Sedona Soul Retrieval Blog
I hope you enjoy my growing collection of inner feelings and writing. These explorations provide insight into my way of thinking, inspirations, and aspirations. Check back frequently for new articles. Thanks – Debra.
Articles of Inspiration and Discovery
Sedona Is Calling
Is Sedona calling you to do a Mother Daughter or Couple’s Retreat? Einstein said that everything in the universe is made up of “energy.” Every single organism is in a state of flux, isolating at certain speeds, moving with its unique “vibration.” This vibration is within us, and all around us. We are all made up of the same energetic vibrations….
Creating an Honoring World, What Part Do You Play?
How to create a world where we honor ourselves and each other? I am writing this article to adults and care givers of children to let you know, that sexting is causing a big problem in the world today. This was brought to my attention just the other day when my client told me that her 13-year-old daughter has been sexting her new boyfriend. This…
Using Our Pain as Our Teacher
How can we use our pain as our teacher? In many of my Sedona soul retreats, my clients complain about habitual pain they’ve experienced in their bodies. No matter what they do they can’t seem to rid themselves of it. First, just knowing that pain comes and goes, to acknowledge its impermanent nature is helpful. Most people will feel pain at some…
How to be Empowered To Empower Your Teens
I wrote this for my Empowered Teens and Parents site and really thought it would be good for my Sedona Soul Retrieval, incase their were any parents. Look at how you can empower yourself to empower your teen. What do you desire for your teen? Do you want them to be empowered, to be happy, caring, and respectful? Do you want them to be able to…
How To Deal with a Difficult Family
How To Deal with a Difficult Family It is that time again, the holiday season is upon us. This can be a joyous time, and it can also be a time of conflict, especially with family members. Many of us have experienced difficult situations around this time with family. It can be especially challenging when we travel to visit family members because…
What is Your Assignment Here in this Lifetime? Find Out in a Personal Retreat
What is your assignment in this lifetime? Explore it in a personal retreat! Do you believe you are here for a reason? Do you think that the reason is very specific? We all have a specific assignment here. It could be in the field of medicine, real estate, art, food, politics, or raising our children. Whatever the assignment is, we know it to be…
Do You Understand the Importance of Keeping Your Vibration High?
Learning the Importance of keeping your vibration high in a personal retreat. Sometimes, our beliefs can work against us. Shifting these beliefs can increase our quality of life and our vibration many times. In an individual retreat, I teach how to shift those beliefs. And why is this so important? If you buy into a belief system that makes you…
Bringing Intimacy into Your Relationship Through a Sedona Couple’s Retreat
Do you want to bring Intimacy into your relationship through a Sedona couple’s retreat? Are you looking for a better way of communicating and feeling closer to your primary partner? Have you tried couple’s counseling with no luck? What does it take to have a successful outcome in therapy, counseling or a couple’s retreat? First, it takes two…
Find Your Passion in a Retreat and Live In It!
How can we find our passion and live it? Are you living in joy and passion? Are you breathing life into your soul? Many adults find that this is not the life they are leading. Some of the biggest issues I see with my clients is that they are working in jobs they hate, staying in relationships out of fear and don’t believe they can create a life…
How To See Through Fear! A Women’s Retreat Can Help
How can we see through our fear? Sometimes it seems so big! Fear can be totally debilitating. It can stop you dead in your tracks. Finances, relationships, careers and health can all be a bit overwhelming. One of my greatest fears has always been finances. Money is always expanding and contracting as clients come and go. I used to worry that I…
Are You On a Hamster Wheel With Your Partner? Come to a Sedona Couples Retreat!
