves healing our wounded child to reconnect to our soul and source.
This connection allows our physical healing to begin and brings us back to joy and openness so we can love and laugh as a child once again. This is a tough journey to take alone. This is why an individual retreat might help you.
When we are children and have upsets, we store them in our body and carry them with us into adulthood until we start the healing process. Situations in our adult life will show up to give us the opportunity to heal what we could not cope with as a child. It’s not a coincidence that we recreate situations that make us feel the same way we felt when we were young.
All of our experiences in life are opportunities to learn and connect more deeply with ourselves. The more we connect to ourselves, the more healing we do. When a situation makes us feel angry, sad, sick to our stomach, fearful or off center in any way, our body expresses this discomfort by a physical contraction. This is a signal for us to reconnect with ourselves.
Check it out the next time something happens that makes you feel upset. Notice the discomfort in your body. Breathe into the discomfort and explore the feelings that come up. See if you can recognize the similarities between what is happening now and what you felt in your past. Also notice your behavior around the situation; often it will be that of a child.
So, what do we do with those painful situations? We can do many things. Some people react. They yell, pout and maybe even throw a fit. I’m sure you have seen adults behave in this way, and you probably thought, “That person is acting like a child.” That is exactly what is happening. They have been thrown into their childhood wounds, and they are re-experiencing the chaos, confusion and upset they felt as a child.
Often, this is such an uncomfortable place to be, that some people stuff the emotion. They don’t do or say anything; they just keep it in and let it sit in their bodies where the unexpressed feeling often causes dis-ease.
A healthier choice is to move through our upsets.
Have you ever seen a mother and child when the child is pulling on the mother for attention? First the child just tugs. When the mother ignores the child, the child gets more insistent and vocal. When the mother still does not respond, the child gets louder. Finally, after being ignored completely, the child throws herself on the floor and has a tantrum. This is exactly how the little girl inside of us feels when we don’t address upsets or contractions in our life. At first they don’t feel so bad, but after being ignored for a while, they start to feel huge. Imagine those upset feelings sitting in your body for an extended period of time. OUCH!
So how can we tend to our little girl by moving through our upsets? First, we have to notice when we are upset and realize that it’s okay to have those feelings. They are a normal part of life. Next, we train ourselves to pay attention to any situation that makes us feel off center in any way. Then we acknowledge those feelings and reflect upon them. We might say, “Wow! That really made me mad when she did that to me.” Finally, we go on to ask, “Why did this interaction or situation bother me? How did it make me feel emotionally and physically?”
Healing begins when we give ourselves the room to explore our feelings, to see where they came from. We might ask, “Did I feel this way as a child?” Chances are we did. By taking the time to pay attention, we are telling that little girl inside of us that we hear her and we are here for her. We acknowledge how hard it must have been for her and let her know that she is safe. (Sometimes journaling can help with this step or carrying on an imaginary conversation.)
When we heal our childhood wounds, we become happier and healthier. So let the healing begin!
Our journey through life is meant to be fun and exciting. Every time we connect with the child within us, our little girl dances and sings and unites with us. This allows our soul to remain joyful and open to all of the love that surrounds us.
by Debra | Aug 17, 2015
How do we stay out of the drama of life and take that drama and move into a place of higher conscious learning? First what is drama? Drama is conceived through getting wrapped up in a situation that happens instead of looking at why it is happening. Let’s say someone treats me with disrespect. If I lament about the situation and say things like, “I can’t believe she did that to me, she is such a nut job, what is wrong with her, she must be crazy,” or I keep the thoughts circling in my head, I am stuck in the drama of the situation. If I am stuck in the drama, I miss the higher learning.
The higher learning looks more like looking at what you have to learn from it, your wound around it and your old belief system attached to it. Maybe when you were younger your family didn’t respect your rights and therefore when it happens in your adult life, it triggers you. Then you proceed to do your work around healing that wound and not buying into the old belief system. This opportunity will be completely lost if you stay in the drama of the event.
Tips To Stay Out Of The Drama
1. Recognize your triggers. Anytime you are not at peace, you are triggered.
2. Step out of the trigger and connect it to your wound as a child.
3. Look at your old belief around the wound.
4. Don’t buy into the old belief, know it’s a lie.
5. Create a new belief and sink into it’s truth.
It is going to be impossible to create happiness and peace if you are not aware of your childhood wounds, your old beliefs, and how they make you react to certain situations. They key is getting to know yourself in a much deeper way. Look at how your life is showing up for you and you can get a good picture of how strong your old beliefs are. They only way to shift an old belief is to know where it came from and not to buy into it. In my Retreats you will get to know yourself and your wounding so you can stay out of the drama of the situation and come from a place of love.
by Debra | Aug 10, 2015
In each situation where we are triggered we have the opportunity to lean into love or fear. In the moment of the trigger we usually react without thinking about what is going on inside of us. It is such an automatic reaction from our lower self/inner child that stems from a place of fear. When we are in fear, we could possibly react negatively and the outcome of our reaction is normally not positive.
Love comes from our higher self. Love is connected to the universe, God, source, whatever your higher power is. Love is trusting that everything is perfect exactly the way it is, and every experience is for our greater good and learning.
How do we lean into love instead of fear through our inner guidance?
The first thing we have to do is, when we are triggered, we have to pause and stop ourself dead in our tracks. If we get triggered and there is no pause, we will react from our scared little girl that is coming from a place of fear. So, the second you feel a contraction in your body, your little girl will start creating a story. If you get highjacked by your little girl, you’re in FEAR! It’s the PAUSE that is going to save you.
In the pause, you’re going to take a few deep breathes and from that higher place of being, tell your scared little girl, she is safe and you’re not buying into the story. In the moment it’s important not to react from that fearful place. That’s where the drama happens and we create a bit of a mess.
After you’re out of the situation, you need to see what feelings your little girl was experiencing around the trigger. It may start with anger or frustration. If you go deeper into the feelings, it’s usually sadness, fear, or disappointment. If you can get to the deeper feelings, this is where the compassion is. If we can feel compassion for our little girl, we will be able to transfer that compassion to the person that triggered us. We will be able to see the mirror.
It is in the compassion for ourself and others that we can sink into the LOVE!
This process takes practice; it won’t come organically at first. The more you practice, the better you get and the easier it will be to move straight into a place of love from fear.
I practice all the time because I want to show up for others and myself through my heart. It feels better for me and it feels better for others when I come from a place of love.
by Debra | Aug 3, 2015
What I have come to see through my spiritual retreats and mentoring is that something starts to shift in women around 40 years old. They start feeling unsettled with the way their life is and feel a deep need to explore themselves in a more authentic way. They feel stuck and realize that their life doesn’t seem to be working for them living the same way they have been.
Women want deeper meaning and purpose. They are no longer okay with the current job they have, maybe the relationship they are in feels disconnected, and their life in general feels lifeless.
Through my spiritual retreats, women find their way back to themselves and find the spiritual renewal they were looking for. When you get to know yourself in a deeper more authentic way, it always leads you back to yourself. When you are close to yourself you can find the purpose in your life that gives you the passion.
Are you just going through your daily life, existing? Are you getting up in the morning on autopilot? Your feet hit the ground, drag you to the coffeemaker, carry you to the shower, you go to work in a coma, come home and fix dinner, connect with the kids, maybe, watch a little TV and go to bed, and, Oh My God, get up the next day and do it again.
Maybe you’re the fortunate few that have moments throughout your day where you wake up and feel alive. These moments usually happen when you’re with your family. This could be because the drama of the family is so intense that it’s impossible to sleep through it or it’s your reprieve. Either way, you’re not truly living a life of purpose and passion.
Spiritual renewal through a women’s retreat can restart your engine and put you on a path to living a more alive life. Your life can be lived with excitement, passion and fun! Going deeper into what makes you tick and why you behave the way you do, helps you connect to yourself and sink into the joy that life has to offer.
It is a practice to live in your heart daily. For most of us it doesn’t come naturally.
We have to learn how to connect with those places in us that are hidden away, tucked in tight, and ashamed to be seen, so that we can live authentically and be the real us. This is how we will live a life of passion and purpose.
by Debra | Jul 27, 2015
How loud is your inner critic? Mine can be very persistent and loud. The inner critic is the part of your little girl that doesn’t feel lovable.