Do you sometimes feel like a hamster on a wheel when it comes to communicating with your Partner? Coming to a couples retreat in Sedona might be right for you! How do you create intimacy in a relationship where two people are very different in their approach to communication? Men and women naturally tend to relate differently. Women are more…
Tackling Your Ego Mind Through Sedona Soul Retrieval Retreats
A great place to tackle your Ego mind is in a Sedona Soul Retrieval Retreat! Do we have control over our Ego mind? It’s always so bazaar to me that I have something inside of me, my mind, that I don’t seem readily able to control. When insecurities come up that trigger us, we start acting out of this unconscious part of our self. Then, when we…
How Relationships Play a Part in Choosing Love over Fear
How does your relationships play a part in choosing love over fear? If you’re brave enough, you will tackle your Ego mind through your current primary relationship. I use the word bravery because you have to be willing to look at all that dark stuff we don’t like to admit is in us. I’m always excited at what a relationship teaches me about…
Being One With The Universe and Others
What does it look Like to be one with the universe and others? If we look at our life on this physical plane, with our material things and our physical bodies, it appears that we are all separate. I get up in the morning in my own body and can’t feel other people’s bodies. I wake up in my own home and can’t see into other people’s homes. So…
How to Stop Shooting Arrows at Your Partner
Do you shoot Arrows at Your Partner? Learn how not to in a couple’s retreat. Blaming our partners for how we feel leaves us without power. We give up our power when we say things like, “You did this to me.” When we put the blame on others, we give them control of how we feel. We cannot change how we feel because to feel better, we need them to…
Why is Living in the Present Moment so Important?
Why is Living in the Present Moment so Important? When we are living in the past, we may feel regretful, guilty or we may feel sad. All of these thoughts and feelings bring us suffering. When we live in the future, it may also cause suffering because we are trying to achieve something or get something we don’t have right now. Either way,…
Sedona Bed and Breakfasts
Is a Sedona Bed and Breakfast right for you? There are so many places to stay in this sacred place called Sedona Arizona. I guess it just depends on what you are looking for exactly. Is it a resort feel? Do you like staying in a room in someone’s home? Is it a Best Western or another hotel chain? Is it a bed and breakfast, where you are…
Are Relationships Good for Our Personal Growth?
Relationships are amazing for our personal growth? Every couple that finishes my couples retreat, gets to experience the importance of being in relationship with their partner. A client of mine reads a certain teacher whose name I won’t mention and the client read something about relationships being Ugly! My client is pretty anti relationship. So…
Is How Our Physical Body Feels Connected To Our Thoughts?
So lets look at how our physical body feels connected to our thoughts? Our mind is a powerful thing. Our beliefs, whether they be old or brand new, will create the life we want. We have to be careful what we think. I am always so amazed that I have this thing inside of me that for the most part I have very little control over. Even though our…
Our Feelings of Loneliness Are From Our Separateness From Source
If we are feeling lonely, it is because of our separation from Source! I think we all have days with a hint of loneliness, and sometimes even utter loneliness and separation from everyone including ourselves. This idea that we are actually all alone comes from buying into the illusion that we are separate from all the other separate people we see…
Creating a Passionate Life
Is it possible to create a passionate life through a personal retreat? YES! Most of the people who come to me are suffering with a less than fulfilling life. Their number one complaint is feeling dead inside and their life doesn’t seem to be working for them. They are also not sure how to continue living with these feelings for the rest of their…
How Important are Communication Skills Between Partners
Are you a good communicator? Can you always convey what you mean? Do you try to listen to your partner without thinking about your response? Do you fear speaking your truth? If you have listened to people communicate, you will notice that their communication may sound a bit off. They may think they are expressing themselves clearly, but this is…
How Do We Avoid Drama in Our Life?
I think we all would like to Avoid drama in our life, right? What is drama? Drama is a conversation that simply goes nowhere. Both parties try really heard to make their point, as they feel as though they are right. When conversation escalates, thoughts and feelings can often lead to aggravation and frustration. We often lack mindfulness in these…
What Does Consciousness Look Like?
Being conscious means not sleeping on the job! It means being awake! Going through your day with awareness, not being on autopilot. The majority of people on this planet are sleep walking and don’t know it. They get up in the morning, drag themselves to the coffee machine, take a shower, go to work, work, come home, fix dinner, watch a little…
Life’s Challenges and What We Learn From Them
Are you learning from your life Challenges? Have you ever found yourself climbing over one big obstacle and you barely make it over that one when you see the next one lined up and ready to go? It’s exhausting just thinking about it, let alone going through each one, whether it’s an illness, a divorce, a difficult situation with a partner or kids,…
Got Empathy? Learn How To Have Empathy For Yourself and Others!
This is another article I did in the Imagine magazine about having empathy. To view the rest of the magazine, see the link below. Got Empathy? Is empathy something that some people are naturally born with and others aren’t? Is it a learned trait or an inherent quality to be brought forward? How can we help our youth deepen in empathy? There is a…
Daily Practices to Stay Connected To Our Higher Self
Here are a few daily practices to help you stay connected to your HIgher Self! I was talking with a client the other day and she hadn’t seen me for about three months and was really living out of her lower self/little girl. Things got very busy at work and she had some family issues come up. When things get busy and issues with family, work, or…
If We Don’t Have Peace Within Us, We Won’t Be Able To Take Peace Out Into The World
Is it possible to be peaceful out in the world if we don not have Peace inside ourself? When looking out into the world, what we see out there shows us where we are as a collective consciousness, because the way we interpret the world is an indication of what is going on inside of us. So, if we see people treating each other without care, it’s…
Negative Minds: How to Stay Positive Around People with Different Mindsets
How do we stay positive around people that are wrapped up in the drama of situations? If you’ve made the commitment to think positive no matter what, you’ll need to keep an eye out for triggers that could spark your inner negativity. We all have them. A bad day at work, a fight with your spouse or even a nasty cold virus could get you feeling all…
Learning How To Hold Yourself Accountable 100%
I saw this post on Facebook today and thought it was amazing and very enlightening. It is regarding being in abusive relationships and the part we play. I think it is hard to always look at your part and the learning, especially with abuse. Please read the following and check in with how you feel afterwards. Facebook Post: “I know so many women,…
Is Our Physical Pain a Message to Look at Our Spiritual Path?
Our physical pain can be a message to look at our Spiritual path? Usually our first thought when we feel pain of any kind is “What’s going on with my body?” We don’t connect it to our spiritual awakening. Pain, whether subtle or harsh, is a call for action. It’s time to look at what we are avoiding on our spiritual path. I have facilitated…
Recognizing the Dark Side of Fear and Moving Toward the Light of Love
Can you recognize the dark side of fear and move toward the light of love? When we hold on to our fear, we block any love that might come to us and any love we might want to give. We actually block the flow of energetic love that could move through us, and back out into the world. “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” ~ Franklin D….
Replenishing Yourself: How to Revive Your Energy Reserves
Emptying Your Energetic Reserves: The Stressful Daily Grind Sometimes, you might have a bad day, and your energy levels take a hit. You might even feel drained for two or three days following a major stressful event. You can recover from the occasional bad time, but an unfortunate amount of people are attempting to live with depleted energy…
Align Your Spiritual and Physical Body
What does it look like to align your spiritual and physical body in a Sedona Soul Retrieval Retreat? Even though we can’t see it with the naked eye, everything in our universe is in a constant state of motion. This motion, also referred to as vibration, reflects on what’s happening on a spiritual, mental and physical level. All things have a…
Learn How to be Honest with Yourself as Well as Others
Is it possible to be honest with others if you aren’t being honest with yourself? The answer is no! If you do not understand and know yourself, how can you bring a person of honesty to the table? There are a few ways in which we lie to ourselves and others. The first is when we know we are lying and we decide it’s okay. We either don’t care about…
How to Step Outside of Your Ego Mind
Stepping outside of your ego mind in a retreat is a beautiful gift you can give to yourself. As we start to grow up, our triggers will start to exacerbate. And then, after intentionally working through them, they will quiet down. Our deep core wounding is hard to clear, and I find that the universe sends us teachers and situations that help us…
Learn the Importance of Forgiveness
How would you like to learn the importance of forgiveness through the Sedona Soul Retrieval Method. How important is it to forgive someone who has done something that hurts us? Holding on to anger is toxic to our system. It requires a great amount of energy to repress feelings, and repressing them only keeps them inside of us where they lay…