“You’re aging too fast”
“You have so many wrinkles”
“You’re flabby”
“You’re not smart enough”
“No one will ever love you”
Geez, give me a break!
With the teens that I mentor, I tell them it’s the negative voice inside their heads. We name it Ralph, for ralphing on, throwing up on. Their Ralph may tell them they will never be as good as the others at soccer, they’re too tall, too fat, not pretty enough, etc. You get the picture. Either way, it’s hard to feel lovable if we have these beliefs running through our heads.
It’s like a viscous circle. Our inner critic says all these things about us, we feel badly about ourselves, then the inner critic says more bad things about us. It’s up to us to stop this inner critic before we sink into the quagmire of sadness and self-doubt.
So, how do we do this?
We talk about managing the little girl, letting her know we understand why she feels the way she does, and not taking the action she might want us to take. Another thing we can do is let the little girl/inner critic know that no matter how much she is judging us and disliking things about us, we still love her. We love her exactly the way she is, no matter what! I know this seems like a weird process unless you have done inner child work, but seriously give it a try.
After exploring The Sedona Soul Retrieval Method this will all make sense.
Whenever you hear the voice of your inner critic saying things about you in a negative way, just imagine you looking at your little girl and telling her how much you love her, even though she doesn’t love you. If that critic is slamming and judging you, then there is a part of yourself that doesn’t love you. This takes practice and it has to be done sincerely.
Start paying attention to that critic inside and see how active it is. We all have one, but sometimes we don’t recognize when it’s up. Sometimes it’s such a natural way of being that we don’t even think that it’s something we should look at and get a hold of. If we allow the inner critic to continue beating us up and beating us down, it will be tough to be in a place of love and compassion for ourselves and others. If we can’t truly love ourselves, we cannot love others.
During my Retreats and Mentoring you will learn the tools to calm the inner critic and bring compassion to yourself and find a deep love and purpose for your life. As women we are seekers, seeking to evolve and become more connected to who we are and to ourselves.
by Debra | Jul 20, 2015
The World’s Eminent Spiritual Destination
Healing retreats, yoga training, sacred sites, and luxurious spa getaways – these are the buzz words for our time if you are a spiritual seeker. Sedona, a small but majestic red rock paradise is often first to be mentioned among the world’s eminent spiritual destinations. What exactly is Sedona’s lure? Sedona has earned a reputation in recent years as a Southwestern Shangri-la, both for its dream-like beauty and as the metaphysical mecca of America.
Sedona’s Powerful Vortex Energy
Sedona has 15-20 powerful energy vortexes – giant magnets of earth energy concentrated in a specific location, each with specific patterns, rhythms, and qualities. Einstein said that everything in the Universe is made up of “energy.” In addition, every organism is in a state of flux, oscillating at a certain speed, known as its “vibration.”
On a planet as vast and diverse as Mother Earth, it is probable that certain locations possess highly unique vibratory rates. When enough spiritual phenomena occur at one locale, ancient people eventually recognized it as a “sacred” place. Sacred site experts note the presence of fault lines, volcanic activity, an abundance of subsurface water, and concentrations of mineral ores at so-called sacred places, as well as noting centuries of ceremonial activity – all of which describe Sedona.
Vortex energies can be calming, energizing, or sometimes even overwhelming. Most agree that Sedona magnifies whatever it is that one is feeling. Millions of people are drawn here each year to experience the reported healing energies that are said to originate from the power spots. Author James Redfield has said the entire inspiration for The Celestine Prophecy came to him while meditating in the Sedona vortexes.
Although identified in the late 1980’s as a place of healing and mysticism by Americans, indigenous tribes have long held Sedona in high esteem as a haven to rejuvenate the spirit, heal the body, and conduct religious ceremonies. “Palatkwapi” as the Hopi called it, translates to the “The shimmering place among the red rocks.” The American Indians have described “power spots” and centers of Creation in Sedona – a literal Garden of Eden where the Yavapai and Apache tribes say they originated. This could partially explain why Sedona’s mystical powers continually leave its visitors breathless, and changed forever – the Native American essence is often deeply felt. Starry-eyed guests to the enchanted land of the red rocks consistently report a myriad of meaningful experiences – spiritual visions, vivid dreams, past-life memories, and dramatic healing experiences. Some simply say, “I feel like I’ve come home.”