Learn how to Take Outside Experiences and Grown
How can we grow from our experiences from the outside world? When life experiences happen, our first tendency is to look at what is happening from outside of us. If something happens that we are uncomfortable with, we look at the person or the situation and think that if that person or situation could change, we would feel better. That is going…
Our Negative Minds: Turning Around Dark Thoughts
Have you ever been around someone who is constantly complaining about something? What about people who spread negative gossip, act mean or display hypocritical behavior? Most people aren’t very tolerant of negative behavior in others. Why should they be? Being around a negative person will make you feel drained and upset. However, a lot of people…
Learn How to Take Care of Yourself First in a Sedona Soul Retrieval Retreat
Do you have guilt when you take time for yourself? What does it look like to take care of yourself first, then attend to others? Most women think putting yourself first is selfish. They might even be called selfish, self absorbed, or narcissistic. Many men can go to work, go to the gym afterwards, come home and relax and it’s perfectly normal,…
All Events Have a Purpose in Your Life
Do all the events in our life have a purpose for our higher learning? I was just talking to a client this morning and she was thinking about getting a job. She is a mother of four and her husband works full time. She wanted a job to bring in some extra money while she completes courses to become a coach. She has a lot on her plate with the kids…
Co-Create with the Universe By Surrendering to Spiritual Guidance
What does it look like to co-create with the Universe by surrendering to spiritual guidance? Surrendering to the natural process of co-creating with the universe is easier said than done. This surrendering thing puts us control freaks on edge, right? Who are we surrendering to? It seems, at times, that it is easier to give it up to a real person…
Learn To Surrender To Your Life
How do we learn how to surrender to our life, just as it is? Here I am in 2016 looking at what I would like to create for myself this year. I have done a few vision boards in the attempt to explore what I want in my life, while trying to surrender to what it is. This hasn’t been a particularly easy exercise for me, asking the universe for what I…
Embrace Being Single! Learn How in a Personal Retreat
I think it’s humorous when people find out I’m single and act as though it’s a bad thing. They say things like, “Oh, you’ll find that special person some day!” Being single and being in a relationship each have their own ups and downs. Life is about being with the highs and the lows, whether you are in a primary relationship or not. We learn…
Overcoming 8 Myths on Relationships in a Couple’s Retreat
There are many myths concerning relationships. Being in partnership isn’t easy and most of us would benefit from some added help in this area. Myth #1. Never go to bed angry. Personally, I think this is based on fear. If we go to bed in a fight, what if one of us dies? A better solution might be to postpone the argument until the next day, kiss,…
Spiritual Guidance to Help You Learn to be Alone
How Does Being Alone Feel to You? I am talking again about being alone because as the holidays were upon us, many of my clients expressed deep feelings of sadness around not having family or friends and how they were feeling utterly alone. This “alone” thing seems to be a big one for many. Being alone isn’t difficult for everyone. In fact, for…
How to Create Empathy in Our Children. A Personal Retreat Will Help You be a Better Parent.
Empathy is the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing, i.e., the capacity to place oneself in another’s position. Is empathy something that some people are born with and some aren’t? Is it a learned trait? Can we teach our children how to have empathy? There is a significant amount of research indicating that the…
Who Comes First in your Marriage, Husband, Kids or Yourself?
I often talk to parents who have put their relationship with each other on the back burner to care for their kids. I wonder if this is doing more damage than good. It’s tough enough to raise kids that aren’t “me-centric” without making them the top priority in our life. I see this often when I am mentoring families. The parent’s lives revolve…
Are You Happy With Your Partner? Is a Sedona Soul Retrieval Couples Retreat for You?
Do you and your partner communicate? Does your partner listen to you? Do you feel like you and your partner are drifting further and further apart? Do you long for a closer, more connected relationship? Relationships are not easy. They bring up our childhood wounding and actually make us behave more like a child. If communication, hearing each…
Happy Holidays from Sedona Soul Retrieval in Sedona Arizona
The holidays are upon us again and being with family can be quite challenging. How do we stay in a place of love and have a good time during the holiday season? Is it even possible? It is so funny how excited we get to spend time with family only to come unglued when we are together because they do such annoying things. So, our families are going…
Spiritual Guidance Through Mentoring and Retreats
Through out my life, I have always been in search of a teacher that can take me to the next level in my personal growth. It’s always comical to me when I am looking how the perfect teacher comes to me. When I am talking to someone about mentoring or a personal retreat, they just know and we start the process. I often hear from clients that when…
How Easy Is It To Say No and Not Feel Guilty?
If you were never taught that you had rights as a child, there is a good possibility that saying “No” isn’t in your vocabulary. Because I was abused as a child, lived with a binging alcoholic and a mother that never said no, I couldn’t say it as an adult, especially with men. The words simply wouldn’t or couldn’t come out of my mouth. If a man…
Allowing Yourself and Your Children to Feel Is Important to Emotional Health
Through a personal retreat you can learn how to allow your kids to have feelings and not let it upset you as well. How often do we really allow ourselves and our children to feel what we are feeling? A client of mine was expressing how nervous she gets when her 7-year-old son tells her he is worried. When she asks him what he is worried about, he…
Helping Teens be Thankful on Thanksgiving
Teens are selfish by nature. Their brains haven’t yet fully developed, which means that it will take them time to grow into the caring individuals they have the potential to become. We can help them become the best possible versions of themselves by teaching proper values from a young age. One of those values is realizing the importance of…
Thorough Spiritual Renewal We Learn How to Be with Our Feelings
It’s amazing what we will do to not acknowledge, avoid, or get away from our feelings. Why is this? The answer is because we dislike how they feel. We only want to feel good things and when something comes up in our minds and bodies that feels uneasy, anxious, terrifying, sad, hopeless, etc., we push it away. Is it possible only to feel good all…
Learn What a Projection is and How Not To Do it
First, let’s talk about what a projection is. I was talking to a client this morning, and she was telling me that a friend, Katie of her daughter was concerned about the way her daughter was eating. A little background info is that her daughter watches what she eats carefully and has been diagnosed with a disorder concerning eating but not a full…
How to Live in the Present Moment Through a Sedona Soul Retrieval Retreat
“Life is available only in the present moment.” -Thich Nhat Hanh I love these quotes because I know that true joy and aliveness come from being present in the only moment we truly ever have, this Moment! We are so trained to live in the past and the future. Look at our careers. We look at how we can get ahead, move up the ladder so we can earn…
Asking Your Partner to Show Up For You? Is a Couples Retreat for You?
Can we ask our partner to meet our needs? What expectations do we have for our partner to make us happy? Of course, we want to be in a partnership where we can relay our needs, desires and requests and have them heard and understood. But, what if our expectations aren’t met? Is it our partner’s job to meet our needs and be responsible for our…
Is Being Alone Scary or Great?
It’s funny, I was talking to a friend the other day about being alone and she said she loves it. Then I asked her when was she actually really alone, with no husband and no kids. She started looking a bit perplexed and said that she never viewed being alone as being without people around at all. She realized she had never truly been alone. I have…
What Does Spirituality Look Like?
Spirituality looks different for everyone. Some people will describe their spirituality in reference to their religion or their faith. Some people say it’s just about being a good person and treating people the way you would want to be treated. Others may believe it’s about the law of attraction. There are so many ways we can view our…
Are You The Guilty Party?
Do you have guilt? Where does it come from? What actions do you take when you feel it? How do you process it? We have all had guilt at one time or another, whether it’s guilt about our parenting skills, our work performance, our exercise regime, eating habits or just a constant feeling of not being good enough. It’s what we do after we feel the…
Learn Great Communication Skills in an Individual or a Couples Retreat
Do you have good communication skills? Do you say what you mean? Do you listen or are you thinking about what you are going to say next? Are you afraid to speak your truth? Have you listened to most people communicate? Their communication may sound a bit cryptic. They may think they are expressing their needs, but is their message clear? If we go…
Are Your Relationships Hitting a Wall? Learn To Have Deeper Relationships
At one point in my life I started noticing that important relationships were starting to crumble and eventually would come to an end. I thought that I would be completely friendless and totally all alone. What happened was, as I continued to grow and evolve, the people in my life either shifted or went away. The main reason for this was because I…
Do Your Feelings Come from Inside or Outside of You?