How Do I Benefit Spiritually from a Vortex?
The Sedona vortexes are known to activate the healing process. Many offer nurturing and embracing energy, for the healing work of the heart or for healing from a breakup. Others seek out empowering and highly energizing vibrations, ideal for setting intentions, gaining clarity and starting new ventures. No matter which vortexes you visit, it is likely that your spiritual journey will be deepened and you will connect to new and meaningful parts of yourself. Embedded within the lava rock, sandstone, limestone and iron oxide of the Sedona red rocks is quartz crystal particles of sand cemented in the sandstone. This crystalline content of the rocks creates a conductive, amplifying power which sensitive and even not-so-sensitive humans can feel, bringing up stuck emotions, often interrupting sleep patterns, and magnifying your feelings and intentions. So be clear in your intention!
Retreats offered by Sedona Soul Retrieval include a transformative, intuitively guided journey on Sedona’s sacred land. You will experience these powerful and deeply nurturing energies to facilitate your healing process.
Your skilled guide will draw from a multitude of energetic modalities such as intensive breathwork, guided meditation, truth-speaking, emotional clearing, prayer work, and ceremonial singing to elicit emotion, release trapped pain, access inner wisdom, and deeply feel your connection to Mother Earth and your Higher Self.
It is truly a gift to experience such a journey out on the magical land of Sedona.
by Debra | Jul 12, 2015
Does your suffering prevent you from enjoying the good things in your life? If so, it’s time for you to go inward into your own personal retreat. If we slip into our woundedness, we need to explore it, process through it, and move back into the joy of our life. We don’t won’t to wallow in the hurt. If we don’t process through it, it will be impossible to move through it to the good stuff.
After the resolution of the trigger, you can begin to move into a place of gratitude and joy. If you try to skip the processing, the trigger will return with a vengeance and put a damper on your joy. And that’s an understatement! The trigger will do more than put a damper on your joy, it will downright destroy it!
When we don’t learn how to bring resolution through our triggers, they escalate because when we are working with the universe to evolve, the goal is to evolve. If we sweep the issues under the rug, the rug will eventually trip us up, make us break an arm or two, and spoil our fun.
Now, personally, processing and moving through triggers is where I find my fun. Seriously, doing this work is where I get my juice. I don’t see working with the universe and growing as torture. I do know a few people that just don’t want to process and bring resolution; they think they can ignore the process and just live in the joy. I don’t see this happening. Most people who are not doing their personal work are stuck in a lot of drama somewhere in their life.
Where are you stuck?
Retreat and Mentoring can help you see where you are stuck in your life and shift out of the drama that being stuck causes. I think living in drama is torturous. I would rather go inside, look around, and bring some resolve and growth to the situation and stay as far away from the story (drama) as possible.
If you’re in the story and it is creating drama, it is hard to be in the joy of life. Being in the story/drama might look like you talking to a co-worker about your boss, you talking to your friend about how your partner behaved, or how your children are driving you crazy. Talking about the story is not processing. It is drama!
by Debra | Jul 6, 2015
I am always looking for ways to remind myself of the greatness in my life. I have so much to be grateful for.
After I do my morning and evening practice, I try to always go to the space of gratitude. I have a list of what I am grateful for and it always makes my heart feel full when I read it. It makes me realize just how lucky I am. Sometimes with life and all of the experiences for growth, we start to feel heavy. I suggest creating a list of everything you are grateful for. Here are a few of mine.
Gratitude List
- My health
- My cozy home
- My sweet, ornery cat Milo
- My friends
- My mentor
- The teachers in my life
- All my triggers and learning
- My abundanceMy family
Create your list and check in with all of the things you have to be grateful for and really sink into how lucky you are. Maybe you aren’t a millionaire but you can go to the grocery store and buy food anytime you need it. We take these things for granted but we need to remember that having our stomachs tended to when we have hunger pains isn’t a given for some people. Some people have to live with the pains of hunger their whole life.
When I say I’m grateful for my abundance, this doesn’t mean I have money oozing out of my pores. It mean I have my needs met and I feel very grateful for that. We can always find things to be grateful for.