Sometimes our feelings such as loneliness, sadness, anger, frustration or hopelessness can be overwhelming. We may feel totally disconnected from the world, like we are separate. This can sound like: She doesn’t understand me. He is trying to control me. I feel empty inside. I feel disconnected from the people in my life. No ones loves me. I…
Learning How to Have a Healthy Relationship Through a Spiritual Retreat
When we look at the question of, what is a healthy relationship, it may differ from person to person although most of us will have the same core list of non-negotiables. So maybe this is where we should start. What are your non-negotiable items on your list for being in a relationship? Must have integrity. That means no lying. What if your…
A Way Through Suffering
How do we release ourselves and grow from our experiences of suffering rather than become more constricted? Is a personal retreat a way through? I wrote this blog one year ago and I just love the information. I added a few things and decided to repost it. I hope you enjoy it. In my personal retreat you will learn how to see how your suffering…
Finding Balance in our Life
When we are 20 years old, we think we are invincible. Our body looks good and strong. Even though our emotions are all over the place, we can stuff them so deep that we hardly even know that they are there. It’s a pattern we have followed since childhood. This response may work for us until we are well into our 30s. And then things change….
Staying Out of the Drama in your Life
How do we stay out of the drama of life and take that drama and move into a place of higher conscious learning? First what is drama? Drama is conceived through getting wrapped up in a situation that happens instead of looking at why it is happening. Let’s say someone treats me with disrespect. If I lament about the situation and say things like,…
Choosing Love or Fear Through Your Inner Spiritual Guidance
In each situation where we are triggered we have the opportunity to lean into love or fear. In the moment of the trigger we usually react without thinking about what is going on inside of us. It is such an automatic reaction from our lower self/inner child that stems from a place of fear. When we are in fear, we could possibly react negatively…
Spiritual Renewal Through Finding Your Passion and Purpose in Life
What I have come to see through my spiritual retreats and mentoring is that something starts to shift in women around 40 years old. They start feeling unsettled with the way their life is and feel a deep need to explore themselves in a more authentic way. They feel stuck and realize that their life doesn’t seem to be working for them living the…
Taming Your Inner Critic
How loud is your inner critic? Mine can be very persistent and loud. The inner critic is the part of your little girl that doesn’t feel lovable. “You’re aging too fast” “You have so many wrinkles” “You’re flabby” “You’re not smart enough” “No one will ever love you” Geez, give me a break! With the teens that I mentor, I tell them it’s the…
Why a Healing Retreat in Sedona Arizona?
The World’s Eminent Spiritual Destination Healing retreats, yoga training, sacred sites, and luxurious spa getaways – these are the buzz words for our time if you are a spiritual seeker. Sedona, a small but majestic red rock paradise is often first to be mentioned among the world’s eminent spiritual destinations. What exactly is Sedona’s lure?…
Enjoying Your Life Through Your Suffering, A Constant Inner Personal Retreat!
Does your suffering prevent you from enjoying the good things in your life? If so, it’s time for you to go inward into your own personal retreat. If we slip into our woundedness, we need to explore it, process through it, and move back into the joy of our life. We don’t won’t to wallow in the hurt. If we don’t process through it, it will be…
Learning How to Stay in Gratitude
I am always looking for ways to remind myself of the greatness in my life. I have so much to be grateful for. After I do my morning and evening practice, I try to always go to the space of gratitude. I have a list of what I am grateful for and it always makes my heart feel full when I read it. It makes me realize just how lucky I am. Sometimes…
Learn How to Keep Your Ego from High-Jacking You!