In my women’s retreat you will get to know yourself really well and learn to stand in a more grateful place with your life. You will learn how to be grateful for the people who trigger you and help you learn more about yourself. When we get triggered and blame someone for making us feel crappy, it keeps us out of a place of gratitude.
Without triggers I wouldn’t grow!
I want to take full advantage of my learning for my personal growth. This means looking at my triggers and being grateful for them.
by Debra | Jun 29, 2015
It’s easier to stay calm when you have small triggers, maybe from your co-workers, grocery store clerks or anyone actually outside of your core family. Have you noticed how bonkers you get when your partner, kids or parents do things that knock you off your center?
Our core family is our biggest teacher!
I am visiting my daughter and grandson this week and I am shocked at how easily I fall into taking things personally, through my little girl. I immediately recognize who is in the driver’s seat and tell her to please get in the back in the child’s seat. If I don’t pull my higher self in, she will create quite the scene, say things that blame, and inevitably there will be hurt feelings. She is not good at communication and negotiation. All she cares about is getting people to do or say what will make her feel better.
I am grateful that I have been doing this work long enough that I recognize when she is in play. If you don’t know when your inner child is up, you play out a very dramatic scene that will cause a disconnect in the relationship you are engaged in.
In a Personal Retreat you will learn how your little girl operates, how to calm her down, and act from a higher place. Ultimately we all want to be connected with the people in our lives. When we act from our little girl, we push people away. When our little girl is acting out by saying hurtful things or shutting people out and pouting, this kind of behavior will cause a disconnect and will keep you feeling separated in your life.
My grandson sometimes acts in ways that are very ME-centric. What I noticed is that my little girl takes it personally, thinking his actions have something to do with her. She feels like she did something wrong, she’s not important or good enough, etc. If I act from my little girl when she is feeling like that, she will try to get him to behave differently to make her feel better. When I’m in my higher self I know his behavior has nothing to do with me. This is very important because if I act from the place of “It’s about me,” I will blame him and he will feel bad and shut down to me and it will affect our closeness.
In my one-on-one personal retreat you will learn how to not take other people’s behaviors personally and develop closer relationships with the people in your life.
by Debra | Jun 22, 2015
Everyone has different fears and everyone handles their fears differently. The first thing we have to do is look at what triggers our fears, then we can see how we behave when they come up.
What are you afraid of?
- Someone close dying
- Health issues
- Your partner leaving you
- Being alone
- Not being successful
- Money issues
- Aging
- How people perceive you
- Not being loved
These are a few of the issues that you could have fear around. I think we might all have a twinge of fear around most of these but what we are looking for are the big fears that makes us run for the hills. The fears you really want to look at are the ones that make you want to medicate the feelings so you don’t feel them.
When we come up against our fears we have a tendency to run away from the feeling the fears give us. We medicate our feelings so we don’t have to feel them.
Let’s take a look at what we might use to medicate our feelings so that we don’t have to feel them.
Medicators
- Alcohol
- Drugs
- Relationships
- Being busy
- Working
- Shopping
- Talking
- Smoking
- Gambling
Do you get the picture?
You may need a spiritual retreat to help you understand your fears and medicators.
We are so conditioned to not feel our feelings that when they come up, we check out either physically or emotionally. Maybe your parents told you “it wasn’t that bad,” or “don’t be a baby,” or maybe no one in the family ever talked about feelings. Was the yelling and fighting so bad you never want to go there again? There could be many reasons why you stuffed your feelings. What we want to learn is how to be with our feelings, to actually learn how to embrace them.
To embrace our feelings, we have to let them come up and just be with them and not medicate them away. Look at them, how they make our bodies feel and what emotions come up with them. If it’s utter sadness, feel it, explore it, and sit with it until it moves through you, even if it’s horrific. Believe me, if you aren’t medicating your feelings, they can seem unbearable! It’s at this point if you stay with yourself, and don’t run from what you’re feeling, your life will shifts miraculously.
It’s amazing what you learn about yourself through this process. It’s also amazing what fears you overcome by going through this process.
This isn’t easy!
You will get see where your addictions lie. The urge to medicate will be extreme, trust me. You will need a support system. A spiritual retreat may be the support you need. I believe we all need teachers/mentors in our life. We have blind spots that only someone on the outside can see.
by Debra | Jun 15, 2015
How do we find forgiveness in our hearts when someone has done something so horrific to us that it seems unforgivable?