It’s easier to stay calm when you have small triggers, maybe from your co-workers, grocery store clerks or anyone actually outside of your core family. Have you noticed how bonkers you get when your partner, kids or parents do things that knock you off your center? Our core family is our biggest teacher! I am visiting my daughter and grandson…
Learn How To Be With Your Fears In A Spiritual Retreat
Everyone has different fears and everyone handles their fears differently. The first thing we have to do is look at what triggers our fears, then we can see how we behave when they come up. What are you afraid of? Someone close dying Health issues Your partner leaving you Being alone Not being successful Money issues Aging How people perceive you…
Learning How To Forgive
How do we find forgiveness in our hearts when someone has done something so horrific to us that it seems unforgivable? Forgiving is not condoning! Forgiving isn’t saying that the act they did is okay! Forgiving is realizing we are all human beings in our woundedness and we are all broken. The level of harm we cause to ourself and others is…
How Do You Deal With Loneliness?
How a Personal Retreat Can Help Get You Through Feelings of Loneliness Most of my clients, friends, people I know, including myself, have had moments of loneliness or feelings of separation. Living alone, spending a lot of time alone, breaking up with a partner, or a situation that triggers old wounding can bring up feelings of being all alone….
Is It Possible To Stay In The Romance Phase Of A Relationship?
Aah, the wonderful feeling of the romance phase of a relationship where you love everything about your partner and they can do no wrong. Where you are being the best part of who you are and you feel amazing. It is where we have the most joy and the biggest ability to forgive. Often couples talk about how it used to be so exciting in the beginning…
When Is It Time To Let Go Of A Relationship?
All of our relationships in our lives are for our learning, whether we stay in them or let them go. When do we know when it’s time to let one go? This is a very simple answer: when the person in the relationship is in resistance to looking at themselves, expressing how they feel, and doing their inner work. First, if someone isn’t doing internal…
Spiritual Guidance To Find Our Medicators and Why We Use Them
What is a medicator, and when do we use them? Sometimes we have a hard time figuring out what we use to numb/medicate our feelings and why we numb. This is why spiritual guidance is so important. We have blind spots that only someone on the outside can see. When we are in our woundedness, we can be blind to our situation. There are so many…
How to Reduce Your Suffering From Your Ego Mind
First of all, let’s look at the ego mind, which I also refer to as the inner child or our thoughts. Ego/inner child/thoughts are all the same. All of our suffering comes from our ego mind. If we are living in our higher self or adult self, we wouldn’t be suffering. I usually talk about the inner child because it is easier to understand than the…
Our Beautiful Mothers
My mother passed away when I was 26 years old. It was the most difficult time in my life. I remember thinking, what am I going to do without her, and who will have my back. Even though she was immersed in her own wounding, and had a hard time showing up for me, I knew she was always there. It is an empty space in me without her in my life and…
What Is Getting In The Way Of Your Happiness?
Happiness seems to be something we are all trying our best to achieve. One way or another we want to: Avoid pain and gain pleasure Avoid criticism and get praise Avoid disgrace and have fame Avoid loss and achieve gain Is it possible to be happy and never be sad? The problem is, life is a roller coaster ride of ups and downs. We can’t…
Are You Being An Adult In Your Relationships?
Let’s look at being an adult in your relationships. Whether it be in your partnership, friends, or with your children and how a personal retreat can change your outlooks and reactions to those around you. How do you behave when you get triggered? Do you shut down and walk away? Do you yell and spew your anger? Do you shut down completely and…
Spiritual Guidance In Conquering Your Fears!
I remember being in a group workshop when I was 32-years-old where our goal was to overcome our fears. When I enrolled in this powerful group workshop, I had no idea what I was in for. This was Spiritual Guidance on steroids! We started out with about 50 people and as the program continued, it dwindled down to 26 scared, intimated, and determined…
Spiritual Retreats In Sedona, Arizona – Which One Is Right For You?
Are you looking for the perfect retreat? Sedona is a great place to come for one because of the healing powers of the Red Rocks.It’s just a matter of picking a retreat that resonates with you. There are a lot of different spiritual retreats in Sedona, Arizona. Picking the one that is perfect for you could be challenging. First make a list of what…
Marital Counseling – Are You Married To A Man or A Little Boy?
When I am facilitating couples in marital counseling, what I notice the most is that I am really mentoring a little girl and a little boy. That is who shows up for the retreat. I work with clients on the old beliefs that their inner children created and are acting out. The first day of the couples counseling retreat is about seriously looking at…
Diminishing The Ego
There is a lot written about letting go of your ego, diminishing the ego, or shifting limiting beliefs. The ego is our thoughts, the inner child, as well as our limiting beliefs. It’s very true that for us to live more authentically, we will have to let go of our ego and shift our negative limited beliefs. The work we do through my individual…
Can You Get Spiritual Renewal Through Uncomfortable Situations?
Often when we think of spiritual renewal, we think of it in a religious manner. Spiritual renewal can actually be found in many ways. I look at it as a renewal of your spirit, an opening of your heart, or an awakening of your soul. Each of us has found ways, hopefully, to engage our spirit to live a more alive life! One of the best ways I have…
Guided Retreats: Are Your Thoughts Creating Your Reality?
What does your reality look like? Are you content with your job? Your relationships? And how is your health? When we look outside of our life, we will see what kind of thoughts we have inside our heads. I always say, if you are in your mind, watch out! You’re in enemy territory. How many times have you heard, either through books or movies, that…
Silent Meditation Retreat Versus Sedona Soul Retreats
Let’s take a look at the differences between a silent meditation retreat and my Sedona Soul Retreat. I think meditation and being silent is very important to our well-being. However, if you are looking to experience dramatic shifts in your limiting beliefs and have sustainable results, you should look into a one-on-one Soul Retreat. Silent…
Core Beliefs…Are Yours Positive or Negative?
In my last individual retreat, my client was having difficulties with trying to control her partner. She was always trying to get him to say or do something that would make her or the situation better. Even though she understood where the controlling pattern came from in her childhood, she always found herself acting in a controlling way. This…
Couple’s Retreat Boom
It’s amazing to me how more and more couples are truly interested in creating a more intimate, connected relationship with each other. And, it’s not just the women that have an interest in a deeper relationship but men as well. This is what has caused a real couple’s retreat boom over the past few years. I actually have more than a few men…
Sedona Soul Retrieval Retreats Are They For You?
At one time or another, we are all looking for an opportunity to get away and connect with ourselves. You might take a relaxing vacation, an intensive retreat, or simple soul retreats to get to know yourself better. Taking time away from our hectic schedules and the over-stimulated world is a great chance to reboot and go inward. The problems…
Spiritual Renewal! Showing Up For Others
How can we show up in the world and create an open, loving environment with the ones we love? If we are living in our fears, aka our little girl, it will be impossible for us to hold space or show up for others. If we are in fear, our little girl needs to” fix” the situation to make herself feel better. If we are trying to fix someone, we won’t…
Retreats for Couples
I just concluded a 2½ day intensive Sedona couples retreat. It was such an honor to be in the presence of such dedication and love between two people. The goal in a retreat for couples is to help them gain a better understanding of their own old beliefs that were created through their childhood wounding. Once they become fully aware of their old…
Triggers and Shutting Down
Are Your Triggers Shutting You Down? Have you noticed how open and loving you are until you get triggered? What about when a lot of triggers come in a row, what happens then? I hear my clients and friends say, “If they just wouldn’t have done that, I could stay open and love them.” The problem is that triggers aren’t going to stop. People aren’t…
Are You In An Abusive Relationship
It’s been said that love blinds people. It creates intoxicating feelings of attraction, and for someone with low self-esteem, this blinding effect can have devastating results. Being in abusive relationships can completely play havoc or destroy a person’s life. Usually abusive relationships start in the early years of dating as a teen and then…
Happy New Year!
Happy New Year Everyone, what an amazing year it has been for growth for myself and for my clients. When I look back it seems as though everything has been in hyper-drive. We live in a world where stimulation runs rampant. The day to day stuff can absorb us and leave us feeling disconnected and totally alone, if we let it. It is so important to…