Forgiving is not condoning! Forgiving isn’t saying that the act they did is okay!
Forgiving is realizing we are all human beings in our woundedness and we are all broken. The level of harm we cause to ourself and others is determined by our level of consciousness. We can forgive others by knowing that their actions were not conscious.
This is why it is so important to always be moving forward in our personal development, growing to become a better person. I am sure that at some point in your life that you have done something you weren’t proud of and maybe hurt someone. If you allow the anger and resentment to seethe inside of you, it only is hurting you!
“Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
The way through forgiveness is to see that we are all wounded and that we are all doing our best. If someone has done something that is so terrible, it only means that something as terrible or worse had been done to him. Most cases of sexual abuse have proven that the perpetrator was abused as well.
To see the perpetrator as so wounded and abused helps us have love and compassion for them and hope for their healing out of their poison. When we let go of the resentment and anger we free ourself of the poison and free them to their healing. It stops the toxic energy from flowing back and forth and then moving on to someone else. This doesn’t mean that the person will stop behaving in harmful ways: it just means that you will be putting a sweet nectar out into the world instead of poison, and this is how we change the world.
I love this story from Pema Chodron about creating heaven and hell inside of us.
Heaven and Hell
A big, burly samurai comes to the wise man and says, “Tell me the nature of heaven and hell.” And the roshi looks him in the face and says: “Why should I tell a scruffy, disgusting, miserable slob like you?” The samurai starts to get purple in the face, his hair starts to stand up, but the roshi won’t stop, he keeps saying, “A miserable worm like you, do you think I should tell you anything?” Consumed by rage, the samurai draws his sword, and he’s just about to cut off the head of the roshi. Then the roshi says, “That’s hell.” The samurai, who is in fact a sensitive person, instantly gets it, that he just created his own hell; he was deep in hell. It was black and hot, filled with hatred, self-protection, anger, and resentment, so much so that he was going to kill this man. Tears fill his eyes and he starts to cry and he puts his palms together and the roshi says, “That’s heaven.” (From Pema Chodron’s book, Awakening Loving Kindness)
A part of my one-on-one woman’s retreat is about forgiveness because it is so important to forgive as a part of our evolution, our personal development. Holding resentment and anger blocks love as well as our personal power.
by Debra | Jun 8, 2015
How a Personal Retreat Can Help Get You Through Feelings of Loneliness
Most of my clients, friends, people I know, including myself, have had moments of loneliness or feelings of separation. Living alone, spending a lot of time alone, breaking up with a partner, or a situation that triggers old wounding can bring up feelings of being all alone.
My mother died when I was 26, six months after my divorce. My father immediately upon my mother’s death pulled away and immersed himself in his addiction, alcohol, leaving me just as if he had also died. My feelings of loneliness were overwhelming. To this day, when certain situations happen, these feelings of total separation and aloneness get triggered. Before learning this work, I would just suffer with the feelings, medicate them, stuff them and go on. The feelings wouldn’t lay dormant for long before they would be right back scratching on my open wounds again.
This is where a personal retreat would help you to identify your wounding, learn how to be with the feelings, transform the old belief so you don’t have to medicate the feelings. If we don’t understand ourselves or do our personal and psychological work to move through our wounding, we will spend our whole lives running from our feelings, which in turn leads to medicating them so we don’t feel the intensity of the pain.
I teach people in my personal retreats how to get to know them selves, shift their old beliefs and heal the wounding. Do you know people in your life that seem to always be suffering? Taking the same actions over and over and ending up right were they started? The only way to actually move forward is to do the work required to shift the old limiting beliefs we created as children. If we don’t, we will be one of those people walking in a circle, going nowhere.
I know what my path is. Do you?
I want to evolve so that I can show up for my family, friends, the world and myself in a loving way, through my heart. When we live in our hearts, we make a difference in the world. When I live through my old belief system, not only do I suffer, but the actions I may take will also create suffering in others.
When we are 20 years old, we think we are invincible. Our body looks good and strong. Even though our emotions are all over the place, we can stuff them so deep that we hardly even know that they are there. It’s a pattern we have followed since childhood.
